ok he was seperated at the time.
he is very good friend of my family, and was hesitant at first but we hit it off. we got to know eachother for 4 months in summer but we never did anything. we got very close, would hang out at his place alot and he would call me everyday and we would talk for hours. one sunday i was supposed to hangout with him and he told me that it wouldnt be a good idea because he and his ex want to try and work things out. i was so hurt because three nights beofre that he had come to my house at 3 am to tell me that he wants to be with me and he can see me raising his kids and us having a life together. My family foud out about us the next day and threatened to beat his ***. he works with all of my uncles and they were giving him the cold shoulder and mikeing him feels uncomfortable. I fell in love with him and i know he loved me to. what do you make of this. i still will see him at my family parties and stuff, what would you do. i miss him so much.
2007-01-16 06:30:20 · 6 answers · asked by Nikki C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah you guys are right. besides hurt me once shame on you, hurt me twice, shame on me. there wont be a second time. Damn he was hott!!
2007-01-16 06:42:29 · update #1
OMG excuse all the typos!
2007-01-16 06:43:48 · update #2
I guess i was just nieve, im only 23 and never been in a situation like this. Good, i cant imagine how much shittier i would feel if we hooked up.
2007-01-16 06:50:08 · update #3
Let him go. Remember that until he resolves the relationship with his wife, you will always be just the other woman. You will always come second. And, you will never be able to be open about the relationship that has become so important to you. You deserve more than that.
2007-01-16 06:48:05 · answer #1 · answered by Renee G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was probably best anyway that he call off the relationship, maybe something was said between him and his ex-wife that got him to thinking that there is still a good chance to work things out and be a family. It was really not a good idea for you in the first place to hang out with him, knowing that he was married, which constitutes into him cheating on his wife. You need someone that is single and looking that does not have any attachments, and does not sound as if you and him had anything major going on between you, which is good on your part. At least when you mother found out that she put a stop to that and I am sure that your family has enough problems of their own with out adding this to it. It is good that you see him at family parties and you need to continue to keep your distance. He probably won't try anything like this again for a long time. All those things he said to you might have been good at the time but now they don't mean anything because he is not divorced from his wife. There is a difference between seperation and divorce. You are still young and you don't need to add an affair to your problems. I am sure you did not want you mom to interfer but its a good thing she did or you would have a lot to explain and it would be on you.
2007-01-16 14:43:46 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to upset you and I know you don't want to hear this - but please stop seeing this guy. It's never a good idea to get involved with a married man. I know it's tempting when you hit it off and you always want to think you're the one that things will work out differently for. But the truth is, 9 times out of 10, they'll never leave their wife. A friend of mine is going through this same exact thing. The man has gone back to his wife SEVEN times now and to top that off she's now pregnant with his child. Seven times now she has gotten her heart broken. If the man really loves you, he'll divorce his wife. Until then, please for your sake, give your self some time to heal and find someone else. You deserve someone better than this!
2007-01-16 14:39:17 · answer #3 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have fallen for the man that you are his rebound. You should give him space to try to work it out with the semi x-wife. Family should always be considered. Most likely things will not and after that time if you still feel in love, then pursue it. But you must give him space with no strings attached.
2007-01-16 14:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by Tick E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Married is married (separated or not)
He sounds confused and messed up and needs to get back and make it work with his wife if he can.
This kind of stuff happens all the time. He was not in love with you hon - and stay away from married men in the future - for your own good.
2007-01-16 14:40:44 · answer #5 · answered by svmainus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he wouldnt make you feel this way if he loved you
2007-01-16 14:34:23 · answer #6 · answered by S C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋