Quick question for the ladies..?

Question

Would you date a man with 3 children? He is kind, gentle, loves his kids more than anything in the world...... Looks good well that is what his last girlfriend said. Only problem...... he has 3 kids. Love to get some input on this, he will love me for it. HAHA

Answer 1

You said he loves his kids more than anything in the world. That right their is a go ahead. There is not a thing in the world wrong with that. As long as he takes care of them. And looks good then hell yeah.

Answer 2

Well here are the Goods and Bad
Good: You already are mature enough to not want to play kid games like act your shoe size instead of your real age and I say that because I my self have 2 daughters and one on the way and kids really do make you go up and act very mature because you have to set a good and right example for them so that's a plus (Maturity)
Bad: How will you find a way to go out on dates with out your kids. unless you have a babysitter that does not mind ( which I must say really doesn't come a dime a dozen :) )
Good:You come with a Family and some women like a man who has kids already because maybe that cant have kids
Bad: What if the Lady you want something with wants to have kids and your done with making babies

Look just find some one else that has kids because at least they will understand if something happens vs a lady not saying ere all like this but a Lady that doesn't have kids cant relate and just think oh god is this what i having to look forward to if your guys relationship continues. so but anywho to answer you're question YES I would Date a man w/3 kids and this is only because I have kids my self that I would date a man w/ 3 kids other than that I wouldn't because I don't know if the Kids mother is still evolved and trust i am not trying to hear the "Baby Mama Drama" Good Luck!

Answer 3

Im currently dating a man with 3 children,youngest being 4. My experience with this has been difficult but worth it. I dont have any children so this was going to be a big change for me. Not many people can accept that and will not date a person with children. Its all individual based. Since he has shared custody with his ex-wife, I pretty much have to plan things around his time with the kids.
It helps that he makes time for "US" and it helps that he doesnt push the kids on me to hurry a relationship between me and them. We just take it slow and ease into it. Its not easy dating someone with children but it helps that both of us understand the situation and work with it instead of against it. If a woman loves him for HIM then she will accept that he has children. As I said,its individual based..some folks just cant deal with the fact that someone has children..they look at it as though its a burden or its going to hold them back from things. Its best that he let the woman know that he does have kids..but he also needs to know that he should not push a relationship on her with them..for this will only push her away.

Answer 4

That depends on what happened to the mother of the three kids. If the mother of the three kids is the same person, and no longer alive, then yes, I might. If the man has three different children by three different women, and has child support to pay for each, then no, I would not date him.

A man with three children who is in the dating market, but not doing his job as a parent or a former spouse would not be an available or attractive specimen to me. Men who prioritize, however, would be.

Answer 5

kids are not a problem as long as he is mature enough to handle them. If he is always putting the kids off on the new girl friend, that relationship will end very quickly, no girl friend wants too feel like the babysitter.

But the man also has to spend enough time with the woman, if his focus is always on the kids, she starts to feel like she's in it for nothing but watching on the sidelines.

women love kids, and if you find a gentle enough woman, she will adore the fact that you have kids, and she might even see it as an early head start to "jump start" the relationship; without her getting pregnant.

Hope I helped!

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Answer 6

If he is all you say... maybe. It all depends on the commitment issue. While casual dates are fine, women usually want to know if casual dating is going to turn into a relationship. If that happens, they want to know where they will stand in the family circle. If they get the short end of the stick, they don't like it. Basically, a woman looks at how he acts toward her around his kids and how he talks about them. If it is obvious that she will come in last place, she's not going to want to date the guy for fear she will want the relationship to go farther and it will turn into a bad relationship.

Answer 7

Yes, I would date a man with 3 kids as long as he was a good father.

Answer 8

I've done it. He had 3 boys - one older and one set of younger twin boys. We broke up eventually but had nothing to do with the kids. We had them with "us" for outings every other weekend though - they did not live with him, though I think that would not have mattered to me either as long as we did get a weekend or two a month to ourselves. That's the key. I think I enjoyed his children more than him - and in the end I realized that - and that is why I broke up with him - didn't want to get to close to the kiddos then hurt their hearts (and mine) when I broke up with their father - so it only lasted a short while.

Answer 9

I married a man with a child and have been her stepmom for four years now, and I did that at 17!

Of course, you just have to find the right lady. Preferably a woman who already has kids or can't have kids of her own.

Answer 10

At this point in my life no.I'm 25 w/ two young children and I just don't think it would work out,not to mention I am in a long term relationship.Maybe later in life I would when all the children were adults w/ life of their own?!I don't want to deal w/ any baby mama drama!!