Will women ever learn when to SHUT UP?

Question

Maybe I am sounds a little rude here, but this is something that I really can't help but ask about. I am constantly seeing women come on here and ask about their boyfriends and ex boyfriends. "my ex boyfriend wants to be with me again, but he is always mean to me, should I got out with him".

I can't believe some of the questions I see on here. I just saw a question from a girl saying that men are the one's who always ruin relationships because they don't know how to love. I'm sure lot's of men ruin relationships, but I often wonder if some relationships get ruined because men get sick of listening to their girlfriend or wife complaing about every god damn thing on the planet.

I asked my best friend (who is a woman) for some advice about how to help me boyfriend cope with the death of his sister. He has become very depressed about it so I needed some advice. You know what she said? she told me to dump him ... I couldn't believe it.

Does anyone else ever notice this?

And by the way I am a woman, who is complaining about women who never stop complaining.

Answer 1

The other thing that I've noticed, whereas the women who ask questions here are concerned, is that most of them aren't looking to hear any sort of truthful answers. They just want someone agree with them. Most everyone replying could be blasting her for her question, and rightfully so, but they'll tend to pick the person who lamely agrees with them for Best Answer, and then reply with a "You are so right". This doesn't apply to you, however.

But no, you aren't mistaken. So many of these girls/women seem to be self-centered and self-serving. A relationship is about two people, yet they act as though it's all about them and what they get out of it and what is given them. The first thing they should do is consider whether or not they would want to be treated the way they choose to treat the guy they are with before they do anything. But they tend not to.

And I agree with Snow Bunny. I'm sick of the women I've been with discussing all aspects of the relationship we have with other people. Nothing seems sacred or too intimate to them to tell everyone else about. And they also tend to talk to everyone else about a 'problem' they feel they are having in the relationship before or instead of talking to the guy. Her relationship is with him, so talk to him about it.

Answer 2

Although I agree with you that it gets tiresome, I just pass on by those questions. I think right after school gets out there are a lot of very young girls on here asking those questions. The ones that bother me more are all of the "could I be pregnant" questions. How am I supposed to know! And I'm old enough to know not to take that kind of advice from this sort of forum.

Answer 3

You are right some women are very self-centered and don't even notice things right around them. There are a lot of women out there looking for the perfact relationship, I don't think it'll happen unless they can marry themselves. Good Luck with that friend of yours and I'm sorry to hear about your boyfriends sister.

Answer 4

I notice that a lot of girls talk about they're relationship and they just don't get that they have a better chance of getting longer lives when they get a great boyfriend instead of an (eventually) abusive boyfriend. My friend (unfortunately doesn't get it) where she has one baby by two different guys. her reputation is now that she is a sexual mark for mexican druggies to get her laid and pregnant next time she's open to a relationship. Both of her boyfriends have been mexican 9which i can live with) and Druggies (which i cannot live with, so i told her that we can't be friends anymore)...

Answer 5

I think alot of the questions that are being asked about ex boyfriend or does this guy want me are being asked by young girls not women.You should be able to tell just by the context of the question the maturity level of the person asking,and yes I do find them annoying,but I just skip over them!

Answer 6

Most of the time, we women ask questions we already know the answer to. By asking someone else, we get our own thoughts validated. If I make the wrong decision, it's on me. If I ask you for advice, and take it...then I can lay some of the blame on you - in my mind anyway. Bottom line, life is full of choices that you have to make and having someone tell you it's right or wrong won't make the consequences any easier.

Answer 7

Some book I read somewhere, said the #1 cause of breakup for men is that women give out too much personal information to their family and friends.

Guys view this like we women view cheating.

Answer 8

personaly I believe that women cause way more than half the problems the exist in relationships

dont try to change men, dont try to run their lives, try to make the two lives come together, and if it dont work, say goodby

if you date someone who is a problem, and you know it, then you caused the problem.

and your GF sounds like a BIT h

respect is a 2 way street

Answer 9

First of all place all of us Woman into one category is wrong of you.
I get accused of being a Liberal or a Democrat, but never a whinnier, but I do agree there are a lot of people on here asking stupid questions when it comes relationships.

Answer 10

I understand completely.
I just saw a question 'Ever date a momma's boy?'
Hows that for disrespect toward the man?
Of course one of the best indicators of a good man is if he treats his mother well. (But I suspect a 'good woman' would realize this)
They contnue to complain, or blame the spouse for their cheating. wtf???
The thing is they are not happy with themselves so thus will never be happy with the man.
Until they deal with internal issues they will never fix their issues with others.
It is sad but we do it to ourselves by setting unrealistic standards.