It is a guy that i actually know too, i guess you could say it is unrequited love. I always had a crush on him, but he had a gf when i met my bf. Now i have been with my bf for almost 4 yrs, and love him very much and the other guy is single. I am still very good friends with the other guy and he recently told me he is in love with me, he is very good looking, so sometimes when i am with my bf (who is also very good looking) i fantasize about being with the other guy. I have no desire to leave my bf, i am very happy, we live together and things are great. But i cant get the thoughts out of my head! Can anyone relate? or am i just a sick person?
2007-01-16 06:07:40 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oops im sorry, i meant i fantasize about him in bed! not as in a relationship with him, strictly sexually. Please no more bible verse either, im WAYYYY past holiness in terms of sex
2007-01-16 06:16:18 · update #1
There is nothing wrong with you or your fantasizing. hell as life goes on we all fantasize about other ppl while we are making love to someone else. As long as you don't act on it I see no reason to stop. Now if you get to a point where you want to do it with him or you start fantasizing about it when your not having sex.....that's a different story. BTW, looks aren't everything so if it's just his good looks you fantasize on, you'll be OK with the current bf.
2007-01-16 06:22:31 · answer #1 · answered by justwoderin 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You do not fantasize about this guy. He is real and you both love each other although I do not think you are in love. You are very good friends. I think you are very vulnerable. The one thing you can do is to love your boyfriend more and really show him that you are in love with him. Knock his socks off. Thoughts in your head will change with a different focus,
2007-01-16 06:18:58 · answer #2 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you aren't a sickO! It's like a test,Temptation,lust.I would try to maybe not be alone with this guy.How can he be in love with you when he just broke up with his chick??Sounds to me he's on the rebound & he knows you have a crush on him,he's using that to his advantage.I would distance myself from him...you will eventually get caught,you will say his name.Everyone fantasizes,it's human nature.If u really love your man you will keep it only a fantasy.GoodLuck hope this helps.
2007-01-16 06:19:31 · answer #3 · answered by alientwilight21 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, you are not sick. you are very normal.
You have been with the same person 4 years and it gets stale and fantasizing about someone new makes you feel things you have not felt in a long time.
It's okay to have a fantasy, as long as it does not interfere with your relationship.
Tell the guy, "I'm flattered that you love me, but I love my boyfriend."
Trust me, fantasies never live up to the hype in the real world.
2007-01-16 06:13:45 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥ Nikki ♥♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you're ready to move on.
I've been with my husband for 14 years and have never wanted to be with another man. I've fantasized about other men in terms of sex, but not really wanting to be with them or thinking about them in times other than when I'm all by my self, if you know what I mean.
2007-01-16 06:12:02 · answer #5 · answered by Jilli Bean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's going to be a problem between you and your boyfriend, if it isn't already. You need to decide whether you are committed to your boyfriend enough to let the other guy go. One or the other needs to not be in your life. Your relationship won't survive you continuing to have a crush on somebody else.
2007-01-16 06:12:47 · answer #6 · answered by John D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the wires in his ideas are all tousled, you ought to bypass away him at once! I, as a guy won't be able to think of the different guy doing my female with me. inspite of the reality that interior the comparable time i could fairly % to do my female with yet another female on the comparable time =D. yet with another dude, that may not manful!
2016-10-31 06:50:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible says that through Christ we should bring discipline and control to our thought-life. Our thoughts should not control us, but we should rule over our thoughts. "Cast down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ" (2 Cor. 10:5). Sexual fantasizing is a symptom of lust and is not pleasing to God. It stimulates and promotes sexual anxiety, which can lead to impure behavior and fornication. Get your mind out of the gutter and discipline your thoughts on good, and holy things.
"But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart" (Matt. 5:28). (Read Mark 7:21-23, Eph. 4:8.)
2007-01-16 06:11:24 · answer #8 · answered by bbluckylove 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Heck no!!!!! Ever hear of Fabio?? My guy always says that he only thinks of me, I know that is a line of crap. To keep your relationship going u have to dream sometimes.
2007-01-16 06:12:43 · answer #9 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i dont know
if that was me and i feel like that
it because i want to have sex with the person
bottom line and if that guy is smoove enough
he will get the panties
2007-01-16 06:11:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋