I saw a question posted by another woman and her situation seemed to similar to mine. Almost two years ago I signed guardianship of my then almost 2 year old son to my dad and his wife. At the time I was suffering from Depression and quit my job on a whim! I was having trouble financially. My parents said that if SRS were to find out I was without work they would take him and none of us would get to see him. They offered me to sign guardianship (with a lawyer) and assured me that I could see him whenever I wanted and they would give him back as soon as I was on my feet again. That was almost two years ago. I have my son at home with me every day...every weekend. The only thing I dont get is him for overnight. I pick him up the time he wakes up and take him back before bedtime. Doesnt make sense to me. They were never able to have children together because my dad cant have more kids, so I understand that theyve become attached. I just want my son back. I love him and the times I miss
2007-01-16 06:03:58 · 9 answers · asked by Carey 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I've talked and talked with them about it...The last lawyer I spoke to thought he could help, but the costs are enourmous. I have worked with special needs children for almost 2 years and have been buying this house for over 3 yrs. I have since had another son who just turned 1 and the lawyer thought that that might be held against me becuase I am not married. However I have a stable home, income and most of all am a great mom who adores my children!! I am absolutely getting a lawyer on the phone and figure out how to pay for this. Thanks to all of you for your in put...i tend to feel really alone and ashamed about this, I tend to keep this to myself. I really apreciate it!!!
2007-01-16 06:29:10 · update #1
I figured I would get at least a few negative answers on here...but I never imagined the cruelty. I did what I thought at the time was best for my son. I DID NOT sign over my parental rights....just temp guardianship. My mistake was not specifiying a time limit. etc etc. I used to be super judgemental myself..until I lived in the shoes of those I judge. Thank you. (I promise I'll stop adding to this)
2007-01-16 06:45:45 · update #2
Got to get a lawyer on the phone again, they're the only ones that can help you here. I read a post in the pregnancy section once a while ago about someone going to sign off guardianship and I warned her too that this can happen. It's more common then you think when it comes to guardianship. BTW if SRS found out that you weren't working it's because someone told them **cough** your parents! As long as you have a supportive family unit, including the aid of your parents and/or friends and other family you wouldn't have to worry about losing him. If they were really interested in your well being they would have had you move in with them while you raised your son.
2007-01-16 06:21:01 · answer #1 · answered by Gig 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your son is 14, i'm wondering why you would suppose he's incapable of caring for such a lot of his every day demands? And why are not able to he spend time along with his father to support him out the high-quality he can? To be there for greater than 2 lousey hours of visitation a month? And why is is supervised? Is your son an fool, or do you simply deal with him like one? I will agree that in case your son's custodial dwelling was once along with his father, he demands to reside with healthful mother and father who can provid him with sizzling foods, be certain he will get relaxation, and so forth; nonetheless, i do not consider 2 hours a month, and supervised. I suppose your son must have the choice to seek advice from his father whilst he'd care to do so. You are not able to drive your son to get at the side of your husband. Apparently, your son feels your husband has been seeking to get among him and his father, for some thing rationale. I'm certain your husband hasn't performed some thing improper.... or possibly he does say bad matters? I'm now not there, i have no idea. If your husband is involved approximately the connection together with your son the high-quality factor he can do is to take the prime avenue, make an apology in your son for some thing he could have performed to dissatisfied him and to permit him recognise that he's going to paintings in the direction of a optimistic courting in case your son could agree. that is the high-quality he can do. Your husband is the grownup on this challenge and as such, demands to say grownup conduct. Let your son see his father for greater than 2 crappy hours a month!
2016-09-08 00:17:36 · answer #2 · answered by siegers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what is written in the legal documents about you taking him back? I mean, is it legally wrong if you just don't bring him back to them?
Like you've said, your dad and stepmom have gotten attached to him (and so has your son) , they are probably just afraid that they won't get to see him again. Try to see where they are coming from and deal with that. This will be less stressful and confrontational then if you get lawyers involved. Start by suggesting a compromise, such as the child sleeps at your place Sunday through Thursday nights and at their place on Friday and Saturday nights, and they can have him on Wednesday from 5-7 pm. Or, the child sleeps at your place every evening, but they get visitation with him all day Saturday.
2007-01-16 06:26:54 · answer #3 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
After signing guardianship over, the only thing to help you is a lawyer. YOu'll just have to go with that.
2007-01-16 06:43:41 · answer #4 · answered by chicchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd call an attorney and have them look at the papers you signed. There could be a clause in there keeping you from him. In that case you'll need the attorney to fight for you. Check out an attorney who specializes in family court matters.
Also, have you tried talking to your parents? Show them that you are responsible - your job and your place are great starters. Tell them you miss your baby and you appreciate all they've done for him and you. But, that he is your son and it's time for him to come home. They can see him and take him to the zoo or a movie...and you know this is hard for them as they've built a special bond. But, stand your ground!
2007-01-16 06:13:29 · answer #5 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you had this talk with your dad? You could talk to a lawyer and see what he says about it. Other than that i dont know what to tell ya.
2007-01-16 06:10:27 · answer #6 · answered by anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You signed away your parental rights to your child - END OF STORY!
Don't be a parent "when you feel like it."
You should be a full time parent from the time your child is born until the day you die. But you signed that responsibility away - FOREVER!
Honor the contract that you signed.
2007-01-16 06:36:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe they just want to be in control and as long as they have custody, they have control. Keep getting him like you are and get a lawyer and quick. Good luck girl!
2007-01-16 06:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
u can get him anytime. fight for your son.
2007-01-16 06:09:44 · answer #9 · answered by Miki 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋