we both want to get married but i want her blessing i haven,t talk to his mom yet and iknow how women are about their sons and she think he to young or we to young to get married need help
2007-01-16 06:02:43 · 13 answers · asked by votiveeh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Does she know yet? I would suggest going with your fiance and telling her together. Her reaction should be an indicator. Of course we know sometimes women can hide their true feelings really well. Basically, it's great that you want to know she's in favor of the wedding, but you really can't know for sure. Sometimes people back away when we try to delve like that.
I think you'll know in time, and what matters most is that you and your man love each other enough to make this commitment.
2007-01-16 08:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ma'am, the best thing that you should do is talk to your fiance and have ALL of your parents sit down and talk about the marriage. You never mentioned how old you were, but I am going to say, the younger you are, the more some parents may not be accepting.
If you really want to be married though, in the end it is up to your fiance and you. Either both families adapt to the changes or they dont- and you cannot control that. Once a persons is set in their ways it is very hard to change them.
Good luck honey!!! Hey- a trick I did (besides taking care of my fiance extremely well) is that I fixed her a HUGE container of treats one Christmas and sent them with a homemade letter of sorts telling her just how much i really enjoy being a part of their family. (with more words).
Treats would work for me! Honestly though, if i saw my own son was very happy, he was being well taken care of, and they were both respectful of each other, then i would approve it it wholeheartedly. Now if she wasnt doing anything for herself, or being a gold digger or there wasno mutual respect going on i would tell them.
But in the end it wouldnt be up to me- it would be up to them. I am not obligated to like her, i would only be obligated to love my grandkids...
2007-01-16 08:48:39 · answer #2 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for the reason that your mom doesn't seem able to understand or settle for the way you experience....discover yet another man or woman pal or perchance one in all her pals that would want to properly have the ability to educate her the mistakes of her methods. Is it an selection that you'll stay along with your father or others....Write you mom a coronary heart felt letter and ask her to fulfill you 0.5 way on a number of those topics..And regrettably, only because we are the mother and father...does no longer mean we continually make the perfect alternatives.
2016-11-24 21:28:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you need to talk to his mom? isn't he supposed to be doing that? this is what we do (based on our culture) - the guy proposes to a girl, then the guy talks to his parents to let them know about their plans of getting married (basically asking for blessings), then after that, the guy and his parents will go to the girl's house to talk to her parents and ask for blessings. thats it.
you dont have to complicate things. by the way, how old are you guys (if you dont mind)? are you guys really too young to get married?
if you really wanna talk to his mom, talk to her, take your fiance with you so both of you can explain your side.
goodluck!
2007-01-16 07:23:12 · answer #4 · answered by Chelsea's Momi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are never going to get the warmth and good wishes you want from her. Even if she says she gives her blessing you will walk away with the feeling that she wasnt really genuine about it.
2007-01-16 10:57:07 · answer #5 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to lunch and talk about everything you want. I am going to do that with my bfs mom before I propose.
2007-01-16 06:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by aimeelopez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your going to have her in your life for the rest of your life, if you marry him. you don't want her to see you as a weak person so grow some balls and talk to her. my mother in law respects me for the fact that I don't sugar coat it at all
2007-01-16 06:12:36 · answer #7 · answered by Jenny Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her that you can take care of her son just as good as she can
2007-01-16 06:10:07 · answer #8 · answered by Wondering 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you dont need her approval. if you two love and respect each other you are blessed by the universe.
2007-01-16 06:05:59 · answer #9 · answered by sunshinesmoothoperator 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take her out to lunch.
2007-01-16 06:11:01 · answer #10 · answered by Captain Jack 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋