2007-01-16 05:43:16 · 71 answers · asked by Miriam B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Once trust is lost in a relationship it's very hard to get it back!!! It's a question that only you can answer. Only you know if you could ever trust him again and if he's willing to work at gaining your trust back! I wish you luck with your decision!
2007-01-16 08:12:11 · answer #1 · answered by sickoflies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes always do not be afraid of being alone it takes literally one month to get over someone you have been with for a Long time. If they cheat it means they don't care enough about you to think before they at. Why should you give them the benefit of a second though on this. I left my ex immediately after I found out she cheated and we were together for 4 years. Well actually I kicked her out. but the fact is the same Don't be afraid be confident that the other half doesn't care as much as they let on. My ex came back 3 times to try to get me to stay with her. It was hard but I stuck to my guns and I now have alot more money, more friends, and more fun. You can't ask for better than that.
Good luck.
2007-01-16 05:49:21 · answer #2 · answered by freaky7up 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married for 5 years to a wonderful man. In a bad lapse of judgement he decided to cheat on me one time. He apologized and everything. I divorced him anyway. Just because he had never cheated before and this was his first cheating offense with me does not make him trustworthy. We are still friends but that is as far as I want to be with him in relationship. You heard the expression, "Once a cheat always a cheat?" I am not sure if it is true but I decided not to take any chances. If you can forgive him and love him maybe YOU can give it another try but personally I wouldn't be able to. Good luck with whatever you decide.
2007-01-16 05:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by liz g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bounce him. Once somebody cheats it makes it just that much easier to cheat again. I know couples who have stayed together after one of them cheated and they are always having the worst fights because their is no trust (which their can never truly be again) and everything is suspect. It's best to make a clean break and start over. In addition, how much do you think he really loves you if could go off and sleep with someone else???
2007-01-16 05:47:16 · answer #4 · answered by Blind Sighted 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From my experience, and it is vast on this subject, the answer is yes. It will save you a lot of heart ache. For once your trust is violated it will never be the same. You will always wonder what is he doing and with whom. Without trust you can never have a productive relationship with this person. I wish that you could stay with your partner, and perhaps with time and counseling you might be able to, but in my relationship that I had both myself and my girlfriend cheated and after three years of supposed monogamy there was still doubt. So I put it to you is the relationship worth the trouble and heart ache?
2007-01-16 05:52:50 · answer #5 · answered by mortonrma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really up to you. OK he cheated but was it a one time thing and if it was, do you think that because you caught him he will stop at that once and continue to love you and the biggest question of all is will you trust him after this.
Some people make mistakes without real intention due to a flair up of emotions in a given situation. It can happen to the best of us (not me) but there is a thing of forgive and forget. If you think he'll not do it again, keep him you already know each other and it's a waste to stop now.
2007-01-16 05:51:40 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. More than likely, he'll continue to cheat. There's a slim chance that he won't, but highly doubtful. You should love yourself more than this and get out. There are tons of fish in the sea and you might be feeling as if you've spent eons with this one guy already-but trust me-it will definitely feel like it after he's cheated on you for the 3rd or 4th time. You will find somebody else that's better for you, I promise. :)
2007-01-16 05:47:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's something you have to decide. If you love him and are willing to accept his apologies, then you can stay with him. But be prepared for the possibility he will do it again. And be prepared to not be able to trust him for a long time.
Without knowing your circumstances, it's hard for an outsider to really give a yes or no answer. How long have you been together? What were the circumstances of his infidelity? Who was the other woman? You have to look at these things and decide if you think they make him likely to do it again and whether you could forgive him and move forward.
2007-01-16 05:50:04 · answer #8 · answered by Justin H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was on a similar situation before. The first time that my boyfriend cheated on me, I forgave him and took him back. Then after 3 months, he did it again. I have realized one thing: that the cycle never stops. Soon after, I dumped him. So before your boyfriend gets another chance to cheat on you again, pack your bags and say goodbye. There are still plenty of fish in the ocean. You deserve someone better.
Good Luck!
2007-01-16 05:56:48 · answer #9 · answered by Asian Cutie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends. In what way did he cheat? Did he actually have sex with another? Or did he just receive oral? Did you satisfy him sexually? Did he have any logical reason to do it? If you personally cannot live with the fact that this has happened, then you should break up. But, if you can forgive then stay with him. Just decide what you feel is right and not what your friends are telling you.
2007-01-16 05:50:22 · answer #10 · answered by DARKGREYMOOSE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your choice on what you do. But from my experience when a person cheats on you that is going to completely break the trust bond between the two of you. in a good quality and strong relationship Trust should be the base of it. good luck and best wishes
2007-01-16 05:48:16 · answer #11 · answered by mommy 2k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋