is it weird that my boyfrield just wants to get out alone and go to a club. he has never cheated and says that he never would, he just needs some alone time and wants to have some fun. i'm not really interested in going to a club. should i be upset that he wants to go? i've never been to a club before, what exactly goes on there?
2007-01-16 05:34:39 · 19 answers · asked by cantthinkofauseridsohereitis 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, it's not wierd. It's normal and healthy. Take that time to do something fun with your girls. And if you're a girlfriend that gives him some space, proving that you trust him, then you'll be the girlfriend he wants to keep around. Nothing sends a guy running faster then when you smother him and make him feel trapped. If he's choosing to come home to you then it's because he wants to.
2007-01-16 05:39:10 · answer #1 · answered by Jilli Bean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of guys just want some alone time. maybe clubs are were he feels the best. maybe he is cheating.... nobody but you would really know that. well him to obviously. Has he ALWAYS acted like that or is it something new? Does he seem like hes trying to push you away? I am all for believing and trusting in your partners but these days there are a lot of untrustworthy people. If you truly believe that he would NEVER even thinking about cheating on you then I doubt there is anything to worry about. As to say what goes on at clubs, I have never been so I can't tell ya from experience. but from stories I have heard, some people drink, some people just go to watch the drunk people, some people just go to talk and have fun. Some people (girls and guys) go to pick up the opposite (or I guess the same sex at times) and take them back home. Its more or less do whatever you want.
2007-01-16 05:43:18 · answer #2 · answered by SpaZz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he want to go out with the boys? Or alone? Going our with the guys is normal. Clubs are dancing and drinking and flirting. If you do end up together forever, you will always need time apart, that way, you have time to miss each other. If you trust him, there shouldn't be an issue. If you don't trust him, then you are asking the wrong question.
2007-01-16 05:48:55 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean when you say "alone"? Does this mean he goes out with his friends (and not with you), or does this mean he goes out to the club all by himself?
If he is going out for a boys night out, I would not worry about it. He is just having some fun with the guys. However, if he is going to a club all alone to drink, dance, etc., then I think you may have a problem brewing...that is not normal.
2007-01-16 05:41:04 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Smooth 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not at all odd a guy would want to not spend every moment of free time with his significant other. I don't know what goes on at the club(s) he prefers but generally there is drinking, perhaps live or recorded music, perhaps dancing, maybe pool tables and/or darts, socializing and the like.
Why not ask him to take you one time so you can see for yourself and then have a clear idea in your mind of where he is and what he does when he's on a night out to himself.
2007-01-16 05:43:17 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are only 2 reasons for him to go to a club alone - one is to see an band that he's a really big fan of (and you would probably be able to check that out) or two; looking for booty. Where there's smoke there's fire, hon.
2007-01-16 05:46:23 · answer #6 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
clubs are never a good thing in my opinion...too much dancing, intimate setting, hands everywhere, etc...im not saying anything about ur bf because i dont know him or your situation. my fiance goes out by himself sometimes too just to get some alone time because we do have times when we have TOO much together time. he'll go out for a drive, go wash his truck, go out with his dog and take him for a run. if he does go out, like to a bar or something, its always with his buddies or hes at his best friend's house. its a matter of trust. i know we all question some of the things that our significant others do but we need to simply let go of that insecurity and just trust wholly or not at all. if we stress, its just going to drive both of yall crazy and lead to ur demise.
ultimately, if you feel uncomfortable with it, tell him. you cant tell him no but you can let him know how you feel. how you react and how he reacts is the true test of your relationship. remember trust wholly or not at all. theres no in between.
good luck and God bless!
2007-01-16 05:41:03 · answer #7 · answered by Love my Family <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't blow this out of proportion. he needs a little time to himself and you should too. there is nothing wrong with him going to a club. especially if he is telling you up front. he isn't hiding anything. people just dance and hang out. there is no point in worrying.
2007-01-16 05:43:55 · answer #8 · answered by Nicki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I would say HELL NO() Im a guy and if I said that I was definitely going to cheat.
2007-01-16 05:39:11 · answer #9 · answered by Saint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys night out for me is poker at a buddies place or hunting or golf. i only go to clubs if im chasing tale.
2007-01-16 05:38:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋