Im pregant by my ex boyfriend? How do i tell him?

Question

Im pregant by my ex boyfriend we have nothing to do with each other. we dont even talk anymore. We been broken up 4 about 3 months now. How do i tell him that im pregant. And i have a boyfriend now

Answer 1

First you should be 100% sure he is the father he will probably ask you for a paternity test when the baby is born, you can take him to the court and they will make you help you with evbeytrhing for the pregnancy however if the paternity test shows is not his you have to pay him everything back, you should call him up and tell his you have so and so months of pregnancy and you should make him remember you guys were together during that time!

Answer 2

First, make sure your family and current boyfriend know, and know who the father is, and that you haven't yet told the father. Also talk to your doctor - they've seen these scenarios before.

Then, call the ex, and arrange to meet him in a public place. Make sure one of your calm, adult relatives or friends goes with you. They can wait in a car in the parking lot, or such while you talk to your ex. But make sure they're close enough to see you or to hear you. Your ex may take the news well, and acknowledge his paternity. But he may not, so it's best to make sure that you and the baby are safe.

Bring along copies (not originals) of information that a normal father-to-be would be interested in. Ultrasound pictures and such. (But if there's any doubt about safety, make sure that there is no private information, such as hospital name.)

Your ex will probably be overwhelmed, and even if he takes it well, will need some time to deal with the idea of fatherhood. (You've had a head start) Don't get into the heavy stuff at this meeting if you think he'll be willing to meet again.

At another meeting, you can talk about his family medical history, visitation, child support and all of that. It may be that that will have to wait until after the birth, and with the help of the legal system.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

If you are sure that it belongs to your x, and a lab generated paternity test once the baby is born will confirm this for you, the first step I would suggest is to tell your current boyfriend.

Most men appreciate a direct, factual and honest approach. So with the current boyfiend, let him know as soon as possible that you have something you have to tell him. For the level of your relationship add to the beggining of the conversation affirmations of the level. For example "Boyfriend, you know I like you very much & I'm hopeful that my being honest with you know will help us grow together as a couple..... I'm sure that I'm pregnant from ___________." Be prepared to answer his questions. Give the answers in an honest and open tone.

Do the best you can to get back in contact with the previous boyfriend. Let him know in the same matter of fact way, without accusation. This will give him the opportunity to make a decision as to the level of participation in the child's life that he wants to have. This gives you the chance to establish the pattern to become the standard for your authority in your baby's life.

Not to put too fine a point on it, however, if the father chooses not to help you then he chooses not to have contact with his child.

Answer 5

Does ur new bf know about this. Does he plan on helping u with the baby once it is born??? If so also tell him that you feel the need to tell ur ex that he's going to be a dad. He might tell you that it's not his and if so just walk away without saying another word. ANd if u want child support take him to court, if not at least u told him and have the new guy just sign the BC! Its going to be better for you knowing that u told him and easier for you to move on once u have! and if he new bf is going to be there N be happy about it and everything, make a new life with him as well and for get about the EX!

Answer 6

First of all make sure it belongs to the ex and not the current. Just count back to the time it was concieved. If its his then just tell him that you both have moved on with other people but you have something to tell him thats very important. That you have found out your pregnant and thought he should know since he is the father. Since you have been broken up for a while, he may try to say its not his. Men tend to do that alot.

Answer 7

Does your new boyfriend know that you are and it is someone Else's? Then you should call your ex and tell him we need to talk in person and that you don't want him back but i need to speak to you alone and face to face. Tell him that you are pregnant and it is his and that he can be apart of the baby's life if he wants and onces it is born we will do DNA to easy your mind that it is yours and he will have to anyway by law to get child support or medical card because you are not married to him. They do DNA if you are not married to the father to rule if he is or not the father to get child support thru the court it is a law for DNA testing I would tell him that. Once DNA is done they will go after him for child support for you! Hope this help. If he does not want to be a part of this baby's life for some reason or does not want to deal with you, you might want to see where you new boyfriend stands in this and how he would feel filling in as a role dad to the baby.

Answer 8

You just suck it up and tell him. Remember this isn't only your fault. Don't be surprised if he gets angry. I suggest you just tell him and then give him a couple weeks to deal with his feelings before you start bringing up things like child support and visitation. Remember that even though you 2 broke up and have had nothing to do with each other for the past 3 months, this is still his child and if he wants to be involved, you need to allow him to do that as much as possible. Good Luck and I hope new guy wants to stick around!

Answer 9

I don't know how long you have had this new boyfriend but you need to make sure you know he isn't the father. Talk with him about it and if he loves you he will help you. If you want the ex to know, which is the right thing then you and if he is someone you want to be in your baby's life then you call him up and tell him you need to talk. If he is someone who is worthless and will be a dead beat dad then in my opinion you shouldn't even bother telling him. You will have trouble the rest of your life.

Answer 10

How is simple. Just tell him and he will have to help you support that child. Which means thet you will have to go through child suport recovery to file the necessary paper work that make this guy pay you child support for the child.

You can't be not thinking about the future here and this baby. You have to do what is right for that baby regardless about what it will do to him financially...he should of that about that before he had sex with you and now this will feel much better for him.
So thats the breaks, read them and weep./