My boyfriend is constantly teasing me. From the silliest things to saying that he is going to an ex house or having hott girls over....he claims he is only joking and that really is not doing these things. . he says he just wants to know my reaction and how i would take it... i try to be cool about it because i believe he is joking... but its starting to get old and i'm not sure what to do. Am i just over-reacting?
2007-01-16 05:21:34 · 21 answers · asked by funbrwn_i_grl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's a jerk.
I can only imagine his "jokes" when you're 8 months pregnant and feeling awful. I bet he'd be a joy then, huh? He's not joking, he's purposefully trying to manipulate your feelings and upset you for his own twisted enjoyment.
Find a guy who makes you happy, rather than pokes at you for a "reaction."
2007-01-16 05:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have a fit if my guy joked with methat way! He shouldnt have to "test" you by saying these things and its disrespectful to say those things to you, even in a joking manner. Its very immature to make those comments, especially if he knows it bothers you. I think I'm the biggest baby I know at the age of 21, and I know it would get under my skin, so I dont think you;re over reacting. Just tell him its childish to say such things and yuo dont like it when he jokes like that. be prepared for him to tease you for 'taking it too seriously" or tell you that "you cant take a joke." just get your point across and if he keeps being a jerk, then he isnt concerned for your feelings and doesnt respect you
2007-01-16 13:28:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. You are entitled to your feelings! Although a little teasing and joking around is good in a relationship, if your boyfriend is taking it to an extreme that makes you feel bad then it needs to end. It sounds to me as if he is very insecure with himself and your commitment to him. That would explain why he feels the need to constantly force you into a state of jealousy. Sit him down and tell him how you feel about him, and about the situation. And please make sure you do it before something small turns into a much bigger issue!
2007-01-16 13:28:14 · answer #3 · answered by Legolas' Lover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is rude of him to joke that way. I had a feeling that my daughters dad was cheating on me and I told him and he told me that I was just being paranoid...so I let it go, only to find out later that he was sleeping with my best friend.
If a MAN loves you, he will respect you and stand by you no matter what. I'd leave my boyfriend if he ever treated me that way after telling him I didn't like his doing or saying those things.
2007-01-16 13:29:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never, ever walk around on eggshells worrying that something that needs to be said to someone you care about will drive them away.
What your boyfriend is doing is abuse in its infant stage. You need to tell him, in no uncertain terms, that you don't find what he is doing funny, that people who care about each other don't set traps or make "tests" for each other, and that if he continues to behave like this, you will dump him. And then follow through if necessary.
You may be afraid that if you talk to him like this, it will drive him away. Well, if it does, is that a bad thing? He is clearly disrespecting your feelings. If he dumps you because you demand that your feelings be respected, what does that say about him?
Tell him how you feel and what your limits are, and see where it goes from there.
Good luck.
2007-01-16 13:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by Karin C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not over-reacting. you've got to be true to how you feel. call him out. let him know that is't getting old. jab back at him when he jabs at you. he kind of sounds like a dork. i mean, what is he trying to tell you that you are not hott? i think you should make him feel stupid. but you can't get upset when you are calling him out. you have to keep it light and funny, but let him see how stupid he is. anyway, don't worry, cause the way this sounds, he is probably just a stepping stone on your staircase to a happy life long relationship with the man you're going to marry,.
2007-01-16 13:27:24 · answer #6 · answered by tallpaulmwp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend sounds like he loves the extra attention he gets from your reactions. Tell him that you do not appreciate the jokes and will have to move on unless he shows some respect.
2007-01-16 13:26:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not being too sensitive. I think your boyfriends sense of humor is childish. Do the same to him and see how he likes it. Tell him that his jokes are not funny and you would appreciate if he stopped doing this. Do not let him talk you out of your views by him making you feel you are being too sensitive. It is disrespectful of him to toy with your feelings in this way.. He probably gets flattered to see if you get jealous.
2007-01-16 13:26:51 · answer #8 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can either a) talk to him and tell him how old it is, and how tired you are of his "jokes" OR b) tell him you have hot guys over when he's out, or that you are going to your ex's house.
You are not being sensitive. I would have my guy saying things like that... there's joking, and there is being a jerk.... Its just not fair to you
2007-01-16 13:27:36 · answer #9 · answered by Manda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nooooooooo! please talk to him. You don't play like that. My brother does that to one of his girlfriends and he really is cheating on her. He says it to her (And is serious) and then when she gets mad he has a big laugh because he knows he's serious.
It's messed up a guy would do that, but they will, and I aint gone lie I have done that to people. Even people who aren't my boyfriend.
Do it back to him one time. Show him how it feels. Say your going to matts one day.
2007-01-16 13:30:34 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Truthfully♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋