i really dont wanna hurt him tho...
2007-01-16 05:20:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
16 is the legal age for marriage with consent from parents. otherwise its 18 but theres nothing that goes against engagement
2007-01-16 05:40:34 · update #1
Whether you are 16,m 18, 21 30 or 50, if you are not ready, then you are not ready. Tell him that you want to wait awhile. Reassure him of your feelings for him, but there is no harm in waiting. Besides, if you both love each other, then you will love each other in five years, or whatever. You need to be able to tell him how you feel and not supress it just because it hurts his feelings. Of course, you must be tactful. But, this is not a small thing. If he is a good boyfriend, he will understand and not pressure you and wait until yuo are ready. And, you can still do some wonderful things as boyfriend and girlfriend.
2007-01-16 05:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by JAN W 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well then tell him a conditional yes. What this means is that you are not ready to be married; but when you are that you will marry him. Perhaps at your age you should consider promise rings, its similar to an engagement but not quit there. Also just becuase you are engaged does not mean you have to get married. If time goes by and you realize that you both are not right for each other, then the wedding can be called off.
Or you could accept the proposal and tell him that you want to have a long engagement (maybe tell him after school and you can both financially support yourselves, or set a year limit like 4 or so)
2007-01-16 14:45:51 · answer #2 · answered by Firienscatha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be honest with him, if your not than both of yous will get hurt in the end. tell him how much you love him and care for him, but you want to enjoy dating him, you want to have that to look back on later down the road when yous are married, tell him you want the memories of yous when yous were just dating frist than take the move later, tell him that when you get engaded you want to get married about a year or two right after just enough time to save up the money, tell him that you will only be 18 the most than, that you want to be finished high school and have some what of a career and both of yous be able to enough money for a house shortly after, for all of this to happen yous both will have to have a okay job, tell him you want to enjoy being a teenager first before you get to serious of a job, but once that happends than taking the next step will be great. Tell him that you love him and you believe yous are meant to be together forever, so a few more years of waiting wont hurt any.
2007-01-17 02:58:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always get engaged now and not get married for 2-3 years. I've known couples who have had 5 year engagement periods.
My own engagement will be almost two years long.
So tell him yes but as long as you both wait till you are out of school or at least over 18.
2007-01-16 19:20:12 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went down this road with my boyfriend when I was your age, and it didn't turn out well. In fact, I neglected school because of plans to figure out a way to get married before we were 18, and ended up not qualified to go to even a state university without going to community college first. So trust me when I say this is a bad idea.
Ask yourself what is he running from. Does he have a reason why he's in such a hurry? If you explain to him that you're not ready but you still feel the same way about him and want to be his girlfriend, and he gets mad, then it's probably not meant to be with him.
Don't get married because you "wouldn't mind." Only get married when you can't see yourself doing anything different even if you tried.
2007-01-16 17:06:31 · answer #5 · answered by calliope320 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait til you're at the legal age to get marry. Are u sure this is want you want? You got a whole life ahead of you. Good Luck!
2007-01-17 12:06:07 · answer #6 · answered by DolphJenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can be engaged if you love him and wait till you are 18 or 20 and are sure he is the one for you. And you for him.
2007-01-16 13:44:38 · answer #7 · answered by needanswers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that after you get a bit of life under your belt & a good education, you'll consider it. He needs to do the same.
You'll do quite a bit a maturing in the next couple of years.
2007-01-16 14:43:44 · answer #8 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you think it would be best that you wait until you are of LEGAL AGE to get married...
2007-01-16 13:35:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. If he really loves you he'll wait until you're ready.
2007-01-16 13:47:46 · answer #10 · answered by scoop6698 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋