Or so I thought. I loved him. He took it for granted. I found his ex was calling him and kicked him out. I feel really bad cause he had no where to go. I should have handled it like an adult.
Now he says he wants to get back together, but I am really not so sure.
He isn't begging, we don't go and do things together, he just doesn't seem that in love with me.
I gave him my rules, no more girls, no more bars and I dont want to tell someone what to do, but I can not trust him.
Should I give him one more chance? This is the second time I caught him talking to that ex.
Should I let him move back in and just be friends? Or totatly give the makeup a whole new do over.
Or just leave him alone? I feel bad he has no place to go. And he says he does not want to be with no one else and he was not talking to her.
2007-01-16 05:10:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are a kind person that shows without a doubt and you've given him two chances where he did the wrong thing two different times. You can let him back again but it sounds like he's not going to change at all and just wants someone with whom he can use as a back up for a place to live.
From your rules it sounds like you and I would get along just fine but I don't know about others.
He has to learn that he can't rely on others forever rather he has to make his own way in life.
Time for you to move on. There are way too many guys out there that would be just the way you want without having to tell them. One of those guys has your name tattooed on his heart it's just a matter of finding him. I hope it's soon and I hope you have a life of love.
2007-01-16 06:37:43 · answer #1 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you
Straight answer for the 1st question : Yes,
Next step would be to let him know that he need to gain back your confidence. That you need to trust him again and is at "0". After you should not be a easy girl.
You guys need serious talking about your past, present and future relations. If there's communication, it should be good.
The hardest thing to do would be to step outside of your own relation for some time and analyze your situation with your head instead of the Heart.
Also, if you lock him out (no bars, no girls as a friend) then he will fell not free and he'll go away. That doesn't mean to not allow everything. He need to challenge you now. :)
Like other said : if he had no place to go, that's is his own prob. Actually, I should not let him live with me. I should let 2 to 3 months before. Kind of a test for him.
Talking to an ex, it's not illegal. I do talk to my ex, but just to check how she does. Friendly thing. I might have dinner some time with her. But my GF will know about it.
Any way, Good Luck!
2007-01-16 09:00:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think one chance is one chance too many. You may be better off by just leaving him alone. This will give you more time to concentrate on finding someone that you really like and trust. It's so hard to maintain a relationship without it. As far as handling the situation like an adult, I think you did just fine. If you are not sure about getting back together then maybe it's not meant to be. Take care of yourself.
2007-01-16 05:17:17 · answer #3 · answered by scoop6698 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i think you need to find out the truth before you make any decisions. was he talking to her? why does he deny it? if he was just talking to her as a friend, than he should have no reason to deny anything. if he was just talking to an ex than you realy need to relax and take a look at how you feel. are you maybe a little to jealous of his life outside of your relationship with him. what does going to a bar have anything to do with you two? the real question here is "do you realy love this guy?" if so, then there is nothing to do but try and work things out. if not, maybe you should consider going out to a bar or club sometime
2007-01-16 05:18:26 · answer #4 · answered by tallpaulmwp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let the fact that he has no where to go sway your judgment. Frankly, that is his problem as he is an adult. You should pay attention to the signs before you. If this is the second time around and he still don't have it straight, let him go. Why settle for someone who can not live up to your standards.
2007-01-16 05:16:08 · answer #5 · answered by truly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if this was the second time, then it means that he never learned the first time. Will you be able to live with him again knowing that he would do the same thing again? if not, then time to move on with your life and leave him to be.
2007-01-16 05:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should just be friends and let him move back in. while he moved back in with you you can maybe convince him to get a house or apartment for him to live in
2007-01-16 08:17:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋