Should we just give up on American women?

Question

Some of my buddies have said that they will only marry women from other cultures (Hispanic, Asian) because they feel they get better treatment and don't have a "princess complex" like many American women.

My buddies have made up their minds. I'm on the fence on this issue. Do they have a point?

They say American women (rightly) expect to be treated specially ("open my doors, bring me flowers, pay for our dates , take care of me. . .").

How do they reciprocate? By offering the pleasure of their company

They'd never dream of fixing a man a plate and actually serving it. They feel it would be demeaning. "I'm not your SLAVE. . . . . but, you'd better open my doors."

By contrast, we (4 of us) were invited to the home of a Latina for dinner. She and the other Latinas actually served us and THEN they ate themselves. We were stunned. We didn't ask for or expect it.

But, those ladies understand that the door of service swings both ways. Many American women don't get that.

To clarify:

I am not saying that ALL American women have the "princess complex" or that ALL Latinas or Asian women are wonderful. There are lovely ladies in every culture, including American.

Above, I was just noting the view of my friends and sharing my own experience.

How many American women would be willing to serve any man in that way? (other than perhaps their father).

I would not expect that daily. What impressed was the appreciative, self-sacrificing attitude that both parties should have.

Answer 1

I see their point and it does have some validity.

But, I would not recommend that they necessarily should give up on their native girls.

Not all American ladies feel that chivalrous acts make men their personal unpaid doormen, valets, florists, and financiers. In fact most do not.

Your buddies seem to be looking for ladies that appreciate chivalrous gentlemen, but "know how to treat a man."

Tell your buddies that they are probably not looking in the right places.

Frankly, you will probably find that young women with more classic values will most likely have been raised in religious or otherwise traditional households.

Some American parents teach their daughters that it is no more demeaning to a woman to actually cook meals and serve their family, including her husband, than it is for their sons to treat women like ladies.

Unfortunately, there are fewer of those around than there used to be.

But, don't despair, they may not be as easy to find as they used to be. But, theyr'e still out there!!

Answer 2

well first off that whole open the door and take care of me thing, that has been around for hundreds of years, it's called chivalry. The male/man has always been expected to take care of the female/woman. That has nothing to do with having a princess attitude. I guess you're not meeting the right kinda of girls, because down south most women(who know how) cook for their boyfriend's/husbands, but they don't expect to be treated as a personal slave. I don't have a problem cooking for anyone, but it would bother me all they expected out of me was to cook for them and serve them. So it's not all American women. Although I do think that it should go both ways with the guys helping the girls and the girls helping the guys. At least it seems more fair that way.

Answer 3

You are so wrong. Maybe you're dating a shallow gene pool. I am an American Girl. I cook dinner and serve my husband and do the dishes after. He will surprise me once or twice a week by cooking, take out or going out for dinner. He doesn't expect dinner every night and doesn't have attitude when there is no dinner on the table. He is very appreciative of things I do for him. He also empties the trash, sweeps the floor etc without me asking. It's a two way street. If that makes American Girls bad I guess you are looking for a slave to your bidding.

Answer 4

Not all American women expects those things, however I do understand where you are coming from. I have been with my boyfriend a very long time and things have always been 50/50. When we go to dinner we take turns or if something else is planned for the evening I will pay for one and he would pay for the other. He does open the door for me, but it's not necessary. He does it b/c he chooses... I can open my own door. Just like he can fix his own plate. People should learn to be more dependent on themselves. (Men and women both.)

Answer 5

I think you should stay away from American women. You are right. They wouldn't want to wait on a man. It isn't a part of our culture. Doing nice things for him is one thing, but being expected to fix a plate of food or having doors opened or receiving flowers is not such a big thing. You didn't mention anything about American women that wasn't a low opinion. How about American women are independent and have their own thoughts, ideas, goals and aspirations. That they make great partners as equals. For the most part, I don't think American women expect to be treated as children or princesses. I think that a woman who does not base her worth on waiting on a man or being a servant should not be looked at as uppity or high maintenance. Look at it from both sides.

Answer 6

As an American living abroad, I can tell you that there is nothing wrong with American girls. I am married to a foreign woman. (I am in her country so now I am the foreigner).

I think your friends are mistaken. There are many GREAT American girls, of all races and cultural backgrounds. Getting a foreign girl doesn't guarantee that they will have a lasting marriage.

There is good and evil everywhere. If your friends go for the vain, they will never find a good girl in America nor in any of the 192 countries of this world. What would they do then? Become astronauts and try to find a girl in one of the moons of Mars?

Answer 7

Im a hispanic woman, I was born and raised in the states. But as a part of our culture, we are taught this. Its imbedded in our roots. In our countries this is how its done, we don't act like the slaves of the husbands (in most cases atleast) , we just show them respect by serving them food before ourselves. Its not that we are superior as women, its our culture that has taught us this. We learn to cook and clean at a young age to prepare us for the married life. I think all cultures should be that way for that matter but too bad its not. And I agree both men and women should do this. not just women or men.

Answer 8

As an American women, I do agree with you that most of them are bitches and expect more from their man then what they give. But not all are like that, I cook regularly for my man (home cook from scratch, not frozen dinners), pay for meals out (he pays sometimes too), rubs his back (he rubs mine too). Basically, we both treat each other as a King/Queen.


I was raised in a large, traditional family and I was taught to serve my husband/bf.

Answer 9

No, these friends of yours are looking for a slave. They want a woman to wait on them hand and foot, cook, clean, do the laundry, raise the kids, and generally leave them alone to do whatever they want to do.

THAT IS A VERY AMERICAN IDEA OF A RELATIONSHIP and a huge reason that the divorce rate in the U.S. is as high as it is. Eventually in relationships like this, the women get tired of it and "go find themselves". And I don't blame them.

Personally, I don't want that kind of control over someone else. I prefer a relationship on equal terms.

Answer 10

maximum individuals international, such as adult men and females, or maybe adult men in us of a of america see American females because the most low type females in the international, and the WORST better halves. that is why most of American adult men are going for overseas females, because American females are finished trash. I married an indian female and she or he's 1000 cases more effective perfect than any American woman.