Ok this classmate of mine is really starting to annoy me. First, she came in to class 10 minutes late reaking of 5 different smells of perfume. She sat down next to me and took out her makeup case. She put on hand lotion, lipstick and fixed her hair in her mirror. When she finally decided to take notes her cellphone buzzed. She decided to start text messaging people for a couple minutes. Next, she got out a pack out peanut butter crackers and started crunching away...until she decided to text someone again. After our break was over, she stood in the hallway talking on her cellphone loudly and came back into class late again. Over the couse of the next hour she chomped on her gum, texted people and wiggled around in her seat and bookbag numerous times in addition to putting more lotion and lipgloss on. What should I have done? I just sat there quietly but she was so distracting and I wanted to tell her so....should I have said anything?
By the way: This is college I'm talking about.
2007-01-16 04:53:20 · 13 answers · asked by Katie 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
There is nothing you can really say politely without the risk of her getting defensive. If you don't care about that then by all means, mention these things to her as politely as you can (even though this person obviously has no regard for being polite herself!).
If confrontation is not your style, just make a point to pack up and sit away from her the next time this happens. The hint may be taken a little personally but oh well!
Otherwise, just cross your fingers in hopes that she does not choose to sit next to you every day!
For the lateness, you could tell your professor that it is distracting and he/she may say address this. Some are more lenient on being on time than others.
2007-01-16 05:06:13 · answer #1 · answered by Rach 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In college, I consider myself a paying customer and I want to get what I pay for. So if something my classmate is doing (like talking) distracts me, I think it's appropriate to say (very politely), "Excuse me, could you please stop talking? It's hard to hear."
Frankly, all of the behaviors that you've described were probably only super-distracting to you because you were sitting close to her. Perhaps next time you could just get up and move to another seat.
2007-01-16 09:00:03 · answer #2 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 21:21:59 · answer #3 · answered by schifano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time she comes into class late or not ask her politely to sit somewhere else or you could get up and move. People like this are to wrapped up in themselves to notice they are being rude, they must be told. But, be ready to take the backlash from her, I'm sure you'll get an earful...
2007-01-16 05:06:39 · answer #4 · answered by Scooter Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Politely ask her to chew her gum with her mouth closed, don't text message during class, and if she could be a little less of a distraction during class.
2007-01-16 06:07:22 · answer #5 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might mention you are attending a class in law enforcement and drug awareness, ask this person if they have noticed if anyone is selling crack or speed.....there is a 1 800 number you could call and get a reward for turning them in....tell her these classes are only on Saturday and wouldn't interfere with her college classes if she wants to join you...she will probably get uncomfortable and move...or drop the class...when you find someone that rude they are probably not paying attention to anyone around them....including their own body language....also you could tell her all you hear in class is her, is it o.k. to tone down the constant movement stuff....good luck...
2007-01-16 05:16:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can say politely that she is distracting you with her chaos,and that you take college very seriously and don't appreciate it. You can also ask her to go easy on the smells, that it makes your allergies flare up!
2007-01-16 05:00:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just take her to one side and say in a nice way 'i'm not being funny, but you seem a bit restless and fidgety in class and i'm finding its distracting me from my work, it would be really helpful to my studying if you could please be a bit more discreet?' and if that doesn't work, tell the the tutor so that they can have a word with her.
2007-01-16 05:03:54 · answer #8 · answered by stephizzal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do they have assigned seats in college these days? Don't sit by her. If she sits where you are, move. You owe no one any explanation.
2007-01-16 05:34:20 · answer #9 · answered by catarina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have moved to another seat. That would have said more than any words.
2007-01-16 05:02:29 · answer #10 · answered by Pamela 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋