is there a reason why ive been burdened?

Question

I am feeling so low, and so desperate. I dont know how, or if this will end. I am a divorced mother of 4.
I recieve no support from anyone neither my ex husband or my family. I recently moved out of state with my children for a job and a new life.
Two or three months after being here I began dating. I met a man who had a vasectomy he was 20 years my senior we started a short relationship. I just found out im pregnant and told him. He told me it wasnt his, hung up the phone and disconnected the line the same day. I am devestated . I can not raise 5 children alone. I dont want to have an abortion. I dont want to be damned for the remainder of my time here
. But I am only 24 and i can not carry this weight. I dont know if i can go on living like this. I can't physically or mentally handle this new child. Please help...and pray for me

Answer 1

You can handle it. Maybe you wont be able to buy all of your kids Air Jordans but you will be fine. Do not abort that child, whatever you do.

Mathew 6:30

If God so clothes the grass of the field, which grows today and is thrown into the oven tomorrow, will he not much more provide for you, O you of little faith?

So do not worry and say, 'What are we to eat?' or 'What are we to drink?' or 'What are we to wear?'

All these things the pagans seek. Your heavenly Father knows that you need them all.

But seek first the kingdom (of God) and his righteousness, and all these things will be given you besides.

Do not worry about tomorrow; tomorrow will take care of itself. Sufficient for a day is its own evil.

Answer 2

NEVER TRUST A MAN TO TAKE CARE OF THE CONTRACEPTION UNLESS HE IS WEARING A CONDOM, ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE NOT ON BIRTH CONTROL YOURSELF.

I am very sorry to have to yell at you, but you seem like an intelligent person (besides the four kids at 24). How can you not know this fact of life? Don't get me wrong - I love men, I really, truly do, but there are so many horribly selfish users out there that don't give a crap about what happens after they've had their fun, I can't believe any woman trusts a man who says, "Don't worry baby, I've had a vasectomy" and isn't their husband or a very long-term boyfriend.

It's called adoption. If you do not want to have an abortion, and you cannot afford a fifth mouth to feed, put the baby up for adoption. You have no idea how many couples out there are on a waiting list for a baby.

Good luck.

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Answer 3

Have an abortion.

That's all there is to it, and the only responsible thing to do.

I know you've been indoctrinated since childhood, but this is a good time to kick the habit.

Also: A fetus has no consciousness until 5 months or so into the pregnancy. A fetus is not the same thing as a baby.

IM or email me if you want.

And anybody that tells you to keep the baby had better be willing to pay at the very least the father's share of child support, if not yours.

Answer 4

Honestly I think you should consider putting the child up for adoption and not down the line but right at birth. If you really want what is best for the child, start arrranging for an adoption now. In general, once children enter foster care, the likelihood that they will be adopted diminishes greatly.

I have a younger brother who was adopted from a situation very similar to yours. His mother had three children and felt she just could not raise another. He has been a treasure for all of us and I am thankful to his mother for making such a difficult decision.

Answer 5

The reason you've been burdened (and you'll hate me for this) is because you refuse to close your legs. 24 and the mother of four children already?? Now with another in the oven? When will you learn to stop listening to men who want nothing more than to get down your pants?

Either dude lied to you about the vasectomy, or youre lying about it being his. Chances are - he lied, right?

Dont want an abortion? then give it up for adoption - who knows, Angelina and Brad might swoop it up... Just keep your legs closed from now on.

Prayer, in this instance, is beyond being able to assist your situation (although, 5 out of 10 conceptions end in spontaneous abortion...so you could hold out and pray God does His handy work of being the world's most prolilfic abortionist) You need contraception. God is apparently against that.

Answer 6

I will pray for you! But, I would suggest finding a church (Non-denominational) in your area and start attend. Build your relationship with the Lord and He will help you. Also, I have found that Non-denominational churches are very supportive and loving. Everyone needs support both emotional and otherwise.

As for your unborn child, consider adoption. I have two biological children, and two adopted children, all of which are a great blessing to us. We are considering adopting again! (I'm not soliciting for your child, I just know what a blessing adoption can be!)

Many Blessings!

Answer 7

ill pray for you, But i cant help but say too that maybe this should be a sign to that maybe you should change your lifestyle. Get to know a man for awhile instead of just hoping into bed with him.. especially use contraception.

also you have legal options for child support. Keep in mind Child support is not about you and these 2 men (your ex and new guy) IT IS THE RIGHT OF YOUR CHILDREN to be supported. your ex husband should be financially responsible for your children until they become adults. You can also get a paternaty test done for this new child.. your new man has to comply though you may need a court order to have him submit a DNA sample. If the child does turn out to be his, He is LEGALLY obligated to support this new child

Answer 8

This is a good example of why God said that sex out of wedlock is a sin. Men will tell a woman ANYTHING to get her to have sex with them. (And some women do the same thing to men....telling them they are on birth control when they aren't.) You need to stop making ungodly decisions and start making good, godly, decisions. I think that you should give the child up for adoption. There are tons of married couples who are unable to have their own child who would absolutely love to adopt your baby and give him/her a very good home. I know that giving up your baby will be really hard but it really is the best decision you can make given you circumstances. Sin ALWAYS results in pain of one sort or another.

Answer 9

My advice going forward:

Take advantage of every freakin' bit of aid your community will give you and your children. (I'm paying tons of taxes for this and would much rather see that money go to help someone like you get back in the game then have it spent on a pile of bombs)

Look to your local library for opportunities for you and your kids to learn things together.

You've got 4 kids already, I'd have the 5th.

Find something you love and take advantage of your library to learn more about it. Knowledge is free there and it will bring you joy.

Don't close your heart to love, but be more discerning.

Answer 10

maximum mum and dad do not look on the sacrifices that is made for their little ones as a burden. you may do something for somebody you relatively love. a sturdy ensure loves their little ones unconditionally as does the youngster. little ones are an impressive present, to not be taken with no attention. If genuinely all of us thought the type you probably did, you does not be right here to ask such an idiotic question.