I am having a hard time with my stepdaughter and i just want to hear some stories of other stepmoms struggles i guess so i won't feel like i am the only one....
2007-01-16 04:15:56 · 11 answers · asked by samwise25 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh hunny. Other than Christmas I hadnt spoken to mine is almost a year. And I probably won't speak to her again till next year. She made my life misable for years and years. I cant even go into without getting too upset. You aren't alone.
2007-01-16 04:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by darlin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 13 y/o stepdaughter is a very difficult girl. But we have managed to become like brother and sister. In fact, she trust me more than her mom, even when she knows that if she does something wrong, her punishment is immediate, decisive and proportioned to the fault committed.
She knows that to me she is my daughter, but I don't try to impose my feelings as a father. Patience is what you need most and that takes time to develop..
Start doing things together. I take my stepdaughter shopping, to the movies, to watch some games, and even to an arcade room. Find out about her interests, and start sharing some concerns with her. Be genuine, be yourself.
Some times kid's minds are poisoned by other people, don't ever give up. BE THERE FOR HER WHEN SHE NEEDS YOU.
2007-01-16 04:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by David G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I thought I had a ok relationship with my 14 year old stepdaughter until she stole my suv last weekend and totalled it. Thankfully she didn't get hurt. But, shows no remorse for her actions. Says that she was destined to do great things in life, that's why she didn't get hurt. Yeah....Right. Guess you could say I'm pretty much done. I've had enough of trying with her.
I also have a 10 year old stepdaughter and she's just a peach!Good kid.....
2007-01-16 07:08:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a great relationship with my stepdaughter. What I have found w/people who struggle is that there are boundary issues. Clear set boundaries either aren't set or aren't being inforced, either by you or your husband. Need more info and maybe I can give more insight. I'm a stepdaughter and I have one too...
2007-01-16 04:21:56 · answer #4 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider the stepdaughter as own son...Treated he/she fairly with other own son (if have)...
They need a love from a mother so they will feel like home...
Soon they will realized that there are other person whose appreciate them and accepted their presence in yours family...
2007-01-16 04:26:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure they have time together sometimes without you. Don't be jealous of their relationship. She's his daughter and will always
be in his life. You are his wife and your relationship with him is much
different with him than his daughters. Be kind to her, talk to her,
and be her friend. She probably already has a mother for guidance.
She will come around sooner or later. Be understanding and think
before you say something you might regret. Your husband will love
you for it,
2007-01-16 04:31:47 · answer #6 · answered by judywalker23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a step mom and i love her so much, she is always there for me and she helps me out a lot, i have known her for about 12 years now and we get along great.im 18 i just turned that on sunday and she was there the whole time holding my hand while i got my tattoo, after mine heals we are both going to go get one together its a clover and were getting it on our hip something to show that we appreciate each other and how lucky we were to have a wonderful connection together
2007-01-16 04:34:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your step daughter? My step daughter is only 5 and I have been in her life for about 2 years so she thinks of me as her mom. I love her more than anything in the world. Try to make it work.
2007-01-16 04:49:53 · answer #8 · answered by jessicablakey1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont have a relationship with my stepdaughter
2007-01-16 04:20:52 · answer #9 · answered by SONNY_D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have hard time because you dont consider her as you daughter in your heart and mind totally. SHE IS YOUR DAUGHTER. If you consider her as your own daughter then there is no issue at all. First feel a daughter in her and you will see that see will see a mother in you. Have a great devine relationship.
Love you,
2007-01-16 05:12:56 · answer #10 · answered by loving friend 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋