When he is with grandma or the baby sitter he is a perfect angel. As soon as I get there he acts up and is doing things purposely that he knows makes me mad!! Does anyone else have similar experiences? Why does he do this?
2007-01-16 04:09:44 · 12 answers · asked by jayvers05 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Toddlers tend to act differently around Mom and Dad than other people. You can try to prevent your little guy from throwing a tantrum in the first place. You can organize your toddler's life so that frustration stays within the limits of his tolerence (most of the time). When you have to force him to do something unpleasant or forbid something he enjoys, do it as tactfully as you can. When you see he is getting angry about something, try to make it easier for him to accept. Of course he must have his coat on if that's what you said, but perhaps he doesn't have to have his zipper done up yet. There is no virtue in challenging children with absolute "dos" and "don'ts" or in backing them into corners from which they can only explode in rage. Leave a dignified escape route. Put yourself in his shoes and remember "This too shall pass"
2007-01-16 07:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by rachel_ksr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All toddlers love to push Mommy's and Daddy's hot buttons. That's just what they do as a part of growing up (learning that if he does THIS, then Mommy does/reacts like THAT) - it's a control thing, they want to see how far they can push you. The hardest part is for you to be consistent and stay as calm as possible - as a mother of a 2 1/2 year old, I know how difficult this can be, especially when you are trying to get out the door, make dinner, or do something else and it seems that the child acts up on purpose! I've heard that this too, does pass (especially when you stop reacting the way he expects you to react when he does the hot button action). Good luck!!!!
2007-01-16 04:26:11 · answer #2 · answered by Andrea F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently read about this issue because it seemed like my son was doing the same thing to me. Apparently, some of their acting out can be held over from their time with the sitter or grandma. If something doesn't go his way or he feels picked on by other kids at daycare, then he might just hold it in until you get him because he knows he can freak out on you. At Grandma's, he probably gets undivided attention (and probably a bit of spoiling) and he wants your undivided attention at home too -- especially when you're trying to do the dishes or make dinner or whatever. Remaining calm, getting on his level and telling him that his acting out, screaming, tantrum, whatever, is not acceptable and telling him to calm down may work. I do that with my 19-month-old and he generally calms down. If not, it's to his room for a few minutes of alone time so he can relax. Best of luck.
2007-01-16 04:18:33 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants your attention. Kids want attention any way they can get it. They'll even take negative attention over no attention if that's all they can get. Ignore the bad as best you can and praise the good. Try to get some special time in every day whether it's reading to him or painting or coloring or whatever you like to do together. Remember that this is temporary and try to remain in control of your emotions when he pushes you. I have a 2 year old little girl and it's a constant challenge but is the best thing that ever happened to me. Good luck!
2007-01-16 07:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by yeswecandoflipsandstuff 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Toddlers love to do anything that will get attention, even if it is negative attention. Rather than getting upset over the things he does to act up, just ignore it or bring him to another room. And make a HUGE deal out of anything he does that you really like, so he will be getting attention from his positive actions :)
2007-01-16 06:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same thing with my 4 year old. She is a prefect angel when she is at my moms and in school.
I did a chore / behavior chart when my daughter does something of good behavior or does simple chores like picking her toys up or helping feed the cat i give her a sticker.
When she does something wrong she goes in time out for 4 mins. At the end of the week she gets a reward something for her to work for and it seems to work really good.
2007-01-16 04:23:56 · answer #6 · answered by crazziegrl14 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids do this to test their limits and what they can get away with. My 3 year does the same thang. If you ask her why she is asking so many questions, she'll tell you because she's 3.... and that's just it, she's 3 she doesn't know what pushes my buttons and what doesn't. Your son is just testing you to see what he can and can't get away with, don't you remeber acting out or doing something you weren't when you were younger! Every kid does it and every kid will.
2007-01-16 04:18:33 · answer #7 · answered by Dodge Ram Mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
their way of learning and at that stage they want to know their limitations. However, aren't we all angles at other peoples house? We are given treats and gifts and are able to get away with practicly anything with them rather then at home!
2007-01-16 04:14:08 · answer #8 · answered by lssimmail 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids have to make up for all the time that they were being good.I went through that.they were perfect angels until I came to pick them up from my mom house.
2007-01-16 04:14:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he's a toddler. That's his job right now.
2007-01-16 04:14:53 · answer #10 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋