My friend is pregnant with her third child and her fiance does not make enough money to pay all the bills and groceries and gas for the car. she gets WIC, but it's not enough for all the food they need. you cannot live on eggs and cheese and milk. they need some kind of fruit and vegetables and meat, but they can't afford it. they have 100 dollars left after bills, and they need food and gas so he can get back and forth to work everyday. they need help! what can i do? what can they do? where can they get financial assistance?
2007-01-16 04:08:27 · 9 answers · asked by stephanie 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
by the way, they didn't plan on having another baby. she was getting the shots(i forget the name) for birth control. he is going to have a vestectomy next month. the last thing they wanted to do was be one of those people everyone hates because they are a "drain" on the economy. i also forgot to mention that she would be working but she is on bedrest because of complications until the baby is born in 2 months, but she is taking courses online to get a degree in business management while she is laying in bed all day. they just need help for time being! have a heart and don't be so judgemental! what if it was you?
2007-01-16 04:35:19 · update #1
she applied for food stamps yesterday, but her fiance makes too much. it doesn't make sense. they qualify for WIC but not food stamps. i just called her and suggested a loan. her fiance declared bankruptcy a few years ago before they met, and cannot take a loan for any other reason than a house. she will go today(breaking the bedrest rule, but in a wheelchair)to see if she alone can get a few thousand bucks to get them through this tough time. luckily she is having another girl and has plenty of clothing and all the baby must-haves. she refuses any kind of financial help from friends, so i went to wal-mart and got a gift card and sent it to her house with no return address on the envelope. i called a bunch of our friends and asked to do the same. i kept track of what everyone's getting, and she will have 700 dollars in gift cards. that will help with diapers and food and i think the wal-mart closest to her house has a gas station too. thank you everyone who gave great advice!!!
2007-01-17 00:18:34 · update #2
Do they attend church? If so, find out which one and call and see if they have some type of food bank. If they aren't church goers, just start calling every church in the area and asking, lol. They can get plenty of meat and fruit if they buy wisely. Stay away from boneless center cut pork chops--tell them to buy the huge giganto "family" pack that are usually considerably less expensive. Ground beef (not chuck or round, but plain old cheap hamburger) is pretty thrifty. Instead of boneless, skinless breasts, they can buy a family pack of thighs or drumsticks.
Do they have any family members who can help out financially? Can they take a small personal loan from their local bank to make ends meet until she has the baby and gets back to work?
2007-01-16 08:43:17 · answer #1 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she's not a "drain" on the economy. Her fiances works and she has a legitimate reason not to be right now. This is how the economy is. He probably tried his best to get a good paying job and he had to settle for the one he has. And we wonder why people are on welfare! Tell her to apply for food stamps, it might not be much but it will help her with the food bill. WIC covers the milk and cheese and stuff so she doesn't have to worry about that. She will also get formula from Wic when the baby is born.
I hope things work out for them!
2007-01-16 06:42:44 · answer #2 · answered by zoe and skylar's mommy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately people are not so understanding in certian situations. Accidents happen no matter if you plan for them or not. There is never a GOOD time to have kids.. you can have your kids in the most stable condition and then watch everything fall out from beneath you. Its why there are goverment programs to help and NOT to abuse. I also payed my whole life to the goverment I PAY taxes ever year i worked since i was 15 years old. I am 31 years old and pregnant for the first time with a healthy viable baby (I lost 3 previous during marriage to medical issues of compatability with my husbands sperm) and my world fell out under my feet the day I found out my pregnancy. Not only was I pregnant but I lost my job due to downsizing 2 days later, my I found out my husband was cheating on me a week later, went through a nasty divorce, lost everything, and the man who is the father is foriegn and cant stay in the country due to political reasons. The baby is the best thing that can happen to me and now I plan to cash in on some of those taxes I payed to my goverment to help me get on my feet. I dont plan to be a Welfare Abuser but I need it now and I dont care what anyone thinks. It sounds like your friends are doing the best they can. There is no shame to ask for help no matter what people think of Welfare. We hope that none of these people who put down those in need, they themselves need a hand in the future. I would never want them to feel as low as they have made others feel for asking for help. Compassion is humanitys best assets, give a little and get a little in return. OF COURSE there are many who abuse it but those people will never have respect or honor in there lives, thats a big price to pay for being abusers of a system. Have your friends go to thier counties welfare programs... also check some area churches and the Food shelf Programs. If you do have a church ask your pastor if there can be some kind of food drive for fruits and vegtables and meat. You would be suprised the kind of out-turn a community has if you ask for it. Despite the sour and bitter people who have little or no compassion for those on hard times. Sounds like your friends will welcome the new baby and they will be happy, also they will learn to do better at stopping another mistake.
ECT: whoops to clarify my husband had left me a 5 months previous for other reasons, before I found out he was cheating too.
2007-01-16 04:50:45 · answer #3 · answered by I luv Pets 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell them to go to the court house and get food stamps, that will help w food and when the baby comes formula
2007-01-16 04:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe get all your friends together and have a baby shower! Bring baby gifts, freezable prepared meals, stuff for the house and that way you can help them without just handing them cash.
2007-01-16 05:39:38 · answer #5 · answered by Gig 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This, unfortunately, is why we have welfare, foodstamps, housing subsidies and the like. I am sure your friends are very nice people, but it makes me so upset that my husband and I have to limit the number of children we can have so that our tax dollars can pay your ever-pro-creating friend's electricity bills and put food on their table.
They need to go to the welfare office and apply for welfare and foodstamps. Please tell her that medicaide will pay for birth-control after this baby is born.
2007-01-16 04:20:44 · answer #6 · answered by medicpaige 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
they will need to see about getting on food stamps or if they make too much for that then try going to your local church and ask about food banks or comitoties sities
2007-01-16 05:53:21 · answer #7 · answered by sjeboyce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to health and human services and apply for medicaid to help cover the cost of the pregnancy if they don't have any health insurance.
2007-01-16 04:11:50 · answer #8 · answered by 'Lissa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her to go on food stamps
2007-01-16 07:26:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋