My boyfriend and I share the 24th of every month as an anniversary (in February it will be a year). However, this year will be our first Valentine's Day together and it makes me a little nervous because Valentine's Day is mine and my ex's former anniversary (my ex and I broke up in November of '05 after a 4 year relationship. A few months later he came out of the closet admitting he was gay). What can my boyfriend and I do to make a day I absolutely despise into what it's supposed to be?
2007-01-16 04:01:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As a matter of clarification, I'm not dwelling on this topic. I may have just worded it wrong. According to some of the answers, I must've sounded desperate and I apologize if I did. I just wanted to know what others would do in this situation.
2007-01-16 08:07:07 · update #1
Working through your feelings about your ex before the day gets here will help, but also, expectations (both positive and negative) can have a tremendous impact on whether or not we enjoy a day.
My husband has an every-day-is-a-holiday philosophy, and I love him for it. We also tend to celebrate Valentine's day either the weekend before or the weekend after, so actually celebrating/making plans on a day that's not Feb. 14th might help, especially this year.
I've found that each year away from my ex means that our anniversary has less meaning, but normally I just try to honor myself and whatever I'm feeling on that day.
Maybe this year you just need some time to yourself and not try to combine the two days (e.g. a day of grieving with a day of love). It will all come in time. Good luck to you. Don't try so hard and you'll be amazed at what shows up. When we put those expecations on a day, it's easy to end up disappointed. No expectations = greater joy.
2007-01-16 04:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by writerchick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a candle light dinner. Buy each other something really romantic. You could go on a romantic boating. Anything that you two want that will make the day special. Make the day new memories and don't look back in the past. You can make valentine's day really special with your new boyfriend.
2007-01-16 04:06:45 · answer #2 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you spending Valentine's Day with your current boyfriend or your ex??? If you are no longer with your ex, why would he have anything to do with you now? If you are "depising" a day because of something that happened to you, you need to get help. Perhaps, if you still hate that day because of a former relationship and how it effected you, you shouldn't be dating. I can't imagine allowing anything like that (a breakup) to impact me the way you are. Either enjoy the day by going to a museum or out to dinner or break up with the new guy and sit at home and be angry about what has happened to you. Yikes! What a strange thing to dwell on!
2007-01-16 04:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
as difficult as this day was for you before your new man get over it. you have a new man and now you can start to make valentines day a special day for the two of you. buy a sappy card, a bottle of wine and light some candles...pretend it is you and your new guys anniversary if you have to. this is your first valentines day with the new guy so make it special so you can remember it. the point of being in a relationship is to make memories together for you to always remember.
2007-01-16 04:08:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make new memories that are sweet and pleasant for the both of you and do not ever look back inthe past and let that destroy something good that you now have. Just enjoy each other every day just like it was you anniversary. Valentinesis just a day but we should love each other every day.
2007-01-16 04:06:40 · answer #5 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your b/f cannot do anything to make you get over your past. You are the one in charge of this task. After this long, you really need to start letting go of the ex - once you do, the "anniversary" becomes just another regular day. Move on, stop wallowing in the past, enjoy your present.
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2016-10-31 06:33:12 · answer #7 · answered by speth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive the past. Have a wonderful time doing something u both enjoy!! Something u never did to remind u of the past.
2007-01-16 04:14:46 · answer #8 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-03-02 09:49:00 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
enjoy your life now, forget your past life is in the past. You have a new love make new memory's with this new wonderful person in your life.
2007-01-16 04:07:19 · answer #10 · answered by xxgq 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋