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2007-01-16 04:01:41 · 24 answers · asked by Franky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I like it when a guy pays, I won't lie. But he can't ALWAYS pay, that gets boring, and then he thinks you're with him only for his money. Men begin to resent and hate you for that. I think it's fair if you both pay, maybe take turns. Why should he pay all the time, just because he's a guy??
2007-01-16 04:05:18 · answer #1 · answered by Meghan M 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
When I first entered the relationship I'm in now, I would pay for EVERYTHING.. Since then I've had my 2nd spinal surgery and I've had a very hard time finding work that can accomidate me. There isn't a DAY that goes by that I don't feel guilty about my girlfriend paying, and I try to let her know it. My point is.. if it's the beginning of a relationship, and the guy can pay, then he SHOULD.. But if you've been in love for a long time, you've gotta let love conquer all and just hope things get better. If it keeps happening tho, I'd sit him down and explain how you feel.. If that fails then the relationship is probably doomed from the start. Hope my 2 cents helped ya.
2007-01-16 12:07:42 · answer #2 · answered by Jersey Giant 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ONLY if I made significantly more money than he did.
Otherwise, the guy should pay for the first couple of dates (2-3), and then the gal should offer to chip in/ meet him halfway (depending on their relative incomes - I mean, don't find out exactly how much the other makes, but if one is a CEO and the other is a secretary, you can guesstimate, you know?) if the dating relationship continues from there.
If you two have comparable incomes and you pay for everything, that's just not right (nor would it be if HE paid for everything). If this aspect of your relationship isn't fair or equitable, many other aspects won't be, either. Without knowing any other circumstances, I'd ditch him if I were you.
2007-01-16 12:06:51 · answer #3 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the real deal....if a guy asks me out for dinner for the first time he should pay (if I asked, I would pay), after that it depends. If we decide to be friends, but no further, than I would always offer to pay for myself after that. If the first date leads to a second date, I would offer to pay my part because I don't want to "owe" anyone for dinner. If he turns out to be a gentleman (pays for second date and does not maul me) then he has a really good chance of never making it to the restaurant on the third date, as I will be mauling him myself at home.
2007-01-16 12:08:57 · answer #4 · answered by LoneStarLou 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i hate when people expect the guy to pay all the time. i dont think thats fair. and i make more money than most of the guys i date because i work full time and they are in school. i think you should take turns. alternate who pays. i dated a guy for two years and i paid for absolutly everything. i hated it and i will never do it again. i think it should be a shared responsibilty. on the first date however i do believe the guy should pay.
2007-01-16 12:06:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would never date a guy who made me pay.
I am old fashion I think the guy should always pay when you are dating. Now after you in a exclusive relationship say for a year or so. Then if he is running a bit low or something then it ok for you to pay every now and then. But for the most part the guy should pay.
2007-01-16 12:07:40 · answer #6 · answered by darlin 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yeah I am. Im the one with the job in our relationship so I always have to pay for myself and sometimes both of us. Sometimes its annoying, but I know that he doesnt really have enough money to pay most of the time. Actually, this bugs his mother more than it does me lol
2007-01-16 12:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no problem footing the bill for a date - especially if I asked him out. I have no problem going dutch. However, I would have a problem if I was always the one to pay. Sounds like he's using you. If I were you, I wouldn't go anywhere with him that required the shelling out of money. If he still hangs around, then go from there.
2007-01-16 12:06:34 · answer #8 · answered by Lilith 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have dated guys like this and the answer for you is NO. Do not date a guy like this, he is a loser and you will constantly be disappointed. Stop now before you get any closer to him. NO do not pay for yourself or a guy.
2007-01-16 12:06:10 · answer #9 · answered by disco lemonade 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no problem splitting the bill, and I wouldn't mind paying for everything occasionally but I can't imagine why I'd want to date anyone who expected me to fund the entire evening every time. That's just disrespectful.
2007-01-16 12:10:37 · answer #10 · answered by belmyst 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋