I haven't seen my guy for almost over a week, he I talked to him Saturday night and he was tired and gonna go to bed and he'd come see me Sunday eve, later that nite he texts me saying he's going out with the boys, (ok thats fine), so sunday comes along he calls me at in the eve. says he'd love to come see me but he's too tired from saturday and is gonna go to bed early....WTF??? he's not too tired to go out with his boys but he's too tired to come visit me.......so I let that pass, then he calls me last night at 5pm saying he wanted to come over, I said ok Im at my moms but I'll call you when I get home he said ok call me baby...so I text him around 8 that I was home.....he never called texted me back nothing......then I get a text from him this morning saying good morning baby....WTF?? Does he think he can just diss me like that? Or what? Am I over reacting about this? He's been saying he missed me and wants to see me but yet he just flakes or goes with his boys....
2007-01-16 03:55:38 · 9 answers · asked by a1980 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, "baby", it sounds like he doesn't want a committed relationship right now. And why are you so upset? It's not like you're married or something. He's free to do whatever he wants to do.
2007-01-16 03:59:56 · answer #1 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems that all he's doing is trying to tell you what you want to hear. You guys need to have a serious talk about this because it can get worst. It seems that he's either taking you for granted or something else is going on. You don't want to jump to conclusions because that can just make the situation worst, so just drive over to him and ask him to talk and tell you why he's doing that. Maybe he wants a little space and there's nothing wrong with that, but it's your right to know. Whatever it is, you have every right to be upset about this because he's doing it continuosly. You are right, how is it that he's not too tired to hang out with his friends but too tired for you. It should be the other way around, just talk to him. If he doesn't want to talk then maybe he doesn't care as much as you might think he does.
2007-01-16 12:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by Steve S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it " he is too tired for you but not too tired for the boys"! It sounds like he wants you WHEN he wants you but at the same time he wants his freedom to do what he wants (with the boys). Try talking to him and tell him your getting tired of the cat and mouse game he is playing and ask him whats more important to him, YOU or his boys. Guys will try certain things to see how far they can go and how much you will put up with. why not suggest you each have a night out separately with friends every so often. Let him know your not putting up with it. Hopefully things will change. Good Luck
2007-01-16 12:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by Lace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isnt commited enough. I dont know what his deal is but he should figure it out. You deserve a guy that is more mature than that. He should at least have enough respect to not make plans and then change like that just to hang out with his boys. If it was a family emergancy well I would understand. If I were you I would be mad and ready to get rid of him and find someone who cares about you and your feelings
2007-01-16 12:37:10 · answer #4 · answered by Mac H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think its clear that this guy thinks he can get away with everything. why? because you keep letting it slip. so long as you keep doing that, he'll continue doing what he's doing. it also sounds like he wants to be in casual relationship, like he wants it to be liberal. nevertheless, he is disrespecting you and you should confront him about it. once you do his true intentions will come out. like if he doesnt want to be in a serious relationship he'll say something like the first person to answer your question wrote: "what are you so mad about? its not like we're married?" then you'll just have to decide what YOU want. if you stay with him, your basically telling him that your ok with what he wants. otherwise, you should break it off, if he's not willing to change.
2007-01-16 12:07:25 · answer #5 · answered by ursNonlyUrs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I been going through that same ****!!!! This whole week, I haven't seen my man either! He works at night, but Yesterday I figured he would come down. No, I texted him at 7 he said he just woke up. Well we kept talking, I left and went to a friends house. I wasn't gonna sit there and wait on him. At 9:45 he comes up to my front door, looking for me. My parents told him I wasn't there. I met him coming back home, and he followed me back home and acted like nothing was wrong?? I'm with you!! WTF!!!????
2007-01-16 12:01:33 · answer #6 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is just not that into you. He makes it clear that you're not #1 in his life. I would give him a chance to prove to you that he wants to keep you, and if he doesn't show you he cares, dump him. You deserve much better, and if he really loves you, he'll have to work to get you back!
2007-01-16 12:02:38 · answer #7 · answered by Meghan M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you allow it, the more hes going to put you on the back burner. Address it and let him know your sick of his $h!t and he needs to get his head out of his @$$ or your leaving him...or continue to stay with him and let him get around to you when he feels like it.
2007-01-16 12:01:59 · answer #8 · answered by Alpha Male 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I strongly feel people do what they want to , and his actions are saying he doesn't want to come over
and that he really isn't all about you
2007-01-16 12:00:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋