Should I Try This?

Question

I asked a question on how i could start up a conversation with a guy i'm interested in that works in a shop i visit very often, whom i have never spoken to before and someone came up with what seems a very cute idea. However, i'm not sure whether i should use it or not... Please let me know what you think of it and if i should use it with this guy... or if you think its pathetic to try? This is very important to me as i've never had a boyfriend before and no experience at all... I would love any advice...thankyou! :-)... Here's the piece of advice i received...

....Try this: walk up to him with a fake flower (possibly from the store's shelves) and wish him happy birthday. There's a one-in-365 chance it actually WILL be his birthday, so count on him saying something along the lines of, "But it's not my birthday." You can reply, "Well, then, happy UN-birthday." It's a fun ice-breaker. At that point, you can introduce yourself, learn his name, ask him when his real birthday is (and what year?), and so on. It is crucial that you be armed with enough conversational topics to carry on a good conversation with no awkward pauses. Keep a smile on your face. Flirting takes skill and patience. Be bold!

Answer 1

it sounds like a cute idea, but get a real flower, not fake for goodness sake, a fake flower is tacky. and also, just because you try and go up to this dude it doesn't mean he is going to be your BOYFRIEND, concentrate on improving your confidence and gaining a friend out of this whole experience. RELAX. and just do it!

Answer 2

I would not do that not because it is a lame idea. I think it is a daring advice. For your first time, it is too much of a move.
I am sure he recognizes you around the shop because of your frequent visits. Smile to him when you get to cashier. Say: "You know i come here so often but i still dont get your name. Im ..... and you are ..?" Then drop in some questions like "How old are you?" " Where do you go to school?" But do not get all personal or get into his personal interests. Dont rush it. You dont want to sound desperate or give in too much. If he is interested, he probably would ask you something back. For sure you dont want to hold up the line or stay too long. At leaving, say "Well, i would like to know you better. (If things are going smooth, you can also ask him out) But i have to go now. See you around. Bye."
Next time you go, it would be easier with greetings. I think after the first encounter; you will have alot of different views of him either positive or negative. You will figure it out if he is interested or if you are still interested. Keep up the updates!

Wish you the best.

Answer 3

Sounds a little weird to me.. just go up to him and say "You dropped your pocket" He will look around and of course not find his pocket, it's a joke. You will both get a good laugh from it and then you can introduce your self.. If he doesn't laugh then you don't want him.. The flower thing will also work but I personally would feel funny walking up to someone I don't know and give him a flower with the line happy birthday, cause he might want to know why you thought it was his birthday which leads to awkwardness.. Cant go wrong with a joke.. but you do what you are comfortable with and good luck to you..The best approach is be yourself.. You could try the approach of simply saying to him "Good morning or afternoon" Wait for his reply then say "Sure is rotten or good weather we are having" Then jump right into, "My name is *****" I am sure he will then introduce himself and BINGO you broke the ice..Then you can say something like, "Everytime I come in here your working, you must be a hard worker" (ego booster) Then ask him if he ever takes a break? If he says yes, ask what time and say "I would like to buy you a cup of coffee" (or what ever, lunch etc) If he is interested he will probably say sure and there you go (a date).. You will also find out if he is taken if he says sorry I have a girl friend, wife and so forth... then you don't have to wonder anymore... Try it, guys like girls to be a little assertive.. good luck to you... YOU CAN DO IT!!!! :)

Answer 4

There's no real way to talk to someone and not be shy and awkward. If you are confident in yourself (keep in mind that he's not the only boy in the world and you don't have anything to lose!) then it shows and won't seem so awkward. I would just talk to him about something normal if I were you, like buy a pack of gum and ask him if it's been a busy day for him at the shop or something. If he wants to talk to you, it will be obvious. He'll try to make the conversation longer. Just go for a normal convo though, so that if he doesn't want to talk or is not interested, he can make that clear to you and you won't feel stupid or rejected. Sometimes it even takes a "No, sorry, I have a girlfriend but thanks for asking", but know that there are other fish in the sea!

Answer 5

I dont think its a very good one, I would be a little wierded out if a girl said that to me because I wouldnt really catch it. Heres what I do.

I walk up to a girl, I say "hi" and smile she says "hi" back and ill say something like "your eyes are beautiful" or "its a nice day isnt it" some kind of small talk and ill keep smiling so this way she knows my intent. And ill say some other stuff about my interests and ill ask hers and keep the conversation going for maybe 5-10 mins and then ill say something like "would you like to grab a cup of coffee with me, id really like to get to know you better" and then usually that works pretty well.

Answer 6

It does sound like a good ice breaker, but it also sounds like something you pulled out of a dating book. You might want to try just being yourself. I do not know what kind of store this guy works in, but if he isn't a cashier, then maybe you could ask him to help you find things in the store. Or try asking him for directions to somewhere. Find somewhere exciting to ask him directions to and he might start asking you questions. It is an easy way for you to put the ball in his court so you don't have to be so nervous about what to say next.

Answer 7

I think its cute, but he could take it in a creepy way too. It really just depends on him, and how you act. If youre nervous and weird about it hell be nervous and weird and might think youre some kind of stalker. As long as you can do it in a fun flirty way, and like the person said, have enough conversation topics so that it isnt awkward, I think you should do it.

Answer 8

In my honest opinion, if someone came up to me that I had no idea who they were and did this. I would think they are crazy and probably try to find a way to distance myself from that person after that.

What type of shop is it? If he works at that particular shop he should have some sort of interest in what they sell...being that you shop there shows you have interest in the stuff they sell as well...so there is one thing you have in common.

As hypocritical of me it is to say this because I would never have the guts to do it, girls can ask guys out. Some guys even find that a turn on because it shows she has confidence. But, if you ask him on a date just ask him to do something general, like go for coffee...or something in that range.

I hope it all works out for you!

Answer 9

I think if you really want to meet this guy YOU should think of something to say to him. That way you will feel more comfortable in in your strategy because it is your own. It's very hard to walk up to someone you like especially if your shy, but give it time or think up ways in which you can start a conversation with him. It doesn't have to be over-the-top special. Make it casual and make it your own thing. Well good luck :)

Answer 10

Its really hard to tell. I don't know what you are like and I don't know what he looks like. Its always hard to approach someone to ask if they want to date. Just be youself. Nobody likes a fake. But don't take any answers here to heart. Its just a bunch of people that want 10 points for an answer. You have to do what you think is right in your heart.

Its kinda like asking people on here for my VIN number on my truck.

Hard to know! Right?

You could always say, "MY GOD LOOK AT THE C0CK ON THAT GUY!" Sure to bring a smile but I'd probibly be more subtle if I were you.