Now this might be 'classic' boy doesn't want to commit type thing, but I was in a relationship for 5 years and split from that in late October.
Now I have met a girl in Scandinavia and have visited her. We've been on the phone alot but have only spent a week actually together. Incidentally the sex was amazing for both of us.
I know she really likes me, but she has only just got out of a 4 year relationship herself.
She has pretty much asked me to commit to her and I want to, I don't want to sleep with anyone else at the moment. But I am worried that it is too soon for both of us and that my new found singledom will be lost forever! I still think that a bit of single life is probably best for my mental health, but my heart seems to be saying otherwise!!!
What should I do? I am seeing her in a few weeks and I really don't want to lose her. But is it too soon?
Basically the question is, should I commit to not having sex with anyone else or not?
2007-01-16 03:37:08 · 10 answers · asked by jameso79 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
now, wait a minute... where are you located?
Long distance relationships don't work.
As my friends in Brooklyn, NY would say, "fahgeddaboutit."
Seriously, don't commit.
2007-01-16 03:42:17 · answer #1 · answered by Jack C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your heart is still in commitment mode. I myself had a long distance relationship with my ex, and would fly out to see her whenever I had the chance. you have to realize it would be better if you to were just friends for now. You both just got out of a long term relationship, and it sounds as if you are both looking for a soul mate in all the wrong places. From my own personal experience I let my psychical relationship cloud my judgment about what I actually felt. Being at a distance can really put pressure on the heart. The choice is up to you, but I would be friends with her, and don't sell yourself short. Love is not hard to find, and you don't have to have a stipulation on it. And if she cares for you she will understand. I hope this helps. Thanks.
2007-01-16 11:51:21 · answer #2 · answered by Tyler C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you say no, you may loose this girl. You can say yes if that is what you really want. The important thing to remember is that you can always change your mind if you find it not working for you (if you begin to desire other women). After awhile, the long distance will wear on you.
If you need more time to think, let her know. Are you so afraid of losing her that you would make a decision that you are not ready for or committed to?
2007-01-16 11:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by truly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is that what she is asking you to commit to or is she asking for a full blown BF/GF relationship?
Do you live near her? IF not why not try and find someone closer?
I would be willing to venture that you have already made up your mind not to commit but you are looking for validation. Can't do that for you but I can tell you that it sounds like you do not want to commit.
2007-01-16 11:45:28 · answer #4 · answered by rcbricker33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you are ready to commit to another relationship, then do so or you might just lose the opportunity to be with someone who you really like.
2007-01-16 11:41:36 · answer #5 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. If you feel that you need some time to yourself to be single, then by all means go for it, but be sure you're not throwing something good away. Sometimes love comes along when it's not meant to be, but if it's real then it will wait.
2007-01-16 11:47:38 · answer #6 · answered by Meghan M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Incidentally the sex was amazing for both of us.........THAT soubnd like to me that she is wining you over by sex...dont' let her do that or you'll be sorry. They are all good when you turn them upside down
2007-01-16 11:44:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds great. commit. what do you have to lose if she turns out to not be "the one" then move on. Give her a chance.. good luck
2007-01-16 11:41:40 · answer #8 · answered by robtiger2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like her, go for her.. but take it slowly.
2007-01-16 11:42:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she loves you, she will wait.
2007-01-16 11:45:49 · answer #10 · answered by ♨ Wisper ► 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋