My husband is in the Army and he met a girl back in september because she was having a panic attack and needed help and he has them so he knew what to do to help her. Now, its not so much her but HIM. He cant stay off of her myspace page...he can't leave her alone no matter how many endless times i tell him it bothers me. He just blows it off. Now recently they were exchanging music online when he asks her for a picture of her and then downloads it to his MP3 player...I got angry and we talked about it and everything was fine until...i find out he told her i got mad about it. Our history before being married isnt that great. We've both cheated on each other. Am i just being paranoid or does he have a thing for her? should I just put my foot down and say NO MORE AT ALL???
2007-01-16 03:34:18 · 7 answers · asked by imakulaff2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Pffffffffffffffffffffft! You've both cheated on each other before and you're surprised this is happening now?!
Put your foot down all you want, but don't hold your breath expecting it to do any good!
2007-01-16 03:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are paranoid! It should be as simple as if you told him it bothers you, he should quit. I made friends with a couple of guys through the past, and it was innocent and really meant nothing. But when my husband told me that it bothered him, that was the end of it! Simple as that! No little friendship is worth tension between my husband and me.
She should also have enough respect to stay away if she is aware that she is causing stress in your marriage. She has an agenda with this thing too!
If you both have a shady past, it sounds like you need some serious work! I would put my foot down and if he lets you go for this girl then you have found your answer. If you choose not to, I would definantly keep my eyes open for more signs.
2007-01-16 11:44:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're being paranoid at all. To me, your husband's behavior clearly shows that something is up--either he is having a relationship with this girl, or he wants to have one. I wouldn't tolerate behavior like this from a spouse. In light of the fact that you say you have both cheated in the past, I think you already know the answer in your heart.
2007-01-16 11:42:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea he has a thing for her and probably doing something, as you said you both cheated and he probably still is. If he wanted your marriage to work he would pursue this or her. You both need to come to some agreement, it dont seem like your will last. Sometimes its better to cut your loses early but you both need to be able to admit it. Put your foot down and go from there see what happens, you need to be respected in your wishs if this relationship is going to work. feel free to contact me if you want to.
2007-01-16 11:47:30 · answer #4 · answered by P_a94 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was fat and ugly do you think he would be spending time on her MySpace ?? Men usually will not devote any time to a women they are not interested in. You can put your foot down but if I was you I'd be keeping an eye. He already knows it bothers you and he continues to do it.
2007-01-16 11:45:19 · answer #5 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go find yourself a Marine and get on with your life.
2007-01-16 11:40:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough one. Can you allow him to feel that it is ok to have a crush on someone? Then he will be more likely to be open with you.
2007-01-16 11:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by jameso79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋