Over IM my male friend posted this:
"Have fun at school.
Be a good girl. Play with others,
Share your toys and take a good long nap."
I was offended and he said it was a joke and that I was being over sensitive.
In reply I stated:
"I do not appreciate being talked to like a child. Even in jest."
He agian said I was being over sensitive, that I had a good life and should try to enjoy it.
Was I truly in the wrong and being over sensitive? This is not the first time he has joked like this, but it is the first time I have said what I thought about it.
Even his family noticed at one time and mentioned how he treated me like a child.
I may be two years younger than him, but at 24 and 22 that kind of behaviour is no longer 'cute' to me.
Am I truly being over-sensitive about this?
2007-01-16 03:33:01 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yes, you are being oversensitive. There was nothing offensive about his joke. You need to loosen up.
2007-01-16 03:40:53 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Smooth 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
While I don't think he means anything bad by it, he should respect your wishes and stop. Whether you are being overly-sensitive or not is beside the point. No means No in any context.
That said, people often make what they think of as playful comments in jest, and end up hurting people they had no intention of hurting. It might make things a bit easier if you can learn to shrug off these sorts of comments. Laugh it off, and either retort, or just gently broach the subject later. Getting upset about it only puts the other person on the defensive.
2007-01-16 03:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by dead_elves 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I would have said back okay daddy I will. Yes u were being over sensitive but if he talks to u all the time as if u were a child well then u do have a excuse to yell at him.
2007-01-16 04:25:40 · answer #3 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure the joke was really offensive, or just a little near the bone? But if you find you're often being offended by a particular person's jokes, maybe you should just drop that person from your close friends and see a lot less of him/her. And BTW, that would be "their" joke, not "they're".
2016-05-25 00:03:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A joke is in the eye of the beholder or teller in this case, where we see beauty others see ugliness or where some see humor others see insults.
As long as in his eye it was humor then it could be forgiven. The thing is though a friend should also be sensitive to your feelings and as a friend accept it may not of been funny to you, friends should be understanding to each other which means both of you!
2007-01-16 04:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are being over sensitive but that is your choice. If he is truly your friend he will accept that however silly it is you find that offensive. However I suspect that he's trying to needle you just a little bit because he has feelings for you that he's not sure how to deal with. Guys are a bit like that.
2007-01-16 05:05:16 · answer #6 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say. Not knowing the context of all the other interactions you've had with this person it's hard to see how this one incident could be read as "treating you like a child", especially because I think if a person really was treating you like a child, they wouldn't make it so obvious as in that joke. Nevertheless, it touched a nerve for you, and therefore it was offensive.
2007-01-16 09:02:58 · answer #7 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There may have been other times in which you should have gotten upset with him. However, this is not one of them. Given all the information you shared. you were being to sensitive. My mother is a teacher and we say that sort of thing to her all the time.
2007-01-16 04:46:29 · answer #8 · answered by onefootnaked 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you are both adults doesnt mean you have to act like one. And...usually when people are trying so hard to be "mature" and un-childish, they are most likely the ones that contain no maturity at all. Being mature and adult-like also takes the skill of being able to laughing at yourself right? If you take being an adult as no longer being able to crack lame jokes...then the rest of your life is ghunna suck...big ones. :-)
P.S. laugh often, its good for you!
2007-01-16 07:50:03 · answer #9 · answered by Bridget 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are being overly sensitive to these remarks. He was clearly joking. Apparently you have some real issues with this man, and you should sever your relationship with him.
2007-01-16 04:29:23 · answer #10 · answered by I_Love_Life! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Extremely over sensitive.
You are acting so uptight if someone cut your rubber band you would fly apart.
I suspect your trying so hard to act like an adult that you come off appearing like a spoiled child.
Other people will respond to you in the manner in which you behave.
2007-01-16 03:54:18 · answer #11 · answered by dfuerstcat 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋