I previously posted a questions about a guy I've been barely flirting with at work (even though I have a boyfriend). The flirting has been very innocent and I have never had intentions to cross the line with him. The other day, he called me out in front of another male coworker and jokingly asked, "What does your boyfriend think about you flirting with me?" While I REALLY like this guy, I only want to be his friend as I do have a boyfriend. Maybe my flirting made him uncomfortable? Should I pull him aside and let him know that I have no intentions of doing anything romantic/sexual with him or should I just leave the situation alone? I also feel a need to clarify things so that rumors don't get started around work. I'm just not sure if saying something to him would be making a bigger deal out of it. Also, why would he ask me that about my boyfriend? Please don't give me crap for flirting. I know the dangers. Just please help answer my questions.
2007-01-16 03:23:24 · 12 answers · asked by Dasher 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dasher, talk to him and let him know that you flirt with him but you do not want anything more. I think you need to let him know how you feel about the situation. I flirt with women in my office but it is purely innocent because I am married. I would never take it any further.
2007-01-16 03:29:17 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Smooth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you have no intention of doing anything questionable, there's nothing wrong with flirting as long as the other person doesn't get the wrong idea, which men very often do. I wouldn't make a big deal about it, because you're right to think that it would just make a bigger deal out of things. I would leave it alone, who cares what other people think anyway, right? At the end of the day, the most important person you have to deal with is yourself.
2007-01-16 03:28:54 · answer #2 · answered by Meghan M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look you know what you did was just a little bit naughty and he called you out on it! So be a woman and fess up! Admit to him in front of whoever it was at work that you have a little crush and you just can't help yourself. Say it with a smile and tell him it is just innocent and you aren't going anywhere with it and apologize before he black males you for a b***job!! You may even want to tell your boyfriend first if you think he has a chance of finding out. You could start by asking him if he finds anyone attractive at work...etc... I know it sucks but it is the right thing to do. sorry, hon but you made this bed.
2007-01-16 03:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was his way of pointing out you have a boyfriend and really shouldn't be flirting with him unfortunately it may seem innocent but he now knows, even if you have a boyfriend it doesn't stop you from looking for greener pastures, either have respect for your boyfriend and stop flirting or dump him, as for the rumors at work, they have been going around for as long as you've been flirting with this guy unless everyone at work wears blinders
2007-01-16 03:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by undeniable 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but flirting is just unprofessional. If you have no intentions with this guy and you're worried about your bf and office rumors then you need to quit flirting with him.
Don't pull him aside because that will make things worse. But if you don't stop flirting then it will only get worse.
2007-01-16 03:30:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rumors are already there if you have been flirting with him.
Just back off from him and just 'talk' to him. No flirting. Have you or are you able to tell your boyfriend that you have been flirting with a guy at work and have him be ok with it? If you can't tell him, you shouldn't be doing that.
2007-01-16 03:29:11 · answer #6 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respond in kind answer his question around other co-workers by telling him your BF is fine cause he knows that it is all in fun and he knows you will never do anything. This pretty well explains the situation to the co-workers and to the guy you are flirting with.
2007-01-16 03:28:23 · answer #7 · answered by rcbricker33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest to quit flirting all together and withdraw from the situation. And don't talk to him. He was quite immature for saying what he did and in front of other people.
2007-01-16 03:28:19 · answer #8 · answered by MiMi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirting is crossing the line!!! HAVE a good talk with him ASAP. Good luck!!
2007-01-16 03:27:50 · answer #9 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would pull him aside and explain it to him or just tell your boyfriend the truth about what is going on so he knows the truth before it gets back to him and then there will be trouble between you and him
2007-01-16 03:29:59 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋