How can I tactfully end the sex part but keep the friendship bit, as he is a good friend, but not really a good boyfriend. I don't want to make him hate me and I still want to see him sometimes, is this possible? Do you have a similar experience, and if so, how did it turn out.
2007-01-16 03:21:37 · 19 answers · asked by helloha06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be open and honest with him. If he truly cares about you, he'll stick by you without the sex.
2007-01-16 03:25:36 · answer #1 · answered by dead_end_lies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some relationships arent meant to be for whatever it was lacking, and it is ok because there is always room for improvement. You might want to tell him you don't want to be in the relationship with him depending on how long you have been seeing him. Let him know that you just want to be friends with him and why, if he is and kind of person like you met then he will understand and have no problem. He may not hate you but it is hard to say what his reactions will be when you do tell him, he wants to see you socially instead of how you see someone in a relationship then it is ok if you and him decide to hang out at the coffee shop or bookstore as a hangout being friends, you seem to have made you mind up, now it is up to you to tell him. Be sincere and civilized.
2007-01-16 03:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doubtful you can keep the friendship after you end it. That is why you should NEVER get sexually involved with a friend unless you have both fallen in love while friends and think it would lead to a long term relationship. I have always avioded this sort of situation and have several good male friends that I have been friends with for a long time.
2007-01-16 03:29:28 · answer #3 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your not happy there is no point staying a relationship, you just need to be honest with him. If he wants to make you happy, then he should accept this, if he doesnt accpet this then maybe you better off letting things cool for a while. I'm shure he will come round when he sees what a great person you are for being honest with him in the first place. I'm sure all will work out fine.. good luck! x
2007-01-16 03:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by rosiieish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAH! Good luck, thats tough. There are always going to be negative feelings breaking up, and the best you can do is talk to him. Tell him you want to marry him and in order for you to do that he needs to be a really good boyfriend, see if he changes, if not say you have some things to think about and need to be out of the relationship to do so, then see if he changes.
2007-01-16 03:28:38 · answer #5 · answered by Dave ! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't waste anymore time with this than you need to. Tell him you are looking for something more in a long term mate and let him know what it is. It maybe something that he can fulfill. If not then let him know that it is not going to work out and that you want to remain friends. See what happens
Don't Fight! Communicate.
2007-01-16 03:26:24 · answer #6 · answered by rcbricker33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, it'd work better the other way around. Keep the sex part and get rid of the "friend" part. You win both ways.
2007-01-16 03:55:41 · answer #7 · answered by KD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to be upfront with him and tell him how you feel about him and about sex with him. If he has feelings other than lust for you then the friendship might just survive. Good luck
2007-01-16 03:28:59 · answer #8 · answered by Alfie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really cares about u he wouldnt hate u but also if he does really loves u then he may not want to see the one he loves that didnt return it everyday or on a strictly friendship bases
2007-01-16 03:31:10 · answer #9 · answered by tessa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you really enjoy his company, but you don't feel comfortable being that close. Let him know that you want to date causally and see what happens. Good Luck.
2007-01-16 03:25:45 · answer #10 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋