When I was 17, I had a fight with my younger brother. He ended up punched me on the left side of my face. It swells but I refused to go the clinic because of my stubbornness. I was so hurt inside rather than the outside. My face swells and I totally looked like a lion!
I thought it was just a swollen face. It did not. My bone structure slightly moved to the right. Therefore, my right cheekbone was slightly higher than the left. My nose bones also slightly moves to the right. Yet, my nose looks higher than before. People will be able to notice it if they take a careful and closer look. This has affected my self-esteem and confidence. I am a perfectionist; ever since the incident, I do not see a point of being one.
I am not going to say something that will look like I am a vain and shallow minded person, but I kept getting compliments about my looks before what had happened to me. I kept denying but they kept telling me. Nevertheless, I kept hearing the same thing up until now, after five years.
I hate wearing make up, but ever since that occurrence, I have to put on some highlights on my left cheekbone to give a balance effect whenever I go out.
In addition, shadings on my nose too..
It is not obvious, even my boyfriend said that. However, I am not over with what had happened and always wish that I could turn back time. I am not holding any retribution against my brother though.
My question is how can I get over this unbalanced features?
I know my problem is nothing compared to the world doldrums out there or someone who has lost one of his or her legs, arms, or even loved ones.
But my heart is crying for help, furthermore I am extremely soft at heart and the fact that I loss my face over some worthless fight with my brother kills me even more. Of course I do know beauty from the inside matters even more and it will radiates the external beauty. It is hard for me because I am about to be a flight attendants hence look is important.
I never cry over what had taken place, only that at times, I cannot sleep thinking about it..
Yes, perhaps looks are important to me.. However, I never judge the other individual just by looking at their face. Ever.
Is there anything I can do medically to correct my bone structure?
On the other hand, are the any possibilities that I could “weirdly” plant something on my left cheekbone so it will appear even? Thank you guys so much for reading.
Love you guys. And for those who are about to despise me, I do not have anything to say.
2007-01-16 03:18:02 · 12 answers · asked by simarvld 2 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body ➔ Other - Skin & Body
I would go to a doctor if you are saying that your bone structure slightly changed after getting hit like that...even if it was a long time ago. I am sorry that you are going through what you're going through. That's horrible.
Def go to the doctor because this sounds like this is affecting your self esteem and such...
best wishes to u.
2007-01-16 04:36:11 · answer #1 · answered by kristina807 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi S.K.W.
To be brutally honest the more you mess with things the worse they get. I know this is very serious for you & so I will give you a serious answer. The problems you are experiencing are in your mind, (dont get me wrong I hear you when you say that your face has changed slightly) but because there is little physically that you could ( or should) do. then I suggest that you have to begin to learn how to live with it. I actually have a slight dark mark under one eye which goes back to years ago when my friend got so excited when our horse won ( we were at Newcastle racecourse) his fingernail just caught me .. just completely accidental. of course I can still see it if I look for it in the mirror.. but I dont think people notice it really .. the main thing is that I have learned not to look for it & not to loose sleep over it. I am sure your brother feels guilty just like my friend .( his is still my friend ) & your brother will always be your brother.I hope you can forgive him. I am a bit older now so I just think it adds a bit to my character.ha ha .. tgc
2007-01-16 13:10:09 · answer #2 · answered by healer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that beauty is everything either,however I do understand where you are coming from.Looks in this world today are very important unfortunately.If you a very worried about maybe you should seek out a plastic surgeon to see what options are available to you..My personal opinion is: not to go through with it if you get the chance for plastic surgery,because you sound like a very nice and intelligent person and also I think people come in all shapes,sizes and looks and that's what truly makes the world beautiful....Love yourself -cuz when you got joy on the inside it shows on the out,be confident and your beautiful without a doubt..
2007-01-16 03:39:11 · answer #3 · answered by Art 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you girl! I think your issue is all pyschological. Perhaps you should wear a placard around your neck with your question above written on it in large type. Anyone who notices your 'imperfection' will be understanding of it after reading your story. The cost of making that sign would be a lot less than spending thousands of dollars on facial surgery. I'm sure you look great, you have a boyfriend, embrace your face as it is and let yourself shine!
2007-01-16 05:54:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be one of those things that only you notice. i am sure your brother feels bad too. Good luck with what ever you do. Be careful about plastic surgery though, it is not for everyone. Some people have bad alergic reactions or just dont heal right. If you do decide that this is the way to go, make sure you have a good doctor and check references.
2007-01-16 04:29:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are very stressed over this, obviously if you are loosing sleep over it. My advice would be to go visit with a couple different cosmetic surgeons. Surgery is a big deal, and shouldn't be taken lightly, but if it would help correct this flaw you see in yourself, it might be worth it to you. I wouldn't be ashamed to seek out a surgeons advice on this. People spend so much money on their hair, wardrobe, etc... do it for your own self esteem. You seem like a good person, not shallow or vain. Good luck!
2007-01-16 05:28:22 · answer #6 · answered by Amy M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what the hell i bet you u r still lovely have you been the doctors to see if they can help ?and the prettiest people wear make up lol and if it makes it look better then what the hell i think the promblem is phycological and i bet u u cant even tell there is nothing wrong i think that you really need 2 sort this out be4 it eats u up in side and good luck
2007-01-16 03:25:52 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ღ☆ shoesaholic ☆ღ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are over reacting. Too much makeup and attempting to disguise something that only you can see won't woek. Get somebody to beat the **** outta your brother for punching you. He's a piece of crap for hittin a woman!
2007-01-18 06:58:02 · answer #8 · answered by Hugh G. Rekshun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try going to see a professional beautician first ,and ask her advice she may just tell you its not noticable and your worries are unfounded , or help you on the path to regaining your confidence again
2007-01-16 03:53:59 · answer #9 · answered by tim b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you but could you find the answer on a medical website, I hope it works out for you.
2007-01-16 03:29:03 · answer #10 · answered by Robin C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋