my boyfriend of a year and a half has recently told me that he wants to try other things( have sex with other people) and put our long term thing on hold until later on when he is ready..... i love him and he says he loves me and my heart says wait for him but my mind says leave....i dont know what to do.....this was the person that promised me forever and now im so lost and lonely.....please give me your input....should i leave or wait till he realizes that im the best thing thats ever happened to him?.......i have given this man my all and i still want to i just need to know if im being stupid if i do
2007-01-16 03:15:18 · 22 answers · asked by sexy love 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes wait till at least 10.50
2007-01-16 03:53:52 · answer #1 · answered by conan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow! I can't imagine what your going through right now. The feeling that your not enough for the person that is most important in your life.
I've seen it before though, it's sad.
There could be a few logical reasons why he would come to this.
One fact for sure is. HE DOESN'T WANT TO BE WITH YOU. I don't know how to be any clearer than that.
As women we sometimes fog our thoughts with confusion and excuses so that we don't have to face the truth. But you have to ask yourself, if my friend or sister were to ask me this same question what would I tell her?
I know you think its more complicated that that, but in reality it isn't.
Infact its clear as day. HE WANTS OTHER WOMEN.
Why else would you want to "see" other people?
If you let him string you along then you'll be that poor sucker that he always goes back to when his other prospects are unavailable for whatever reason.
Don't do it, stand your ground. Tell him how you feel and leave it at that.
You are worth more than that.
Don't compromise your own happiness so he can have his cake and eat it too.
One more thing, when someone is love, truly loved, she will be the center of his universe. Other women won't matter to him because he is deeply in love.
If you let this guy do this to you then you will be in a world full of hurt.
He may not be the guy for you afterall. We all make mistakes.
If he doesn't want to listen to reason then you need to leave.
It will hurt, but I promise with all my heart that you will heal. You will be stronger and more experienced because of this.
Good luck to you
2007-01-16 11:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by roquerobin2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you then he would not want anything or anybody Else. It sound like you are committed to this relation ship but he is not. And if you say it is okay that you will wait for him he may hot come back or he will then he will walk all over for the rest of your life. It is time in your life to set down the law as to how you are going to be treated. If someone really loves you then they are going to think of you first and put all there time and energy into you and your relationship. As I am a guy I would have to say it is my way or the high way and if you leave don't come back because I am not waiting for you.
2007-01-16 11:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by Chris D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason that you boyfriend wants to put your long term relationship on hold is he might want to play the field and see what happens, maybe he will find something he is looking for maybe he won't. You have to ask yourself what if he tell you he wants to break up the relationship? then you are going to have to figure out what you plan to say to him then. It is your personal choice whether you wait or you move on. Just give it some more time and if something happens then accept it as there won't be much you can do. I am sure he knows what you have done on your part to make it work. Just see what happens then after that, figure out what youw ant to do next.
2007-01-16 11:25:18 · answer #4 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People in this country need to read an anthropology book. 80% of the societies in this world allow a man to marry more than one woman. All mammal species that have sex dimorphism (male larger than female) are polygynous, meaning one male with many female sex partners. Most marriages end in divorce and most men cheat. Men naturally want variety. Wanting variety has nothing to do with whether one loves ones partner, it is natural. Read the study that found the best predictor of adultery was availability of opportunities to cheat. Don't listen to me, look these things up.
2007-01-16 11:39:34 · answer #5 · answered by john d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him. Someone that is really in love with you does not want to "try things with other people" and if you put yourself on hold for him, you are just going to be a doormat that gets no respect.
Stand firm and if he really loves you he will realize that he has made a mistake and come back to you.
If he doesn't, then you don't want him anyway.
2007-01-16 11:26:03 · answer #6 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait for him. He is looking to see if he can find someone "better". If you are not good enough for him, let him go. Don't waste your time on someone that won't commit to you. If you are still single when he is ready to come back, that is when you can decide if you want to pursue things again...... kick him to the curb, even though it hurts really bad. Would be a shame if you decided to wait, and missed your opportunity for true love with someone else, while he ends up finding his true love, and then you are alone for even longer until you find another love.
2007-01-16 11:44:51 · answer #7 · answered by hello 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if a person asked to try new things, that means he/she is getting bored with the relationship. And when it happens, they would start dating other people but when they dont get the same feeling as what they feel during your relationship, then they will come back. Its just a matter of accepting them back or not.
2007-01-16 11:23:38 · answer #8 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the saying goes: If you love something let it go. If it comes back, it was meant to be.
You can't force somebody to realize you are right for them. If you truly love him, but he wants to try other things and see other people, stick around as his friend and be there for him when he falls. If it is true, eventually he will come around. Just don't take it too hard if he finds somebody else.
2007-01-16 11:23:12 · answer #9 · answered by dead_end_lies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its time to move on , that is what he is telling you ..hes just being a coward at doing so. Plus if you do give this to him and wait for him ho will think that he can do anything and get away with it.
Good Luck girl
2007-01-16 11:19:39 · answer #10 · answered by texas_krystle_23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definetly
2007-01-16 11:21:46 · answer #11 · answered by OMG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋