My girl has dropped some hints regarding how she likes women and would like to have an expierence with one including me. If we both agree is it cheating? And if or when this occurs will she be jealous or will I be jealous? Can a long term relationship exist under these circumstances or is it domed to fail? I care about her greatly and I don't want to lose her over satisfing some fantasies.
2007-01-16 03:13:09 · 12 answers · asked by Lilbear 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to realize that doing this is like playing Russian roulette. You have to understand that yes if you do it, it can ruin a relationship. But at the same time you may both dig it and you both may have something in common that is very psychically satisfying for both of you. I am not saying that you should not do it, but talking about it, is much different then actually doing it. If you really care about this person, and you see that it could last, then I would say no. You never know how it is going to go when the act is being caried out. She may mown a different way or show that she is more satisfied by that other partner, and that can lead you to look at her different. This is something that you have to realize may happen. But if you are both looking for a good time, do it. It is something that can be very gratifing, but I wouldn't build a relationship off that. Hope this helps. Thanks
2007-01-16 03:34:24 · answer #1 · answered by Tyler C 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If all are in accord, then it's not cheating. However, be fully prepared for things to not go as planned and for one or both of you to be bitter over this. My husband wanted a 3-some with another woman. I agreed as long as I could have one with he and another guy. He said OK , thinking I would never actually want him to fulfill his end of the bargain. He picked out the woman he wanted to include in our bedroom and I picked out the man and told my husband that I'd spoken to the man and he was willing. Boy did the doo doo hit the fan after that (which to be honest, was what I was counting on). The whole thing was called off. My plan worked brilliantly, if I do say so myself. Anyhow, I've known couples who are into the swinger lifestyle and it always seems to go sour one way or another - if not immediately, then down the line somewhere. Be ready for major sour grapes.
2007-01-16 11:26:38 · answer #2 · answered by Lilith 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on her and you
Most of the time fantasies are best left as fantasies .... the reality isn't that great.
But if she likes doing this, and you don't she will eventually leave anyways. So ask her what she really feels is best, and if she says 3 some, then you do it.
If you both regret it afterwards, youll be closer to each other, and have something to talk about anyways.
Personally, I think its immoral. But that doesn't help you out much
2007-01-16 11:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by Dave ! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't have to ruin your relationship. Only you would know if you would be jealous of her and the same goes for her. I think a long term relationship CAN exist, but you'll have to remember why you're doing this threesome...To have fun and experience something new with somone you care about... Plus, it's a freaking threesome! ;)
2007-01-16 11:20:05 · answer #4 · answered by Your Maker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not cheating if you both are a part of the act. All the other questions can only be answered AFTER the fact because time will tell.
2007-01-16 11:18:18 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you both agreed to it, then you should not worry about it. Make sure you let her know that you are only doing this to satisfy her fantasy and it wont change your relationship with each other. If it does, it will just make your relationship better and stronger.
Good Luck!
2007-01-16 11:17:57 · answer #6 · answered by Jon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A relationship can exist over this, but you shouldn't rush into it to test the relationship. There has to be a strong foundation of trust in place first.
2007-01-16 11:17:21 · answer #7 · answered by dead_end_lies 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cool
2007-01-16 11:21:25 · answer #8 · answered by OMG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both would have to be totally acceptable to the idea. Have a long talk with your g/f and ask all these questions. Good luck.
2007-01-16 11:24:21 · answer #9 · answered by yooper guy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
g/f and i do this quite frequently. it has not caused a strain on our relationship, even though we know the girls(s) who join us rather well. You should just keep your trust in each other that this would be the right thing for both of you.
2007-01-16 11:56:22 · answer #10 · answered by Rocket 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋