Im 28 years old my BF is 32 wev been together for 7 months wev been liveing together for about a month,hes great with my kids and treats us all vary good,but when i first told him I loved him he told me honestly that he wont say it back till hes 100% sure he loves me.I understand and respect that ,its been a few months sience I told him the first time and when I tell him he still says "I know".He tells me he cares for me alot and I make him happy ,he says Im so good to him ,too good he says sometimes.He was hurt vary badly by his ex wife they divorced 3 years ago and Im the first real relationship hes been in sence then I know he dosent have feelings for her anymore but he still carys the scars of her betrayal.I guess I just want to know if Im just being impatiant or if thairs something im doing wrong.Will he ever love me?
2007-01-16 03:02:13 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry to say friend he doesnt love u...be positive
2007-01-16 03:07:44 · answer #1 · answered by mprosenjit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy you love , loves you then he will when he is ready to say "I love you", Think about it he has been divorced and carries some scars from the fact, and is still hurting on the inside after what his ex-wife did and it will be like that for awhile, things like this don't get better over night. Although I do suggest that you and him have a private conversation without the kids around so you can better understand him and get some insight. There is nothing wrong with being sure you love someone, that way you don't have to debate whether this is right or wrong. If he tell you he cares about you don't question it, and since he loves kids there seems to be no problem there. It might help him if he talked to someone if not you, so he can get through the pain and personal anguish that is going on or he will never completely move on with his life and you and him will never get anywhere not even down the aisle if he plans to marry again. He will love you in his own time and when he feel like he can move past blocks in his life that have been keeping him back. it will take some time, no doubt about that. You should talk to him more but don't push the subjects to much or he will avoid it and you will have more problems on your hands. Patience is one of the ways to keep things in line in a relationship but it is also an open mind and communication at all levels. If he is any guy he will appreciate your concern and maybe talk to you but when he is ready.
2007-01-16 03:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's coming out of a bad marriage and he wants to be certain. I commend him for acknowledge the significance of the phrase. Look at it this way...Doesn't he say it with his actions? I know it's nice to hear it as well, but keep in mind it doesn't always need to be verbal. He'll say it when he's ready, I'd rather see it everyday than hear it said once without meaning.
2007-01-16 03:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by nikbern525 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its going to come...not right away. just keep showing him that you wont hurt him and that you love and care for him. soon the wounds will disapate and be gone. it'll take a while, so be patient with him. he is being honest with you when he says he cares for you. when he's ready he'll tell you the "i love you." most likely you wont be expecting it. jsut be patient and keep loving him, and remind him from time to time (not always) that you love him.
2007-01-23 07:18:29 · answer #4 · answered by Em 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Can't Hurry Love
2007-01-16 03:09:20 · answer #5 · answered by David 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time to heal all wounds. Be patient with him and I am certain that he will tell you those words you so badly want to hear.
2007-01-16 03:07:54 · answer #6 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Appreciate that he will say it when he means it. Appreciate that he is good to you and your child. Love comes when it comes. Let it ride.
2007-01-16 03:06:47 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He loves you now but just can't say it.
2007-01-24 02:07:27 · answer #8 · answered by caribbeanmeme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋