My girl lives with her parents, I live with my mom and money is tight. We watch tv and movies and fall asleep doing that. We are going to the bar tonight but I cant go out like this all the time. She said that just being with me is good enough, but she doesnt like staying over my place because of my mom and I dont like being at her house all the time because Im sure her parents dont want me there that much even though they like me. We are a pretty serious couple, we want to get a place together in the summer. Im just worried she will get bored of the same old thing. So you see we are very restricted, will this inevitably hurt our relationship. I want to trust that if she loves me that being with me is enough.
2007-01-16 02:59:54 · 17 answers · asked by 1authority 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you both love each other, then it should not hurt your relationship. She has stated that being with you is good enough, and you both have talked about getting a place together soon.
2007-01-16 03:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Smooth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been doing the same old thing with my husband for 8 years, since we started dating. I am not bored with him and haven't left him, we find things we like to do together, even if that is just playing a video game or watching a movie. We try to get out for dinner just the two of us when we can, which ends up being about once a month. Sometimes it's a few months before we can get out, but it's worth it when we do. If you can survive the day to day boring stuff together you should be able to handle the hard stuff. Stick it out and communicate. If you can't imagine life without her why not marry her?
2007-01-16 12:13:17 · answer #2 · answered by Jnine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't stress too much about the situation. There are tons of things to do that are different and do not cost money. Take a walk and talk about your deepest thoughts. Play a game at the park or push each other on the swings. Some of these things may sound childish, but they are things that do not cost money and are still being with the person you love.
2007-01-16 12:54:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she truly loves you, it will be enough, and if its not enough, she will talk to you about it and work it out. But yes it is hard and to keep it exciting you will have to put extra effort into keeping it interesting (isn't she worth that?) so- take a walk to the coffee shop for coffee and pastries... alot of coffee shops will have board games. Icecream shop such as Coldstone Creamery makes for a cheap date.
I will tell you my personal situation with money and boredom in a relationship a while back- I was with my boyfriend 2 years, pretty serious. All he wanted to do was sit around and watch TV. I hated going to his house because of his parents and he was simply not allowed at mine. I HATED sitting around. He would sit and play video games and make me basically watch him. I would ask to go somewhere and he would tell me, "But we just got back from the grocery store," ask to go on a walk and he would tell me he didn't feel like it. Thing is, it wasn't the money, but how bored he made me feel, and how little he cared thats how he made me feel- so since you're concerned enough to write this, just put a little effort into it... and do what you can... if your relationships meant to work out, it will through the tough odds.
Goodluck.
2007-01-16 11:22:05 · answer #4 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been living with my boyfriend since May '06. Our money is very tight also and I do get bored with staying at home all the time. However, I wouldn't trade him for the world. Something that really helps our situation is when we do go out, one of us pays for dinner, the other pays for the movie; if we go to the bar, one will pay to get in, the other pays for the drinks and/or pool. But, like I said, I wouldn't trade him for the world. If your girl drops you just because y'all never go out, it's time to reconsider the relationship.
2007-01-16 11:16:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very careful, before you think about moving in with her or taking things to a more "serious" level, you'll need to resolve a few things. What do you want out of this relationship? Are you willing to let her make you pay all the way? Are you willing to basically work to support her whims? If she's involved with you, she has to understand that you, your mom and everything that comes with you is part of the package. Think twice about what she's really after. Good luck, pal.
2007-01-16 11:03:37 · answer #6 · answered by Reo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always afford to have a good time cheaply. Take her on walks through a park. Go Eagle watching together. Take a picnic lunch to the Holiday Inn swim dome and pretend your staying there and enjoy the pool together. Go roller skating together it's cheap. Go bowling together it's cheap. Buy her daisiys instead of roses. Do crossword puzzles together. Play board games together. Take a mutually agreeable class together maybe photograpy or art/music appreciation. Go to wineries and taste wine together (free). All kinds of stuff out there that is free or nearly so.
2007-01-16 11:08:50 · answer #7 · answered by Ole Charlie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you love each other, it shouldn't matter if you can afford to go out all the time. If you love each other and are content to hang out and watch movies, then talk to her parents about it. I'm sure her parents will understand. She should at least be able to put up with your parents for you. If she can't, then it may be time to find someone who can.
2007-01-16 11:05:08 · answer #8 · answered by dead_end_lies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many things you could do that won't cost much such as going to the beach. Window shopping, walk in a park or visit the zoo. Do something that both of you like as long as 2 people like it. How can one be bored if they like it.
2007-01-20 08:27:53 · answer #9 · answered by White Wings F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont like staying at each others houses all of the time go somewhere that doesnt cost money, if your just hanging out go window shopping or something youll learn a lot about each other by doing that
2007-01-16 11:07:32 · answer #10 · answered by Meredith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋