I have been seeing him for a couple of months and although he seems very nice, when we are out together he openly stares at other women. He also talks about how good the sex was once with his ex, and how they are just memories. He is not a teenager, so is he just plain stupid, or is this completely normal to disrespect your girlfriend in this way. I can't help but think he is stupid although I like him a lot, what do you think? This is serious for me so good advice only please.
2007-01-16 02:54:55 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Doesn't sound like he is in to you that much if he is looking at other women. Keep your guard up and see what happens in the future and don't let yourself go if you are not sure about him.
2007-01-16 03:01:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eventhough this relationship between you and him have been going on for two months, Some men stare at other women because it it something to do, whether his intentions was to hurt you in that manner , not sure but might something you might want to ask him if you are concerned. I don't think stupid is a good word, I am sure he is very smart. It seems that talking about sex with his ex is getting to you as well, and is not recommended on a date, because it stirrs emotions on the other person getting them to think sometimes whether it is a good idea for them to keep pursuing this relationship if it goes any further. Although what he may have , he may have realized that he was disrespecting you and I am sure he did not mean anything by it. Talk to him and let him know you like him, but he should leave out talking about his ex's and that you want to know why he stares at other women when in public. If he is any kind of the guy you think he will be then he will be forward with you or choose for the time being not answer it, but then if he can't look t you then you know you have a problem. Just keep going in relationship and see what happens maybe he will change, if you don't see anything better then consider moving on, just be sure to tell him and why.
2007-01-16 11:04:54 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He blatantly stares at other women and talks about how good sex with was his ex?
No, he can't be trusted and he lacks respect. (Of course, there is the slim chance that he has horrific social skills,)
Give him a taste of his own medicine.
Have one last date with him. Go to place with lots of men. Stare openly at them. Tell him all the way through the date how great your ex was in bed and how these are just memories to you now.
Watch him blow his top and then say sweetly "Gender equality is great, isn't it?"
Then walk away. Smiling.
2007-01-16 11:18:15 · answer #3 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His behaviour is a little insensitive to say the least. Perhaps he is overcompensating for being a little nervous etc. As a general rule, I don't think that it is a good idea to discuss past flames (especially sex lives) unless it is in context and relevant. Tell him that you find it upsetting and embarrassing and it hurts your feelings. If he does it again say to him "why did you do/say that, I told you that it upsets me" that way, he has to answer the question and can't laugh it off. Give him a chance - if he doesn't stop his behaviour get a man that only has eyes for you! They are out there............
2007-01-16 11:04:43 · answer #4 · answered by Bexs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say dump him. I've been out on a few first dates recently (well, not so much since I met my bf, but before him...) and you can tell the nice guys from the @$$holes. Checking out other women. Strike one. Talking about how sex was with his ex? That's worth strikes 2 AND 3. Leave him. Find a guy who keeps your eye contact. Throughout the whole evening. Even if his eyes are so gorgeous you're afraid to look in them on the first date. (Oh, wait, that was me on my first date with my bf...)
2007-01-16 11:02:57 · answer #5 · answered by Cheyenne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the same back and see if he likes it, tell him about your ex and how he was in bed, stare at other men preferably single ones so not to upset another female. When your b/f says he dont like it or gets moody explain to him your only doing it because he does. If it continues after trying this approach tell him you cant stay with him if he carries on behaving in this way.
2007-01-16 11:03:17 · answer #6 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a serious chat with him. Tell him staring at other woman all the time is not acceptable, nor is talking about previous sexual encounters. He might not even realize how much he does these things. If he doesn't stop, or if he criticize you for bringing it up, dump him.
2007-01-16 11:02:26 · answer #7 · answered by NeonLoveChicken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How rude to talk about sex with your ex. I really think you should dump him and wait for someone who likes and respects you enough to consider what you want in a relationship.
2007-01-16 11:08:09 · answer #8 · answered by Alfie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definitely NOT normal to disrespect your girlfriend! If this guy doesn't respect you now you can't expect him to respect you in any long term situation. I don't think you should tolerate it. Keep your standards high.
2007-01-16 11:02:00 · answer #9 · answered by Eric S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First he sudnt look at other women thats disprespectful, and if he talks about sex wiv other girlfriends then he is a jerk cuz obviously u dnt want to hear it so tell him and if he carrys on then dump him cuz personally i dnt think u can trust him. xx
2007-01-16 11:16:03 · answer #10 · answered by Kimmy xx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋