She is living with a guy who treats her like crap. He always talks down to her and he doesn't put any effort into their "relationship". She told me today that they are fighting all the time now because she is finally standing up for herself. I don't know why she stays with him! He treats her like she's stupid and he tells her what she can and cannot do! Everytime I try to talk to her about why she puts up with him she always comes up with an excuse, almost like she is in denile! HELP! What do I do? She won't leave him! She won't listen to me!
2007-01-16 02:50:39 · 8 answers · asked by bugeyed74 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be there for support and continue to try and get her to understand, that in most of those cases (if not all) things only get worst. I have seen it, and I have lived it with my ex,, and some of my sisters ex'es. Many guys go on this crazy trip that they are the macho man in charge of everything and it does not work like that anymore (and should have never), but I know it was a big thing in the caveman days. Women need to be treated equally, and given respect, and be able to have their own input without fear of getting yelled at. He sounds like a punk to me, I bet he won't even stand up to himself against a guy. Keep in mind, this guys needs to change, but he has to want to and make the effort. Good Luck and I hope things go well for your sister.
2007-01-16 02:59:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly this is a hard situaton. Before you can help, ur sister needs to open her eyes and realize that you are only trying to save her from somebody that shes to good for. Be careful with these type of problems because her bf may try to start something up with you. Just keep checkng on ur sister to make sure shes at least ok. You wouldnt want that jerk to do anything to her. I hope you can help her. Good Luck
2007-01-16 02:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Sheenah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does your sister think so little of herself yet you don't have the same attitude or low esteem?
You can't force her to do anything. But if she continues on this road, her esteem will plummet and this is how her whole life will be. She will continue to do the same abusive 'dance' only with a different partner.
You're sister needs counselling.
2007-01-16 03:02:04 · answer #3 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your sister learn a e-book referred to as "Co-Dependant No More" via Melodie Beatty. She is making an attempt to manage your offerings given that she believes you cannot do it for your possess. She is incorrect to try this, I agree. Now having mentioned that, I am nonetheless for your sisters part. You selected to force your vehicle after ingesting, & seem in which it obtained you. Now you mentioned that you simply admit that you simply "had slightly an excessive amount of to drink" That indicates to me that you're in denial approximately riding under the influence of alcohol. You uncover it less complicated to confess to "slightly an excessive amount of" than you do to being too under the influence of alcohol to get in the back of the wheel of your vehicle. You are also minimizing your accidents "only a few damaged bones, & stitches" You are fortunate that the one different casualty was once a application pole. Just earlier than Christmas, a tender mom was once killed via a under the influence of alcohol motive force in our neighborhood. She was once simply walking at the sidewalk whilst the under the influence of alcohol got here up around the sidewalk, & hit her so difficult that she flew one more 50 feet & her frame crumpled within the part of one more vehicle that was once parked desk bound in it is driveway. Now a few children haven't any mom, & the lifetime of the 25yo motive force is ruined. Your sister was once frightned via what she witnessed while you had your "twist of fate". The quickest manner you'll be able to close her up is to supply her assurances that you are going to NEVER DRIVE DRUNK AGAIN. The great manner you'll be able to guarantee her of that's to quit ingesting alcohol PERIOD. If you uncover that you simply cannot quit for your possess then search therapy in your dependancy. If you're surprised that I am suggesting that you've a challenge with alcohol then you definately ought to supply the probability a few attention. You have made a few dangerous offerings involving you, & ingesting. That's in which alcoholism begins. Good Luck!
2016-09-08 02:04:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always easier to judge the situation when you are not involved in it. It's her life and she's the one that has to live it.
2007-01-16 02:57:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this situation you cannot do much as your sister likes to suffer. you cant do much for her, only make her understand. if she does not leave her to fate.But i really feel bad for her.
2007-01-16 02:56:53 · answer #6 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing you can do untill she wants to leave be there for her is the best thing you can do untill she is finally had enough and wants to leave
2007-01-16 02:56:04 · answer #7 · answered by rshepeluk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
denile aint just a river..
2007-01-16 02:56:07 · answer #8 · answered by aaron 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋