Okay, I’m 25 and married. I have a beautiful 2 year-old daughter.
As for some business purposes, I went back to my hometown with my daughter for 2 months. In there, I hung out a lot with my girl friends and they are all still single.
I met some of their male friends and met some new guys as well. They all knew I was married, but I can’t understand why some of them seemed to like me a lot. I can name at least 5-6 guys who were really nice toward me. 3 in particular. They didn’t hope to be my bf, but they really cared about me a lot. They brought me presents on my birthday, gave a me a ride whenever I needed them, bought me medicine when I had cold, brought me to wherever I wanted to go for partying and dinner. They treated me so well. My girl friends are all single and are pretty, but why they didn’t show that much care as they showed to me? I consider myself a fun loving and quite attractive girl (I don’t know).
2007-01-16 02:45:48 · 30 answers · asked by Jasmine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When I left, there was this one guy brought me singing karaoke and he sang a few romantic songs for me. he wanted to cry and said he was gonna miss me a lot.
Few days before I was leaving, they all seemed very upset. All they could do was wishing me luck in life.
I’m just so curious why. Was it because I’m married so no string attached? Sex? Or are they really nice? I don’t know.. and I wanna know. Thank you all for spending time reading my long story. xoxo
2007-01-16 02:46:04 · update #1
Well, first of all, guys see married women as a challenge. It's like telling a child not to touch the cookie jar and then put it right in front of her. I'm newly married myself and I've found that a lot of guys want what they can't have. It's not like they really want to have a sexual relationship, but it's a competition thing amongst themselves as men. It's an incredible ego boost to them if they think they can make an attractive, yet married, woman forget about your husband to start something up w/ them.
The other side of the coin is they may see you as taken and don't have that fear of rejection b/c they know you're not interested in starting a romantic relationship b/c you're already taken. They know they don't have to impress you romantically, just platonically and that's much easier and safer for them. It's kind of like a comfort zone for them. They can get a female's point of view on different things in life w/o having to worry about if you're going to judge them or fighting w/ them.
Just be careful about hanging out w/ single guys b/c your husband may end up feeling like the threatened one in the fact that some available guy is trying to move in on his woman. Don't flirt and keep things as light and friendly as possible, but not too friendly, if you know what I mean! LOL Hope that helps!
2007-01-16 02:58:27 · answer #1 · answered by sweet libra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The safety of knowing you are taken and with child might have played something of a role. I would also think the men felt the need to look after you as the tender parts of them should! Yeah you are right also that it could have been sex related. I know of some men that only hit on married women just because they know most married men don't give their wives the attention they long for and probably since there wouldn't be any strings.
2007-01-16 02:53:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if ALL the guys there were really attached it could be that you were that easy going and the really connected to you. Maybe you were nicer to them then your friends were? I'm sure there were one or 2 that might have wanted to get you into bed. BUT not all guys are like that. Had they REALLY been interested in getting into your pants that would have definately tried before you left. So you might have actually met a fe sincere guys. BUT it is true though there are a few guys that ONLY seem to be attracted to married women but you can almost tell immediately who those guys are.
2007-01-16 02:50:38 · answer #3 · answered by ag2588101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not there are some men that are just nice, also there are some that just want the no strings thing. It the signals that you sent to tthem and maybe hung out with them? They may have thought that you were interested, plus it can be that you have a great personality and they could not resist you. But, them knowing your married may also just be an excitment for them to see if your were available for more, depends on what you did or said and allowing them to give you gifts may be taken that you were interested in more.
2007-01-16 04:10:24 · answer #4 · answered by P_a94 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they were just nice. I think that has to be a part of it. And as you are married and had your child with you they could spend time with fun, attractive woman without any strings. But that is just my opinion as a woman. I have a lot of great guy friends who aren't out for sex, I think!
2007-01-16 02:51:26 · answer #5 · answered by Elizabeth Howard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your an attractive woman who is married. This equals sex without attachments. It's also possible that some of these guys have not gotten the type of attention from an attractive women and were drawn to you because of it. One or the other.
2007-01-16 02:50:46 · answer #6 · answered by tHEwISE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are multiple forces happening here ...
First you are new to that area ... and new people always get the most attention.
Second ... you guessed it already ... you are already married so they don't have to worry about commitments with you.
Last ... is everyone wants what they can't have. Being married makes the guys wonder what you have that made someone commit their life to you and they are determined to find out.
I am curious how your husband felt about all this.
2007-01-16 02:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by RayCATNG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey none of these men tried it on, consider yourself priveliged to have met some genuinely nice men.
As to why they don't act the same around your friends? With your friends they have already built up a persona that they want to keep, with you they could act in any manner they wanted knowing you would be returning home.
Take your experience as a good one
2007-01-16 02:51:20 · answer #8 · answered by dave w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't go with the no strings attached argument. I ended up marrying the girl after a divorce. Maybe its just because you are nicer than all your friends.
2007-01-16 02:50:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you were my wife I would never let you back out of the house , did your husband know about this , if I was him I would not have been happy this kind of stuff could end a marriage . These guys were not bringing you presents for nothing .
2007-01-16 03:31:05 · answer #10 · answered by el diablo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋