just start treating you like you don't matter to him anymore? I left to the islands for the funeral of my grandmother...during that time this guy i've been seeing for 5 months was also on a job related assignment in another state. during that time he had a birthday. I called and spoke to him as often as I could while abroad even on his b'day.... now that I'm back he has made no effort to come see me and when I called him 3 times in 24 hours he had the nerve to say "didn't we speak 8 times for the day already..what do you want? are you bored?" and he sound really disgusted as if I was bothering him...truth is I'm in love with him. he and I would laugh and joke and just have so much fun together and all of a sudden here comes the dramatic changes. he's leaving for another assignment out of the country this week and he still hasn't made any effort to come see me. it hurt a lot...any advice?
2007-01-16 02:39:30 · 12 answers · asked by Mary S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First let me express my sympathy to you for the loss of your grandmother.Ok now from what you have said you clearly have more feeling's for him then he does for you,You deserve better don't settle for second best ever!To be very honest long distance relationships almost never work out.I would strongly reconsider what you want out of a relationship and find someone that can meet your expectations also if he does not condiser your feeling's that is a big red flag.Good luck to you.
2007-01-16 02:56:50 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some space. I know that's not what you want to hear but when males start behaving like this something is wrong. The next time you call him be prepared to tell him how you feel. Right now he is treating you as if your some sort of annoying little girl. It sounds like your really hurt by this so give him some breathing room. The last thing you want to do is behave unreasonably. Sometimes guys can be jerks but I'm sure he's not telling you something. So, if you love him like you say you do. Own up and tell him how you feel. Hopefully things work out and if they don't you can always do so much better by finding someone who loves you in return. Good luck!!!
p.s. sorry about your grandmother.
2007-01-16 10:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by blufiah_tam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Odviously you didn't get the messege the first time.If somone treats you like dirt then it's there issue to deal with not yours DON'T LET NOBODY treat you like that.Tell them this much:I am special to me and thats enough to leave Yo Butt Alone...
2007-01-16 10:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by gblue52 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is getting ready to let you go. He has either found someone else or is getting ready to. It is going to hurt but it sounds like it is time for you to move on, he already has. Good luck
2007-01-16 10:53:14 · answer #4 · answered by exodus64_1996 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Forget about him, he didn't love you all along, he was using you just to accomplish his aims, now that he's found another he's gone. A stitch in time, saves nine.
2007-01-16 10:49:19 · answer #5 · answered by meandmineownself 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you want a different type of relationship and that maybe you have to worry about his feelings towards you...I would in the situation.
2007-01-16 10:47:45 · answer #6 · answered by utahbugtussel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if a guy treat u so..maybe there are some misunderstanding and u should speak to him about it...if he doesn't wanna explain himself,just forget about him...
2007-01-16 10:47:20 · answer #7 · answered by su_quinn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are smothering him. You need to fill your time with activities that are fun and that you can do without him.
2007-01-16 10:44:51 · answer #8 · answered by rcbricker33 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hey don't take it seriously.....may be he is having his own tensions and having a hard time in his job........ so try to understand him and be his courage in this time.......i m sure he will love u more for that.
2007-01-16 10:46:12 · answer #9 · answered by mausamifrench 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not that into you, babe. Move on and find someone worth your time. Good luck!
2007-01-16 10:46:25 · answer #10 · answered by spyhopper 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋