we dated for 2 yrs but argued a lot.he mentioned marriage.i dumped him out of nowhere.5 months later,we tried to make it work again but break up.i force myself to see other guys,but can't stop thinking of my x.he moves on and starts a new relationship.after a month,he gets in a huge fight with her/tells me he's going to dump her/uses me for sex/next day changes his mind.this shook me bc he's not the type to cheat.she dumps him for other reasons.i later find out from the girl that they never had sex.during this,i meet a guy that's ok,but still not as great as my x.my x sees a new girl but spends way more time with me than her.she ended up going for her x anyway.2 weeks later,my x puts my pics on his dorm wall/wants to hold hands.we makeout.i still love him but am afraid.i tell him i only want 2 b friensd with benefits.he confesses that he wants a relationship/says that he won't have sex with me otherwise.i hesitate/he is hurt/ignores me.later,i agree to give him another chance.
ADVICE?
2007-01-16 02:38:43 · 9 answers · asked by stelze 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry, I haven't got any advice. This is the biggest jumbled up goings on I ever read so early. Time to lite somewhere, I'd say.
2007-01-16 02:50:05 · answer #1 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him one more change. It seems like you guys go back and forth a lot! If this doesn't work out this time I would forget about him. You can't keep putting yourself through it if it doesn't work. I understand you love him still, that's how I used to be with my x boyfriend but I DID finally meet someone better, if it doesn't work out, just keep trying with other guys, you'll eventually find the right one. Just be careful with your x.
2007-01-16 02:44:20 · answer #2 · answered by Angel*Eyesz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so u love him but wants to have benefits makes no sense which means u r confuse
get some time alone and think about things
dont lead this kid on cuz obviously he likes u
dont be cruel
good luck
if u take a good amount of time to think things thru
will make a valid judgement
good luck
2007-01-16 02:46:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't seem to me like there is love here. it seems more like hey nothing worked out and iam lonely, i will lean on this person because they are there for me. because if it had worked out with the other person believe me u wouldn't be in the picture anymore. guys like to have alot of lit candles in case the others start dimming out. i think u should be friends until u truly are ready to commit to one another and not date anyone else.
2007-01-16 02:46:31 · answer #4 · answered by gracy808 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two should move to opposite sides of the country and see if that will help you break this perpetually unhealthy relationship.
2007-01-16 02:43:23 · answer #5 · answered by rcbricker33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down and concentrate on your relationship. If is breaks up again, take that as a hint to move on.
2007-01-16 02:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let yourself to be confuse all the time.
ignore him,he's so confuse in himself,then he make u get confuse more and more.
so ignore him. he's piece of s..hi....t
there are lots of guys on the street. i'm sure there is a good one for u,but u have to be patient and take time.
the world is so big girl...............
2007-01-16 02:48:03 · answer #7 · answered by kikk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you have some serious self-esteem issues.
After all that you still put up with it?
2007-01-16 02:44:10 · answer #8 · answered by Philly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we dated for 2 yrs but argued a lot..............LISTEN UP... if you ever argue out of hand with no respect to a decent dissagreement, your relationship will fail again.
2007-01-16 02:44:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋