What would you do?

Question

Ok its like this...i split up with my long term boyfriend over a year ago - his choice not mine, we still live together, in the sense that i share a house with a mate and he sleeps on the sofa cos he has no money/no job. I still love him and he knows this only too well. I found out a couple of weeks back that he has been seeing someone else for quite a while - unfortunatly me and him had still been "more than friends" when he started seeing her and for several months into his new relationship...now ive just been told that he is planning to move in with her in a couple of weeks - he has not had the guts to tell me this himself and ive not confronted him yet..i feel a bit used since ive let him stay with me so long and feel he has taken advantage of the fact im in love with him and knows i will do anything for him. Ive got to confront him about it but how? - he took it really badly that i found out about his other women cos some else told me behind his back.

Answer 1

Ok... Im not going to be like all these other chicks so... I think you should start of with "Do you have something you want to tell me?" and if he says no then say "are you sure?..." And see where it goes from there. If it doesnt work or you need more help you can add my msn messenger: [e-mail] or my yahoo messenger: kelsie_marie2006 or email me: [e-mail].

Answer 2

If he took it badly when you found out about others, he should have told you about this one himself!
I would confront him by packing his bags and throwing him out TODAY! He's been using you, not just for somewhere to live and eat, but to sleep with as well.
Be strong and stand up to him, he's taking advantage of your love and kindness in a massive way, put an end to it because you're the one who will suffer.
Good Luck

Answer 3

You should definately tell the other women about what he's been doing with you at the beginning of their relationship, no matter how uncomforable it may feel to you.
Don't let her move in and go through all that trouble when she might not be with him if she knows the truth. Would you want to know if you were in her situation?
I wouldn't bother talking to him. I read the book "He's just not that into you" in the past and it helped me and made me laugh at the same time.

Answer 4

i see it this way you guys split up, ok his call, but you moved on with some one and meanwhile you were helping your x out in a tough situation.that was nice of you it sounds like you have a big heart and would do anything for him,but it sound like to me that he is moving on with his life as well ,but doesnt want to hurt your feelings about it either ,,just for the mean time focus on with what you have, then what you dont have , things happen for many reasons and maybe you 2 can remain friends ,but you can never turn back to the way it use to be ,just keep doing what your doing with your new life and dont let the x drag you down you live for today and what is in front of you.

Answer 5

First and foremost (take this how you want)... A man will only do what you allow them to do, so if you allowed him to stay there and continued to have sexual interaction with him, that's your choice. He won't refuse because he's a guy. You should of been questioning him all along, but since that time has passed you need to tell him look we need to talk ASAP. You guys need to have a sit down and talk, sounds like your hurting and you do not need to put yourself through that any longer. Sometimes we just have to walk away.

Answer 6

What are you waiting for? Should he also piss all over you and kick you in the face a few times? How about if he steals some money from your wallet too.....

YOU GOT USED. STOP LOVING SOMEONE WHO IS A JERK.

Log off, grab his crap, throw it in a garbage bag and deposit it on the lawn with a big sign that lets him know your place is no longer his home.

Be thankful that loser slug is out of your life.

Answer 7

It sounds like he doesn't really care about you anymore. Youre just something to satisy his needs. If he's been seeing this other girl and is really planning to move in with her then let him go. If yo uwant to confront him about it then just be like "hey so when are you moving so i can have my couch back?" I'm sure he was upset that you found out about the other girl. He was upset because someone blew him up and he couldn't keep his secret anymore. Lose the loser honey. You deserve better.

Answer 8

First of all No Job second No Money hmm it looks like someone is taking a huge problem off your hands cause you paying the rent the utility's food etc. Let someone else pay for him I dont care how good he shags all he is being is a gigolo to anyone that will support his azz. has he tried to sell you swamp land 2?

Answer 9

WHen you bring this up, don't make a big deal out of it.

Don't start off saying "We have to talk" that'll already send him into his cocoon and won't come out.

Just mention it non-chalantly while you guys are playing chess or watching a movie and don't show him that you still love him when you ask that question.

After all he's the one who dumped you babe, you should've moved on long ago.

Answer 10

well, you kind of put yourself in this position. you let him live there when he had no job and no money. he was doing exactly what you said, taking advantage of you, but you let him. i would confront him and tell him has an hour to get out. he is not worth it and has moved on. you need to also, but you need to get his lazy mooching @ss off your couch today!!!

good luck!

i take that back, don't give him an hour. listen to the person that told you to throw his sh&t out! i also agree with the person that said to let this girl know how intimate you all have been. screw him over like he has been screwing you over!