What do I do?

Question

I don't know how to get over my ex. HELP!!!!!!

Answer 1

i wouldnt advise u to date yet but i do advise u to get bz doin sumtin else hang out wit ur frenz...do sumtin spontaneous or maybe u can run for president..who needs boyfrend problems wen u have all the money in the world

Answer 2

Well Kathryn. There's not much to go on. But I'll try to give you a sincere helpful reply. Break ups are so very hard and emotional times, as you know. If it just happend ,give it a bit of time. You are grieving like when someone passes. There are several things you are grieving.
A. for wasting your time ,yourself and your emotions, in this marriage to end up in failure . Also the embarrassement, that whilst your world
is crumbling, it happends in front of your family, friends and colleagues.
B. Grieving for what was, Your relationship, your memories of happier times, your children if any etc. The way of life as you knew it felt safe in. The one person who you trusted and could share intimate things about yourself was no longer there.You feel cheated and raw and vulnerable.
C.The loss of your future together, the plans you both had as a couple. Travel etc. when the children left home all that kind of stuff.
This period can take atleast 6-12months, like grieving for a loved one who died.
2. If after this period of time you are still stuck emotionally and can't get over your ex. Then you probably need a little help through councelling. This can be found at your local church, Salvation Army etc. Community services etc.
I have been through this situation divorced . Ours was a mutual decision .We had different paths to travel. We are still very good friends.It still hurt ,It was humiliating and scary too about the unknown . I went through that loss and grieving, but that's good, because it's all part of the process of healing. I believe that people come into your life and stay long enough to help sort out baggage you each carry and grow from the experience. So by the time you part and hopefully it was a good relationship, you have grown, become a more fulfilled person ,ready for what life has for you now, including other loves.If it wasn't then you still learned the lessons that helped you grow and move on to a better understanding of yourself. A relationship is never a waste or a failure.
Why can't you get over your Ex?
Are you afraid that no one else would love you again like he did.?
You're too afraid of change and new situations?
You afraid that he was the life of the relationship and nobody will find you interesting for yourself. Low self esteem.
Your afraid of the unknown. You always knew from one minute to the next what was happening in your life with your Ex. Now it's completely different or will be. Not only do you have a big life change .You are now single. But you may also have to move and not have a home you put a lot of emotion into. Some friends will go with him and won't mix with you any more. Lost of changes out there. But it's also an unexplored adventure waiting for you.
Don't waste your love, emotions your happiness to come and your life as it can be, on someone who has a different journey, different issues to fix. If your relationship, is going to continue in what ever form. as a couple again or friends it will happen. But all you can do is appeciate yourself for the wonderful Woman you are and look forward to your journey and the Man who is waiting for you along the way to love you for being the person.
I will tell you this Kathryn I feel this relationship has run it's course and there is no turning back. I feel you will get through this and I think this post will help you start this move. I do think you will go to councelling for a little while. I do know a M an is around you who'll become the love of your life. I feel he's a man you know, but only in passing up to this point. But look out girl 2 years down the track I think it will be a differen woman standing looking in that mirror. I'll back my reputation on that. I will tell you that so far those feelings have been pretty good . I wanted to share that with you.It came through as I was typing.
Good luck and have a great life. Ciao

Answer 3

WEN IT S THE MATTER OF ex THEN 1ST THING U HAV TO DO IS GiVE UR SELF TIME,TIMEIS THE ONLY WAY UCAN GET OVER HIM, MAKE URSEL;F BUSY WITH AS MANY OTHER THINGS AS U CAN

Answer 4

You need to know that only you completes you not anyone else. Don't regress, time can't bring anyone back. To terminate your lonliness, reach out to the homeless, pamper yourself, make yourself happy, be true to yourself, don't lose your capacity to love, live your dreams and never lose faith.

Answer 5

well, u need 2. If yall talk with each other as friends, dats fine, but other than that, just move on with your life.

Answer 6

It takes time. Time heals all wounds. You'll get there. Trust me.

Answer 7

you have to put them out of your mind or concentrate on all the bad things. you will find someone better

Answer 8

start going out and meet and make new friends

Answer 9

we have all been there at some stage or another. time heals all and keep busy