Meddling mother?

Question

My mother has somewhat opened up to the fact that Amy and I are getting back together. However she is demanding that Amy sign papers that will mean she gives up 100% rights to our son in the event this reconcilation doesn't work out. I am totally against this.
I feel it is wrong to keep Amy out of our son's life totally. He loves his mother. He needs her to be part of his life.
I have told my mother this is wrong. I have even refused to give Amy the paper. My mother says this is the only way she will accept Amy back into the family.
All I want to know is can my mother legally do this. Can she make Amy sign that paper. Or do we have the right to stand our ground and tell my mother to basically bug off.
It is getting to the point where I am ready to tell my mother to have a nice life and never have anything to do with her again. My sister who adores Amy has recently taken over as child care provider for our son.
As far as I know my mother didn't bad mouth him in front of him.

Answer 1

There is absolutely no way your mother can force Amy to sign any kind of paper no matter what it states. She can not force Amy to give up her child no matter what. Unless she is a physical or mental threat to the boy. Your mother doesn't have a legal leg to stand on.
Tell her that you are a man now. You have the right to live your life the way you want. You have the right to chose who you want to be with. Your son has the right to have a relationship with both you and his mother.
The fact that you have made other child care arrangements for your son shows that you don't really accept that your mother didn't bad-mouth Amy in front of your son.
You may want to talk to him and find out if she really may have said something. But be prepared that he may find it hard to betray his grandmother. He has grown to trust her and may not want to cause her problems.
On the other hand have you considered that your mother may have mental problems. Such problems could explain why she may see Amy as a threat.
Don'tm let your mother walk all over you. Stand up for yourself and be the type of man that would make her proud of you.
She may not totally agree with what you say. But she will respect you for it in the future. GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

If I were you I would have a serious talk with your mom!She is just trying to protect you from getting hurt in the long run but mabye you could talk about an agreement were you would have full custody of your son, just for your own well being as his father.I do agree that Amy should be in his life because rather your mom likes it or not she will always be the mother of your child.If you have Amy to agree that you will have full custody if you and her split up, you will be the one that makes sure that she will still be in your childs life and mabye it will help keep the peace in your family.Legally you and Amy are his parents and you two should be the ones to decide what is right for your child. If you decide to cut ties with your family over this, make sure that is what you really want before you take that step.Good Luck.LOL!

Answer 3

Are you saying Amy hasn't been looking after your son since the pair of you split up? Is there a reason for that as it's quite unusual for the mother to give up her child? How and when you get back together, and indeed, if you get back together, is down to you and Amy and not really anything to do with your Mother although I am sure she's only got your best interests at heart. It is down to you how you want to play this. Are you prepared to gain your wife back and lose your Mother? I think, as a family, you all need to sit down and discuss this further as it's a very difficult situation. If you are all together you can all be as truthful as you want and each of you will know what another says - however good or bad it is. Remember, your son is the most important thing here and he shouldn't suffer with bad feelings and vibes so you need to keep him out of arguments and away from the house if you are discussing this. Good luck.

Answer 4

I can never figure out questions like this.

Okay, you and Amy have a child together which neither of you are caring for. You created this child, promptly broke up, handed the child off to your sister to care for him, and now you want to know if your MOTHER has any say in the situation??

You are the parents. You two need to make decisions about the well-being of your son and get your mother out of the middle. You need to get your sister out of the middle as well. Unless your mother has custody of the child, she can't make decisions about his well-being and she certainly can't force Amy to give up her parental rights regardless of whether the two of you are a couple.

Please, put your son first and start being a father to him. That's the most important thing.

Answer 5

Amy doesn't have to sign anything and unless she'sa threat to your son (which it sounds like she's not) then legally theres no reason to keep her away from him tell your mom that your old enough to make your own decisions and what she feel about Amy is completely irrelevant to your feelings for her make it known that she can hate her all she wants but in the end it wont make Amy any less a mother to your son and if she persits then drop a hint that living witout her in your life is a sacrafice your willing to make ;-)Best Wishes

Answer 6

I'm a law student. Your mother has no right to tell you that you have to force the mother of your child to sign over her rights to your son. As long as you two work out your own thing with yourson then there is no way that she can do anything. Be careful though. Your mother can try to take your child away from both of you. She would have to prove that either you two are unfit parents or that he is in danger of he is with you. Other than that you two are free to do what you want when it comes to your son.

Answer 7

If this is about inheritance and your mother is the one who decides who will inherit what, if anything. Then she can easily make a will where she will give everything to other people and nothing for you.

She cannot force anyone to sign any papers. But if you don't do as she wants, then both you and Amy may end up with nothing in terms of inheritance from your mother.

Answer 8

Who is your mother to decide who you will, or will not become involved with? And who is she to require any signed documentation concerning the welfare of your son? And who cares if she accepts Amy or not?

You are wise to tell your mother to have a nice life and get away from this controlling woman. Unless you start standing up to her, she will destroy any possible happiness for you and your son!

Answer 9

Your mother has absolutely no legal grounds unless you allow her to..don't sign or have Amy sign any papers as they could be used against her in a Court of Law.

Answer 10

You stick by your wife's side.Your mother is heading up the wrong road.The court's will never take the mother's rights's away from your son in behave of your Mom..the grandma.Pack your stuff and make a home for your own family.Grow up and stay that away.This is your life now Mister.Take it back and make a life for your family.