If I wanted to get rid of this guy sho seems to be still hung up on his daughters mothers relationship that ended over 10 years ago, how would I go about it sensitively as I do like him and do not want to be tempted to sleep with him but would still like to be his friend, although a cliche, I mean it, he is a good friend, but I really don't need to chance the heartache, and feel I deserve better. Any of youhad a similar experience, I'd like some sensible advice. See my last question for more clarity. Thanks.
2007-01-16 02:04:40 · 3 answers · asked by helloha06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him you don't think his heart is really in the relationship, and it would be better for the pair of you be friends because you don't want to get too attached to him emotionally and get hurt. I wouldn't mention the ex, hopefully he'll be man enough to admit to himself that the problem lies with him. You are defo worth more than this.
2007-01-16 02:11:31 · answer #1 · answered by Chickette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable that you were feeling a little down about not seeing her two weekends in a row but you also have to understand that she has a life outside of you as well. I could see it if you were feeling insecure because she was hanging out with her girlfriends both weekends but she was doing family things and a lot of times, the weekend is the only time people can do things like that (if a person has regular working hours). You're inability to be understanding could be a major turn off for her and it might be why she wants time apart. It is definitely possible for her to miss you but do you really expect her to not spend time with her grandmother opposed to spending time with you (when her time with her grandmother may be limited anyway). That's not fair for you to be that demanding of her. Even if she wanted to spend some time with a few of her friends one weekend, you should be able to handle that without feeling "insecure" about your relationship. It's challenging dealing with a long distance relationship but your insecurities and demanding ways will make it much harder. I think you should lighten up or just let her go and find a local romance.
2016-05-24 23:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell him what a good and valuable friend he is, how much you like his company and what fun he is. Then I'd refer to past relationships you've had which have ended and how sad that you can't forgive some of the people in the past. You wouldn't want this to happen to your valuable friendship and so you'd rather not risk it than have this break between you. But keep the bit about your friendship and how much it means to you and that he is like a BROTHER to you. Mention that a lot. If he pushes you for a relationship, tell him it would be like incest as you have a brother-sister thing going. That should work. I've used that a few times and it's always been effective.
Good luck
2007-01-16 02:19:51 · answer #3 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋