I've been flirting (innocently!) with a guy at work even though I have a boyfriend. We have joked around and teased each other like little kids. He gave me a hug once. Well, the other day, he called me out in front of another guy I work with and in a half-way joking kinda way said, "What does your boyfriend think of you flirting with me?" It kinda made me feel awkward. I didn't know how to respond. I've never crossed the line in my behavior towards him, yet I couldn't help but feel like a piece of **** when he said that. Do you think he's interested in me and was trying to get me to say something negative about my boyfriend or do you think he thinks I'm out of line in my behavior. How do I handle this?
2007-01-16 02:02:12 · 16 answers · asked by Dasher 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He was digging. He just wanted you to fess up about how you really feel about your bf. He was hoping you would say something like, "he's not my bf when he's not around" or something like that.
He digs you a lot and wants to be with you, but understands there's a situation with your bf that he doesn't want to disturb.
2007-01-16 02:09:17 · answer #1 · answered by Cameron L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your bf and find out and also this guy is the one who's out of line. With me even if I'd like the girl more if she were my gf I'm not one to steal her from her current bf especially if I'm allready friends with him as well. It's a look don't touch policy. Of course I don't think teens quite get that one yet. How you handle it is follow your heart girl do what it tells you. I think you know this is wrong to be flirting around when your taken allready so stop. Tell that guy off and leave it at that. Also what he's doing could be considered a mild form of sexual harasment in the work place even if you welcome it. What does your boss think?
2007-01-16 02:08:21 · answer #2 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you start something it's kinda hard to turn it back, i'm sure he thinks of you as a Vulgar person, by him saying that in front of a next person, it's an insult. Showing you have no respect for your man.
You should go talk to him, in a smart way...... about making stupid comments in public. And try to stop Flirting with him.....it will only get you in trouble....
2007-01-16 02:13:15 · answer #3 · answered by *Cutie* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think the guy was rude and impolite to ask you that, especially in front of someone else. Who is he to talk really? He's been flirting with you and now he's basically making fun of you. Either way you don't deserve his immaturity. I think you should not flirt with him anymore and keep your attitude cordial, it's obvious that this boy has a big mouth and you don't need him talking about you to others.
2007-01-16 02:10:01 · answer #4 · answered by jim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with flirting if you have a boyfriend. However, do not cross the line. Do you really want to know what he is thinking?
2007-01-16 02:06:28 · answer #5 · answered by smvm630 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a man honey that's whats wrong. He wanted to look good in front of the other guy like he has a girl flirting with me kinda thing and show his friend. Men like to belittle women as often as they can.
2007-01-16 02:07:58 · answer #6 · answered by maryrelaxing 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
flirting is a very natural expression in both female and male to just make an inner self statement of self confidence....happens too that when we are in a relationship sometimes we can feel like our attraction skills had gone in "sleep mode" and we might even panic if we believe we don't attract anyone else, so that is when the temptation of flirt can come along when an opportunity appears even though we are sure that we are fine in the present relationship....
there are always ways to just keep in good line a compliment that might sound as flirting, keep your position clear that if you are in a relationship and you love the person that you are with, the words that you might choose to "flirt" with the other person have to sound casual and not to intimate explict, example " hey you look very handsome today, good choice of clothes!!" and that's all, in this way you support a good choice of something you feel attracted to what the person is and you are not crossing barriers, like if you were saying "man you look darn sexy in that clothes!!!!!" keep off any possible wrong signal.....
so far you are very clear of your inner feelings, that is what i felt about your own comments of the situation, follow your instints first....in my opinion what he meant about the comment, possible he is curious about what your own opinion of your relationship is making you fall into been to confident to flirt with him "without feeling any regrets" of your boyfriend, "is there problems in paradise with your bf?" be careful were you are stepping into this flirt game, since you even asked if he might be interested in you, maybe for sure, now is you who have to ask yourself if is worthy to turn into a roll of an easy girl or a woman with trustworthy values of her believes a relationship is based on.....if this is keeping you aware of future problems with your co worker, just stop, and simple keep the greetings simple and casual, don't damage a good loving realtionship with your boyfriend by making the wrong choices....
2007-01-16 02:42:23 · answer #7 · answered by D' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be a sl*t and flirt with other guys that shows a total lack of respect for your boyfriend. To anybody who says "flirting isnt wrong" go shoot yourself because the world dosent need cheaters like you in it.
2007-01-16 02:10:14 · answer #8 · answered by LT. DAN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one knows what he meant because we are different individual but based on the situation like what you have mentioned....probably he was wondering why did you flirt with him and hug a guy while you already have a sweetheart...because this is exactly what I am wondering....
2007-01-16 02:12:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a bf and u r totally out of line because your gonna hurt him if he finds out and the other guy u need to tak to the side at work and straight out ask him what he meant
2007-01-16 02:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by tlc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋