Hey...I've known a guy for quite a while. I met him though his mum who is a friend of mine. We both became quite good friends and used to have a real laugh. We shared a few cuddles and kisses and everything seemed to be going great until he said we should carry on being friends, nothing more. I told him I did like him but I'm fine with just friends. However, whenever I suggest we go out or meet up, as friends obviously, he says its not a good idea! We spoke on the phone the other day and he was flirty but then the next day he was distant again. I'm just trying to work out why he's so distant with me after everything thats happened between us? We both talked about it and decided to carry on being friends but things haven't been the same since. Thanks for your answers, any help appreciated x x x
2007-01-16 02:00:22 · 9 answers · asked by smiley_babyxox 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not looking for anything more to happen between us other than friendship. It would be nice but it's not what he wants and I respect that. I just want our friendship to be the same as it was a few weeks ago
2007-01-16 02:06:44 · update #1
i think that he is not sure what he wants . he likes u a lot but for some reason he is not sure if he wants to be just friends or something more . otherwise he would be ok with just being friends and not being distant .
give it time and let him do the next move . dont call or txt him and see what will happen !
best wishes to u !!!
2007-01-16 02:11:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey relationships are hard enough when you both know what you want. This guy doesn't really know,how to read you. I think he believes you do really like him a lot more than you are admitting and when you said just friends is ok with you, he was still a bit uneasy. Think, has he rung you up and invited you out as friends as many times, like you have him? My guess is no. I think he's feeling pressure even if you don't think you are doing anything for him to feel this way. Guys aren't into discussing emotional situations either it's too much and goes over their heads if you use lots of words. Be precise like dictating your points. However ,I think you just have to give him space. I think he flirted a little on the phone because it was safe and maybe to him it was just friendly banter and not even flirting. I can't see this friendship in the short term continuing as it has. I think that you'll become aquaintances ,who occasionally meet when you see his Mum . Initially he'll find some other place to be when you visit or br really busy, so that he doesn't have to face you.
I feel people come into your life when they are supposed too ie, and stay however long as needed no more other wise it becomes toxic and that can kill.5wks 5yrs 25yrs. From this
relationship you deal with issues and grow.So by the time it finishes you are a more fulfilled person who has grown and ready to move on ,to what life has to offer the person you have become.
Don't worry things will work themselves out and you'll probably be friends later when you have both moved on and grown older. I hope this helps ,Good luck
2007-01-16 10:26:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably doesn't want to feel like he's leading you on. I'd leave him alone for a while to show you've got the message that you just want to be friends and he'll probably norm out after a while. I had a similar experience and the guy is being completely normal as if nothing other than friendship had happened, but it took a while and I completely left him alone for most of that time, about 6 months.
2007-01-16 10:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by Princess Paradox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It obvious he really like you but keeps distance for few reasons. I mean there is a posibility he likes someone else, or there is a chance he is not interested in being with someone in a relationship at the moment or he is gay.....lol Whatever reason it is I believe it is situation one or two, but he definitely likes you so you make the math and talk to him why and what is the reason he is not even looking at being with you on more serious level option.
2007-01-16 10:07:00 · answer #4 · answered by BK thang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be for several reasons but one obvious one could be he allready has a girl and he don't want to cheat on her with you. Or he's just not ready for that type of a relationship with you yet. Give it time and just be his friend. But he's avoiding you all together so it's gotta be some thing more.
2007-01-16 10:04:43 · answer #5 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be that you r friends with his mum, it sounds to me (but dont take my word for it) that he likes you, but doesnt want to go for it, he probably fancies you but wants someone else, like he flirts that says want, then hes didtant that says guilt.
i dunno, my only suggestion is to leave him to it, get some other friends, send one last message saying something like youve been behaving a little weirs so i leave our friendship in your hands you know how to get hold of me if you want to meet up or whatever, luck,
2007-01-16 10:08:20 · answer #6 · answered by blakorkid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry...but I think he's probably interested in another girl.
2007-01-16 10:05:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like him, that much. get it together with him. tell him, that's what you want.
2007-01-16 15:45:06 · answer #8 · answered by rjhamuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him straight what u need him to be
2007-01-16 11:15:03 · answer #9 · answered by anis118030 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋