I have a safe where I keep some things and I haven't opened it in front of my fiance yet. I want to do it when I feel it's time too but as for now, no. Yesterday he asked if I was going to let him see what was in there anytime soon and I said no. Then his mood changed and I asked him what was wrong and if he still loved me...jokingly of course but he said I don't know if I love you seriously. I personally think it's childish for a grown man to act this over something like a safe. My question is, why behave this way over something like this when I've already let you into my life and let you see almost all of posessions?
2007-01-16 01:51:05 · 23 answers · asked by Mimy ImFurst 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is NOT a sibling! He is the man you wish to marry. Why did you let him know the safe exists if you were not going to open it? You are calling a MAN childish... yeah, they will act that way when hurt. If you LOVE him then BUILD HIM UP. NOT tear him down.
2007-01-16 01:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by dbzgalaxy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may be feeling left out of a part of you. He may feel like, if you are keeping whats in the safe from him, what else might you be keeping from him.
If you are serious with him and whats in the safe is personal to you in a way that would not otherwise affect him, then I think you should try and explain that to him, to put his mind at ease.
People are usually afraid of the unknown and their mind will try and imagine the worst of what it might be.
If indeed there is something you are keeping in the safe, that is of potential consequence to him, then perhaps you should consider why you are keeping it, or if he is right for you.
Being that you are asking the question to begin with, it seems that you do care for this guy and should try to put his mind at ease.
either way, good luck, hope this helps
2007-01-16 09:59:24 · answer #2 · answered by DAD_to_3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though he may be a little insecure. Does he have other insecure behaviors? Either that, or he may have controlling tendencies. Either way, you need to address this problem before you get married. Just because you love someone, you do not have to share everything with them. There is a difference between "having privacy" and "keeping secrets". You can have privacy, such as your safe, as long as you are not keeping secrets in it that could harm your relationship.
2007-01-16 09:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have agreed to marry him there should be no secrets kept between the two of you. This does not mean you need to tell him EVERYTHING about your past but I can understand why he'd be upset about you hiding things in a safe. You do understand that what you are doing is HIDING things from him don't you? If you trust him and love him - which I sure hope you do if you're going to marry him!!! - it is time to let him actually know you ALL of you!!
2007-01-16 10:00:57 · answer #4 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe it affected him that you won't show him forever. Tell him that have him be patience until right time. Maybe you can surprise him, without have him ask you to show him. Try drink some wines and start to buzz, from there, you will feel comfort to show him your privacy. The way you were saying that you are not ready to show him, even he is your future husband! You are kind of childish too. You need to open everything to him, remember you are his and he is your.
2007-01-16 09:56:05 · answer #5 · answered by MissGal 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He must have felt a bit funny after you tell him that, but let him know when the time is right you, see wht you have in there. Some time the way we say things can mess up a situation.
He should have respect for you give you a chance, when you are ready, to show him.
I guess he is feeling left out,
2007-01-16 10:01:11 · answer #6 · answered by *Cutie* 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you have is obviously moe important to him than you feelings for him are explain to him why you haven't let him see it and then see if you can find out his preoccupation with the safe's contents if the safe still keep spriority over you then maybe its time to look for love elsewhere ;-) Best Wishes
2007-01-16 09:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by Bri 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well what would u do if u were in his shoes would u act "mature"? anyway maybe he just needs to feel that between the two of u are no secrets(altho in reality a thing like this is impossible).......and what would u do if one day after many years u'll find his "black box" and he will tell u i'll open one day or not?
2007-01-16 10:01:57 · answer #8 · answered by black_cat_heart 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's probably because women crush men's spirits with their constant "no privacy" rules. Especially if you live together, let him see it. Otherwise, he should have full range to hide whatever he wants from you. Porn, other girls phonenumbers, text messages, and the ladies he's cheating on you with. Good luck.
2007-01-16 09:55:14 · answer #9 · answered by John K 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie. love goes a very long way,
I belive for someone you love and care for, you have to really be faithful to him, no matter how wrong you can be, you dont have to hide anything from him.
No secret must be kept from lovers.... sweetie, I mean true lovers....
Please let him know all that you've be keeping away from him all this long...
Nice time sweetie.........
2007-01-16 10:14:07 · answer #10 · answered by btreach 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋