Once a cheater always a cheater?

Question

Is this true?.....is it possible to forgive someone that has cheated?...could the relationship survive it?

Answer 1

I think that it is possible to forgive someone that has cheated, but there is always the thought that they might do it again in the back of your head, and the next time they may have learned how to cover it up better, and you may not find out for a while (if you do at all). I think that if you were more "i don't care" about it then the person might be more, "I want you to care." Easier said than done. But it works. There is no telling if any relationship will ever survive. There is no guarantee on any relationship at all. I know my friends mom and dad were married for like 20 years and they got divorced, and they were one of those couples that you would think would last forever. But things just never worked out. And guess what, HE CHEATED. So yeah. There is no guarantee of anything. All I can say is, if you give the person another chance then keep a closer eye on them from a farther distance.

Answer 2

In some cases its true, it depends why the cheater cheats and how deep the relationship between the cheater and the cheatee. Seldom could one forgive but if the cheatee willing to accept and treasure what they had, and give 2nd chance to the relationship it might work or it might not. It still depends on you, whether you could 'trust' (the key word) the cheater again.You would have to go through alot of mistrusting, pain, hurt and at the same time reprimand yourself for feeling that way. Every steps and moves made by the cheater its like going through memory lane every day. Only patience, faith and your strong character it the only medicine you have to make this relationship to survive. It could takes weeks, months or even years to learn to trust the cheater. It countdown to, what you had with the cheater is it worth going through it again! You not starting from 0 but from -1.

Answer 3

In my opinion, I think so...I've always thought if they're going to do it once then why not twice..or three times...? I personally would not forgive my husband if he cheated. There's no excuse for it. I don't think our marriage could ever survive it because I would be too disgusted to EVER become intimate with him again if he had been with someone else. I'm not saying that someone that has been a cheater before can change..it's just hard to tell.

Answer 4

Cheating is a matter of perspective. If you are engaged to someone and they choose to have a relationship with someone else, that is cheating. If you've dated someone for two weeks and he or she chooses to have a relationship with someone else, I wouldn't call it cheating. Basically, if you have BOTH made the committment to date only one another, cheating is an indication that the person is basically dishonest and self centered. Unfortunately, this personality trait does not usually go away by itself and covers many more things than just cheating. As far as forgiveness is concerned, I would say that it would depend upon the quality of the other areas of the relationship. There would always be a little distrust but if you're willing to live with it....so be it.

Answer 5

Once the trust is broken it's difficult to restore it. A person that cheats or deceives someone they claim to care about indicates a lack of character and that doesn't change by itself. I think the cheater just gets more clever in the game of deception. I hope you don't fall into that trap. Forgiving and accepting the behavior are two seperate things. Sometimes one must forgive in order to move on w/their life b/c the hositility toward the cheater has a negative impact on their own life. It'd take one heck of a relationship before I'd try to survive someone deceiving me. You've heard the old saying...fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me. In a sense, the cheater feels that his or her partner has been forewarned and it absolves the guilt that they should feel.

Answer 6

i cheated on a partner when i was younger and of coarse it didn't work out but i have been in a relationship for 7 years and i would never cheat on my partner. so I'd say that if yr partner would cheat on u once than yes they'd do it again but it doesn't necessarily mean they would always be a cheater because they might not cheat on someone else, sorry if that sounds a little confusing, i just mean it depends how much the person is committed to their partner and the relationship

Answer 7

I'm not a good one to answer this - my ex hubby cheated and I divorced his worthless a**. I know that once a guy breaks the rules (no matter which one it is) it becomes easier for them to do it again - the first time is the only time they really think about the consequences and if they get away with it there is no reason to not do it again.

Answer 8

I would forgive only once.

But it's not the same... it'll always be something. It'll cause insecurities in the relationship and you couldn't get angry with your other for suspecting it next time you act strange.

Make sure you're conscious of his/her feelings and show him/her that they are the one for you. It's the only way they'll be able to survive the pain you put them through.

Answer 9

Yes... Well, you can give him/her one more chance cuz everyone deserve second chances.

But... I think once a cheater always a cheater.

Answer 10

I don't believe a relationship can be salvaged after infidelity. It's best to move on and find someone new. This world is so full of people there is someone better out there.