my mom think im trying to break my family apart i mean her and my dad apart i hate my dad but im not tryin to do that even thou he treats me and my mom like **** wat should i do 2 convince her that im not trying to do that
2007-01-16 01:43:14 · 6 answers · asked by xxholistergurlxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds like the three of you need to sit down and talk. Look for ways to make things better, and not argue about it.
It might help to seek a counselor even if your parents wont go then you can usually talk to a counselor at school about your problems to help you get through this rough time.
Is there a reason that you hate your dad so much?? Is he under alot of pressure and taking it out on everyone?? Why does your mom feel that you want them to separate??
Look honestly at your feelings. Maybe mom and dad just need a break, but remeber whatever their problem is its NOT your fault!!
Try suggesting a date night for them where the two of them could go out and do something together and maybe you could spend a night at a friends house or family members. It would give you all a break.
Also try to plan something out as a family. It doesnt have to cost alot of money, it could be playing a board game or watching a movie together. good luck.
2007-01-16 02:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that it is easier for your mom to blame you than to accept responsibility for her part of the strain on the relationship. I'm not saying it is right and I don't agree, but I can empathize with her. Is it possible that your dad (step-dad?) is throwing the blame on you for things, in private, and she is simply agreeing with him to hold on to her husband? It's a hard situation to be in: choosing between child/husband. The alternative to your situation, is for her to leave him which has got to be terrifying for her (I mean, even though he treats her like crap, at least she has someone to give her security/home & she must wonder if she'll be able to find someone else to love her). I guess the best advice is to look at her point of view also, then sit down and talk & listen. If you find you can't talk to her about it, write her a letter and spell out your feelings. Let her know that even though you aren't happy, you want her to be happy. If the relationship makes her happy then that is what you want for her.
2007-01-16 10:05:39 · answer #2 · answered by Therese 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make your mom stop to talk so negative. Tell your mom how you feel about the way your family are. If you are older enough then leave the house and live your own, let your mom deal with it.
2007-01-16 09:47:28 · answer #3 · answered by MissGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her u wanna talk to her in private
and then tell her how u feel
then hopefully she will listen to you and do somthing about it
if she dont
then both of ur parents have issues
2007-01-16 09:48:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the best way.
2007-01-16 09:47:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it.
2007-01-16 09:46:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋