i have been dating my bf now for about 4 months or so..and we love each other alot.hes so nice to me,and compliments me all the time..btu then there are days that he humiluates me,cusses me out,punches me,and belittles me. i jus love him so much..and i have always promised i would never be with an abussive guy. i tried talking to my mom..but she wont listen..its so complicated.idk what to do...
2007-01-16 01:38:15 · 20 answers · asked by Amanda T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ur mum is right... make sure he's the right guy for u b4 u fight with ur family for him
2007-01-16 01:42:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not supposed to hurt. A person that truly loves another person will be the one to protect that person against all harm. You are in an emotional, mental and physically abusive relationship and you need to get out before it gets worse. You may not realize it now, but the damage he is causing to your mental health and your self confidence is going to be detrimental. I am happy that you are only dating this person and are not married to him. Too many times women marry the person in hopes that they will change. Abusive people do not change without counseling and guidence. Did he come from an abusive home? My guess would be yes. Domestic Violence is a cycle. Don't be a victim, be smarter than that. I'm sorry is only good for the moment until the next time. Believe me when I say, things will continue to get worse. I know, I married a man that would say he was sorry and before I knew it, he was choking me and trying to run me over with the car. Please get out, don't have children with this person. You and your unborn babies deserve so much more! If your mother won't listen, fine. Find someone who will.
2007-01-16 01:48:23 · answer #2 · answered by Saz_E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should ever be in an enottional or physical abusive relationship, there are so many out there that would treat you with respect and love you.. You need not stay with him, you owe him nothing, this is just the first step in him being more abusive and then controlling,, How can you love one that does that to you??? Would you do that to him if you loved hhim??? I think NOT.. I just dont get why women stay with men who are abusive, for you sanity and safety leave him, ..You have a long life ahead to find the right man for you.
2007-01-16 02:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by P_a94 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End the relationship, honey. I'm telling you this because I went through an abusive marriage. Four months is not long enough to develop true love. Any man that will do these mean things to you doesn't love you back. He will only get worse with time and make you miserable. Please move on and find a boy that will always treat you with love and respect like you deserve. Abuse is a hard pattern to break once it starts.
2007-01-16 01:44:25 · answer #4 · answered by Angela F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being nice sometimes does not make up for putting his hands on you. There is no reason for that. And 4 months? I could see if you thought 4 years was a long time, but 4 months is really no time at all. He is a chump if he feels he needs to put his hands on you and belittle you.
2007-01-16 01:43:08 · answer #5 · answered by mountaintop_23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG hun if one min he is hitting you ect. and nice the the next...you have to decide a time where you have to GET OUT. He will never stop this and soon you will no self esteem left and so mentaly and phsicaly abused you wont know what to do...There is no way anybody diserves this and yes you might think you love him...but i promise when you get away from him you won't love him anymore
been there done that..and i have never been happier
2007-01-16 02:00:03 · answer #6 · answered by blueeyes40can 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you say you love him, but it doesn't really sound like he loves you. No one has the right to abusive another person. Please for your own sake dump him. You deserve alot better than him. There is someone out there who will treat you with respect and really love you.
At the moment I'm sure the good days with him outway the bad but as time goes on the bad days will overtake the good days. Don't wait for him to really hurt you bad. Please think about this leave him. I'm sure you will be better off.
Take care
2007-01-16 01:47:48 · answer #7 · answered by Donna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
runnnnnnn away fast. Thats no place for a nice girl to be. guys like him should be locked up and never let go. He needs to be in prison and get treated like that by some big inmate. so he will know what it feels like.
2007-01-16 01:47:14 · answer #8 · answered by Mac H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man puts his hands on you, he has issues that only he can resolve. Make sure he's the right guy for you before going against your family. Any guy who hits you is certainly not the right guy.
2007-01-16 01:45:43 · answer #9 · answered by dead_end_lies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what to do. I hate these questions. He loves you yet treats you like dirt. Now ask your self is that love? don't be a fool woman get some SELF-esteem and get away from him
2007-01-16 01:46:25 · answer #10 · answered by tall_slimm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me he has got a problem with his anger,sit down with him talk to him tell him you are not happy with the way he treats you,and you will leave him if this continues,if all else fails there ere plenty more fish in the sea.
2007-01-16 01:52:10 · answer #11 · answered by lynda w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋