My guy friend told me he can't ever talk with me again?

Question

Because his girlfriend is really jealous of me and argues with him everyday over me. I never have done anything to her or him and we're only friends. We used to be together but she thinks we're more than friends now. Both of us know we like each other still, but he loves her so he's with her. What can I do to calm this crazed jealous woman down? I love him dearly and want to keep his friendship if I can't have his affections. She doesn't trust him at all so I don't know if there is a way for us to stay friends without him losing her... >_>

Answer 1

agree with the first answer

Answer 2

I give credit to your guy friend. I think you should leave him alone and support him in his decision. If you truly " love him dearly and want to keep his friendship if I can't have his affections". Which by the way, is probably the reason she doesn't want you writing him. She's probably read something you wrote that was that affectionate.

How do you expect him to build a relationship when he's holding a emotional affair on the side? When a man is in a relationship with a woman, he needs to give her all of him. Otherwise, the relationship will always be incomplete.

Like they say in the commercial, "get your own box".

Answer 3

Put yourself in her shoes, and be honest about it. How would you really feel about your boyfriend being good close friends with his ex-girlfriend. She's not a crazed jealous woman, just a woman who doesn't want to lose her boyfriend. By the way I have been in your shoes and I lost a good friend over it. This is life and sometimes it doesn't go the way we want.

Answer 4

Oh boy, I feel like i'm experiencing Deja Vu here, sounds like something I went through a while back myself... he'd called and said no e-mails, no phone calls and I figured it was over a woman... well as things turned out later, a few months went by, and even though I hadn't heard from him in a while, he eventually called me (after he'd found that I'd gotten myself into some trouble) but he was sweet, understanding and wanted to talk, so since then, Things have really heated up between us and we're closer than ever. so ... Hmmmm my answer is to give it time... maybe he'll see something in this other g/f that he doesn't like and if he still likes you enough, he might be willin' to give it another chance.
Best Wishes,
J.

Answer 5

First of all you have to make sure your feelings are in check and under control. It could be that the girlfriend is picking up on the fact that you have feelings for him for more than just a friend.

Once you can really say and mean that you want only friendship then ask if the three of you could talk together. Let her know in front of him that you would really like for ALL of you to be friends.

Include her in on things that have anything to do or are about your friend. Let him know you really want him to be happy with her or whomever he chooses to be with.

Try to be a friend to his girlfriend and by her seeing that your motives are good and your NOT really after her man than she will see that you are trustworthy.

But if your heart is not into doing this and you really are in love with your friend then you need to let him know how your feeling and or just take a step back and let him be happy. good luck.

Answer 6

This is up to him and there is nothing you can do about it. If your friendship means something to him then he will try to stay in touch with you even if it means his girlfriend may not understand.
He just may need sometime to work on his relationship and if he asks you for space you need to give it to him with understanding. Tell him about how much his friendship means to you and tell him you understand and that all you want is for him to be happy. He will get tired of her jealous behavior and will make his own mind up in the end of what he wants.

Answer 7

I am sorry that happened to you. Guess what, you are not only one, it happened to me. Most of guy friends stopped friend with me. It hurt me so badly. I had to move on and think positive, as long i have other friends. You can't do anything about it, if he is in love with her, let him go. Who knows in the future, something happen to them, he will be your friend again and make him promise you to have his future woman being your friend and it won't happen again like his current girlfriend. I did make some of my guy friends promised to me for that. It works. Let him go, thats all you have to do. i am sorry its the way world is. His girlfriend is wrong to do that, i am on your side for real. Also i kind of blame your guy friend because he should know better that friends and girlfriend are same. Never let girlfriend grow higher than friendship. Good luck.

Answer 8

does she really deserve him? i dont think she does... if she cant trust him, what kind of relationship is that? and why should she pick fights EVERY day over someone he isnt with? she should be thankful shes his girl and someoen else isnt...that being you.taht should be enough, but no she keeps wnating more...

sooner or later, she's gonna drive all of his friends away, not jsut you and he "LOVES" her, so hes gonna let her do it... its liek a bad case of "enchanted by the wicked witch":

you gotta sit down with him and talk to him about taht... does he see what she's trying to do?

and ask him who means more, you and your friendship/ affection and love or her and her jealousy, untrust and control... i suppose you can put him on the spot and make him choose...but that CAN be risque

tell him she will drive away all his friends and then what will he have?

tell him he doesnt deserve that, and he should have better. make it as heartfelt as it is, and throw in a few tears for good measure... hopefully he'll realize which oen he wants.

Answer 9

Your male friend has to clam this down and nothing you can do will help. If he wants that and you are his true friend then don't do anything to mess it up for him and cause you to look even worse. I believe that in the long run you will be better off by just stepping aside until he works things out. He clearly needs to make a choice about how he wants to live his life and with whom.

Answer 10

it type of appears like he may be dealing with something. If he despatched you that message declaring, "you're not any further forgotten." perchance it truly is his way of telling you he has no longer forgotten about you yet he desires time. in case you recognize you probably did no longer something to him, then that is it. in case you somewhat want to charm to close what's occurring you deliver him a letter interior the mail or provide up by technique of his living house. or you may want to continuously %. up the phone and phone. good success! :)

Answer 11

Try talking to her without her boyfriend around, explain to her the situation and tell her that she shouldnt be so bothered when she is the one that is with him, if he wanted to be with you why would he be with her? She just needs a peace of mind to know that nothing is going on and nothing will go on. Ive been in the situation multiple times and it could work but I can't promise anything! Good Luck I hope everything works out for you!