Am i over reacting?

Question

i have been fighting with bf just aittle latly becuase he is so busy and has no time to talk with me anymore and i have been asking him constantly about why he dont talk to me much anymore well last night he had called me after he got done working and he was over at his friends house and he friend ends up being a girl and there where three girls there to his one and i could he them all flirting with him and bugging him while he was on the phone with me and i confronted him about when he got home and he told me all he did was go over there and play cards and watch tv and he make the excuse up that he has lots of friends that are girls and when i asked him about why he went over there and he said to hang out and i told said that i felt kinda ditched that he would go over there when he promised me that he would talk to me and he didnt so we argued about it and i dont know what to do

Answer 1

hi!,
You are not over reacting, if i was in your shoes, i would probably do the same, but you have to right now be a bit patient and give him some time, during which you can convince him lovingly (not by arguing, by arguing, the point doesn't get across)

In maybe 1-2 weeks, you can make him cut his friends off and have a life with you, all this is very much possible if u do it with some amount of love and by getting the point across.

I am sure you can do it, take a walk by the beach, organize dinner in the house if he is too tired to go to the beach after work, make him feel you are the best thing that has happened to him.

You can do it, believe in that , i believe in you, so can you.

Hope i didn't get too personal, sorry if i did.

Answer 2

Im sorry but it sounds like your man is playing games with you! If he can make time for other "girl" friends he should make time with you. He could of asked you to come with him if it was just a "friend".

Don't fight with him, You are right... he is NOT being fair to you and the reason he didnt talk to you is cause he knows what he did was wrong!

Do NOT let him play you for a fool, MOVE ON! It is time to kick him to the CURB!!

Start spending time with your other friends and now is a good time to start making some new ones as well!!

If you let him get away with what he is doing he will just keep putting you to the side and cheating on you. Dont be a fool, you deserve better than that!! good luck!

Answer 3

Sounds like he needs a bit more flexibility than you're willing to give, and that this relationship isn't going to work.

It's not wrong for him to have a group of friends that includes females - but if he no longer spends any time with you or working on your relationship, you probably need to accept that it is coming to an end. Why can't you spend time with him when he is also with his friends - I'm sure if you met them you would realise they almost certainly pose very little threat to your relationship... your jealousy and demands are what is cause issues at the moment.

If he avoids you or refuses to see you, putting his friends first ALL of the time, you should speak to him face-to-face and see if you can get a straight answer out of him about your future.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Ok so he has no time to talk to u because he is so busy, but when he does have some free time he chooses to go over to some girls house??? I'm sorry but that is not a guy who is comitted to u. If he truly cared about u then u would have been the first on his list to spend time with. It doesnt sound like this guy is ready for any type of serious relationship. If you want something more than he seems willing to give, then unfortunately I think he is not the one for u.

Answer 5

Gal wake up aned smelll the roses. This isn't the guy for you. If you were his 'idol', you would know it. May I suggest you read Dr. Phil's book LOVE SMART. Obviously you have a low opinion of yourself and you need to work on that. He's showiing you what you can expect in the future. Bottom line, find someone else.
Hope this gets you on the right track.

Answer 6

If he didn't have time to talk because he was working..that's one thing...but he went over to hang out with a female friend..without you?! I'd be pissed too!

You say you have no time to talk to ME...YOUR GF...but you have time to sit, play cards with other girls..and YOU get mad at me for being upset?! That's probably how most of the fight went...right?! He could have spent SOME of this FREE time with you...watching tv...I'd be re-thinking this situation ...is the relationship REALLY what you hoped it would be?!

Answer 7

Hate to say it, but he is just not into you. When you care about someone and are in love, you want to spend as much time with them as possible. Maybe not talking to them, but at least in the same room.

So... if he feels the need to be in the company of other WOMEN, then no you are not over reacting. He is not 100% commited to you.

Answer 8

If you are bugging him constantly about not talking to you or spending time with you then it sounds like you are smothering him. My advice is to back off a little and give him some distance, if he's really into you then he'll come around.

Answer 9

The problem is that you appear to be totally insane. Seek medical advice and strong medication in an attempt to grasp reality. Trivialities such as relationships are the least of your concern and you should distance yourself from such thoughts whilst locked up in some form of psychiatric institution for a period of at least three months. I'm sure you'll be fine in a few years time - perhaps you could pass the time by learning how to apply punctuation to your prose.

Answer 10

dnt worry about this guy hes NOT worthit if he can spend time with other girls an not you hes not interested in u at all u can get better trust me, ''guys only tell you wat u wanna hear'' he sounds lyk a head f.u.c.k but if u really wanna kno if he lyks u an is interested in you dnt ring him an dnt contact him or nothing let him ring YOU an if he doesnt well then theres ur answer he doesnt really care about you he probly lies to you all the time, add me on msn if you wanna talk: [e-mail]