my parents ve spend a lot of money for my studies and they wanted me to be with them.but my cousin whom i love wanted me to be with him[he wana go abroad] what should i do.both of them are important for me.
2007-01-16 00:53:57 · 13 answers · asked by ashi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
AFTER MARRIAGE YOU SHOULD GO WITH YOUR HUSBAND.
2007-01-18 03:59:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hello dear, if your parents have even built a hospital for you then you seem to be from a high society with all luxuries. Will it be possible for your cousin/husband to keep you in the same status as you are enjoying with you parents? Is he highly qualified to earn a higher income abroad or is he wanting to go and then settle down. A bird in hand is worth 2 in a bush, take my advice I have been abroad for almost 8 years, but one should slog it out to make good bucks and it is not that easy for everybody. Tell your cousin/husband to qualify himself for a good job in this hospital itself so that both of you can take over the reins from your parents when time arises and do a good job locally. If need be you can go abroad for your honeymoon and then return. In this was you two can be together and also you can satisfy your parents wishes. If you want experienced hands in the hospital administration I can also lend my services to work for you and also support you both. Think about your happy future as your cousin cannot satisfy all your emotional desires if he is abroad as he will be tired and worn out by the time he returns home from his workplace. So decide properly and try to convice him, mail me if need be. Bye for now..
2007-01-17 06:56:40 · answer #2 · answered by Jus4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See, there is a subtle difference in the importance of different relationships when it comes to choose between the parents and the husband.
No doubt parents are important but the husband is more important in a woman's life.
SUGGESTED OPTIONS ARE:
1)You are not yet wedded to your cousin but you have to decide if you can sacrifice your love for the sake of being with your parents.
If so, that solves the problem and you can be with your parents and choose a partner who is willing to live with you along with your parents.
2)Ask your parents to pack up and ready to go abroad with you and your husband after your marriage to live peacefully all together.
3)Ask your cousin whom you are loving, to forget his dream of going abroad and settle down in India with you and your parents.
4) Considering your future, your parents must allow you to get married to your lover and lead the life most suited to you and your partner.
An element of sacrifice is due from all the three, namely your parents, your lover and yourself.
Wish you good luck.
2007-01-16 09:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by NQS 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a little confusing, is your cousin your husband? or is there a cousin, husband and family? Rule of thumb always go with the husband since you made the decision to marry him.
2007-01-16 09:38:03 · answer #4 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you going to marry your cousin? Wrong. No wonder your parents don't want you to stray away. If they are paying for your college, stay home and enjoy it. There are plenty of fish in the sea....maybe you should start by looking OUTSIDE of your family.
2007-01-16 08:57:44 · answer #5 · answered by question_everything 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is your cousin your husband? If so I would be with my parents. Something wrong here for sure.
2007-01-16 08:59:45 · answer #6 · answered by bette69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your parents had done their job as parents correctly htey raised you to be independent. If your cousin (not your first cousin I am assuming) and you are in love go with your cousin.
2007-01-16 08:57:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Till you get married listen to your parents.Once you are married be with your husband. Are you planning to marry your cousin..your blood relation. ? If then you listen to a Phyc. Doctor. You will be fine.
2007-01-16 22:54:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should first of all see whether ur huuby is dedicated towards ur parents & is he also equally responsible for them. would u be able to come to ur parents whenever they require u.
2007-01-16 09:17:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to whom u know first when u started growing who make you know urself.before ur parents who were you? think this all questions yourself then answer.u will get ur answer
2007-01-16 09:03:54 · answer #10 · answered by masti 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your husband or your cousin?
2007-01-16 08:57:18 · answer #11 · answered by Lovely 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋